Question. I just left my husband for cheating and now hes been harassing me. Hes threatening to come get our son. I dont care if he sees his son but I'm not comfortable with him leaving with him bc hes never taken care of him a day In his life and he might use him against me. Am I wrong for feeling this way??
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Lastnight I was talking to my father in laws girl friend about the situation with my husband. She told his dad about it and he texted rick😒. Well I asked him what he said to his dad and he said "nothing, I didn't want to make you look like a fool for telling me to leave"! Little does he know that his dad agreed with me that I was right to tell him to leave! He said that he appreciates me taking such good care if his son and grandbabies and I'm like a daughter to him and if I ever need him to wAtch the twins to get a nap or shower that he'd always be available to come help. That meant alot to me. But see Rick thinks his dad sided with him. That I was in the wrong. Um no lol his dad ALWAYS sides with me because he doesn't like the way his son is getting. Lazy. And not wanting to help me. He raised rick and his twin brother by himself and knows how hard it is. He gave up everything for his sons and now he's seeing how rick is being and is really upset about it. He said I should NEVER have to beg or even ask his son for help. He should see when I get overwhelmed and just do things for me so it's easier on me.... I really do appreciate his dad and him always trying to give me encouraging words I just wish his son could here those words too..
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Just so mad at my husband before we moved he promised he would put our son to bed at night and get him his bottle. Then promised that on the mornings he doesn't work or the ones he works later he would feed him breakfast so I can have my relax time before having him all day long. Then every morning he is here he says he's not going to get him breakfast because he doesn't want to and sits there telling me to go make and feed our son breakfast. Then every time I remind him of his promise he rolls his eyes and gets butt hurt like wtf. You promised me these things I didn't make you and it makes me mad when you don't want to honor your word and then demand that I do it instead of at least asking me if I could. I feed my son his breakfast and now I'm eating mine in the kitchen because I'm just so irritated.
Mommas who are separated from their childrens dad. If my sons father is to get our son every other Friday-Sunday, but then tells me halfway through the week he can't take him Friday until Saturday due to taking up an optional shift at work, can I legally tell him he either takes him Friday at his ordered time or doesn't get him? He's constantly cancelling whole weekends or taking our son a quarter of his ordered time. He also isn't following the meets on the order. Almost every Sunday he has him I get a message that he doesn't have a car so I have to get my son, or he tells me i have to run him out there. I'm already having cut hours at work and getting no child support from him since he's been continuously in and out of work.
katelyn·
Мама дочки-младенца
You have every right to feel that way
jenn.p.·
Make sure you have pics as proof that he’s cheating and don’t answer his calls that way you have proof he’s also harrasing you.. so when you go get a divorce everything will be on your side for him cheating and you having proof of it as well.. and tell the courts you do not feel safe with him having along time with your son he’s never taken care of him like he should and you fear for your sons life.. and with the text it’s also proof of that and if he does see him it will be supervised..
Cassie Hammond 💍💓👨👨👦·
He hasn’t taken care of him for the past 5 months without you being around. I went through this with William
Cassie Hammond 💍💓👨👨👦··
@jakjakattack, we need to come up with a plan lol
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
@jakjakattack I'm back in winnsboro I need to fix it lol
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crazy moms do do do do do 🦈 😂😂😂
Cassie Hammond 💍💓👨👨👦·
No! Don’t let him get him because there is no custody agreement and he doesn’t have to give him back!! Msg me
Olivia ·
No you’re not wrong at all. If you feel uneasy about it, go with your gut. Let him come over and see him but don’t let him take him until you two have a court ordered custody agreement. People DO use children against the other parent, it’s horrible but it happens and you’re doing the right thing by being cautions.
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
Thank you. I think he would do anything to make me stay with him
BMAMA·
Not at all! I have known so many parents who's exes suddenly changed and became unsafe. I know one who's wife took her kids and moved to Canada! I believe you can file a temporary custody order until you finalize your divorce. This way you have a paper trail. I did this with my ex and had my parents added as sole custodians with me due to his behavior. People can become very rash and irrational. When it comes to your children it is better to have a safe plan in action. I would also document anything he has put in writing. Do not take phone calls!
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
Ok. I have a bunch if texts
BMAMA··
that's good hun
Jana ·
I would not let him take him until there is paperwork. He could just not bring him back. But I would apply for child support (it's not being petty it's just to make sure he helps out. But visitation is a whole other case seprate from child support that he will have to pay for or you guys can agree upon and get it on paper.
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
Hes crazy. I hate this
Taylor Boudreaux·
Мама сына-младенца
I just dont trust him to take care of lane
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
@shaneengregory29 I wanted to be civil but might have too
Shaneen Gregory··
Мама троих детей
yes
jenn.p.··
why would you want to be civil with a man who cheated on you? And took your family away.. and one that has no respect for you and calls you a hoe and a bitch? All civil went out the door when he decided to stick his dick in someone else.. you need to be the bad guy now
Shaneen Gregory·
Мама троих детей
No u not wrong if u don't want him to take him don't let him
Rose ·
No, definitely not.
MassMomma16·
No and since there isn’t a custody agreement he can take him and not give him back. They will tell you to sort it out in court. Might as well get the process started!
MassMomma16··
@taymw11, seems he wants to do it the hard way if he’s harassing you. It will put guidelines in place and be the best for everybody. Really just prolonging the inevitable. He doesn’t get a say anymore anyway! Good luck!
Taylor Boudreaux··
Мама сына-младенца
thank you!
jenn.p.··
yep if you want your son in your life you better not give that baby to him without court papers and the court involved.. if you do then your gng to loose him and everything and he’s gng to start the process and take you for child support..
tae·
Nope, and if that’s how is ass wanna play it put his ass in child support, and he can have monitored visits with his cheating ass
Shaneen Gregory··
Мама троих детей
@taymw11 wht u mean
Shaneen Gregory··
Мама троих детей
@taymw11 is he still texting you
jenn.p.··
@taymw11, get him as mad as you can so he can send ugly messages and you have all that as proof just print them out..