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🚨Rant🚨 I feeling completely disconnected from my spouse and it's making me feel so alone right now. He doesn't even…

🚨Rant🚨

I feeling completely disconnected from my spouse and it's making me feel so alone right now. He doesn't even pretend to care about anything that I care about anymore and doesn't do anything to show me he cares. I get no physical or emotional attention from him and even just trying to ask him questions about what our plan is when the baby gets here in a week turns into an argument. I don't even want to be around him right now it just reminds me how alone I feel. I text him every morning and wish him a good day and encourage him at work but if I don't text him he literally won't talk to me all day until he gets home. Idk what to do I just want to cry.

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rawrgasaur

Valerie

@queenmother, maybe he needs a sticky note at work that says "be nice to my wife" to remind him😄 I have to remind my husband to do what you'd think would be simple things too because he has a hard time juggling things under pressure too 😰

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queenmother

queenmother

@rawrgasaur, I think it's a little bit of everything you said. I talked to him and he didn't really elaborate except to say was just super focused on work and providing for us and he didn't realize I was feeling that way and we would work on it. He's an amazing man but I get so frustrated that I have to remind him not to forget about me. I know it's growing pains and we will work through it.

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rawrgasaur

Valerie

Have you tried talking to him? I'm in the same boat as you pretty much, only 2 weeks further along, and I have my needy hormonal days. Idk what your husband is really thinking but it's possible that he's feeling like he's getting things together before the baby gets here and totally doesn't realize he's ignoring you in the process. Or maybe he's nervous and withdrawing because he's not sure he's ready (kinda too late for that lol). Bringing up the baby might be stirring up these feelings that he's not sure how to communicate or doesn't feel comfortable discussing. Men are usually discouraged from childhood from openly discussing or acknowledging their feelings so they typically aren't equipped to handle stress as well as the average woman, so it takes a more practical approach and less touchy-feely. I do feel you though. It's hard facing that especially when you feel like you're going into it alone.

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