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Kala Elise
Kala Elise
Мама четверых детей, беременна

Trying to think of anything that I should add before emailing this to my doctor.....

Trying to think of anything that I should add before emailing this to my doctor.....

My birth plan

Environment

- I prefer a private room in the hospital

- I would like to have subdued lighting if possible

- I would like to listen to music during labor

- I'd like to be able to get up and walk around

Companions

- I don’t want any students or other hospital staff in the room

- I only want my partner, doctors, nurses and midwives in the room

- I would like my partner or companion(s) to be with me during labor

- I would like my partner to count my contractions and log them in a journal

- My family and children can visit me in the hospital

Foetal monitoring

- I would like to avoid continuous (CTG) or internal monitoring

Photos & videos

- I would like to have a video shot during birth

- I would like to have a video shot during labor

- I would like to have pictures or videos taken during every stage of labor and birth

- I would like to have pictures taken after the birth

- I would like to have pictures taken during birth

- I would like to have pictures taken during labor

Induction

- I am ok to use different methods recommended by my doctor to induce labor

Pain relief

- If possible, I would like a mobile epidural (would be able to have some feelings in your legs and possibly walk)

- If possible, I would like to be offered Gas & Air

- If possible, I would like to use a T.E.N.S. machine

Tearing & episiotomy

- I have been practicing perineal massage to avoid an episiotomy

- I would like to avoid any episiotomy, unless it is an emergency

- I would like to have directions regarding when to push or not to push, so as to avoid tearing

- If necessary, I am ok with an episiotomy

During labour

- I don’t want any student midwives or doctors present during labor

- I would like to be able to move or walk around freely

- I would like to be free to eat and drink when I want to

- I would like to try various birthing positions

- I would like to use spontaneous bearing down and not forced pushing

- Please remind me to drink regularly and use the bathroom

Delivery

- I would like directions regarding when to push or not to push, so as to avoid tearing

- I would like to be free to decide my own position for labor

- I would like to push when I feel like doing it rather than being told when to push

- I would like to use a mirror to help motivate me to push the baby out

- In case of an assisted delivery, please use a vacuum extractor in favor of forceps

Birthing equipment

- I plan to use a labor ball

After delivery

- I'd like an undisturbed first hour (at least) immediately after birth!

- If possible, I do not want to be separated from my baby after delivery

- My partner will stay with our baby if there is an emergency

- Vernix caseosa- I don't want my child to be bathed after birth. He may be gently wiped down with a washcloth, but I want the vernix left on his skin!

- We would like to have skin-to-skin contact and time to bond with the baby as soon as possible after delivery

- We would like to pick up our baby and determine the sex ourselves

Umbilical cord

- I don’t want the umbilical cord to be cut immediately, but want to wait until it stops pulsating, so that the baby gets all the remaining cord blood

- I would like my partner to cut the umbilical cord

Feeding

- I would like to breastfeed my baby as soon as possible after birth

Other

- For my son's circumcision, I want the "Mogan" procedure done

- I want to speak to whomever will be physically doing my son's circumcision PRIOR to the procedure

- NO STUDENTS are to touch my son at any point in time

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@kissesz30, yes, as long as there's no medical reason why something can't be done

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luvndezanddj

Deshonda ShortsМама сына (1 год), беременна (25 нед.)

This girl got sooo mad at me when I said I don't want any students touching me or my baby. I need somebody that KNOWS what they're doing. I won't even let students draw my blood

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kissesz30

MoniqueМама двоих (2 года, 7 лет), ждёт третьего

Omg thank goodness it wasn't something more serious! Right now where I get my sonogram. A tech scans me first then ask if I mind if the student does it. That I'm fine with since it's nothing invasive but otherwise ❌❌❌ ... @kala_elise is your doctor willing to abide by all steps in your birth plan?

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@kissesz30, I had a student literally do stitches wrong (which made the healing process worse), then told me to come back in a week to have them removed, only to find out that they were disolvable stitches the entire time.

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kissesz30

MoniqueМама двоих (2 года, 7 лет), ждёт третьего

Seems as if you included everything! With my 2nd they had a student doing my epidural ... She just kept fucking up I had to tell them that's it!!! So this time around I made It clear NO STUDENTS!!! I completely understand where you're coming from with that and I was once a nursing student lol

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@soontobemomof4, I completely agree with you! Everything you said!!!...... There's an app called "Pregnancy++" and an option to customize a birth plan

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missing300user

missing300userМама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого

I'm completely against students in the room as well!!! I'm not there to put on a show for anyone, I'm there to make sure I bring my child into the World safely with those I love and mean around me. I like how you did this, I have no idea how to go about telling my doctor I have specific things I want him to be aware of as well as the nurses. 1 definitely not being annoyed by students or even asked, the asking is fucking annoying! & it's actually insulting to me. This is important to me, hell no! I don't want a bunch of people I don't even know experiencing it with me. Sorry. A little rant. Lol as you can tell I've had my moments with these people. @kala_elise

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@rmreed, 👏👏👏👏👏👌👍

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rmreed

RachelВ ожидании первенца

Haha I definitely will, who cares if there's somebody else.

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@rmreed, then let them watch your labor! I don't want any extra unnecessary people in my room

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rmreed

RachelВ ожидании первенца

As a student nurse, I don't quite understand that part. Of course its your labor..your decisions but we can not and will not do anything unless cleared through multiple people. Even if you just let them watch, its still an incredibly valuable time.

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kala_elise

Kala EliseМама четверых детей, беременна

@peanuts1mom, I had students with my first delivery and haven't allowed them since...

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peanuts1mom

BrittanyМама сына-младенца

you could very well be different but I never had the chance to talk with my doctor about a birth plan and I didn't want students in my room either but when the time came there were 3-4 in the room and honestly I didn't even notice. they actually helped me a lot holding my legs helping me lean forward while pushing and I used a mirror so one stood with the mirror making sure I could see at all times. and they didn't touch my baby at all. and also I had a pitocin drip for induction and they wouldn't let me eat anything just water and ice chips.

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My birth plan Environment - I prefer a private room in the hospital

My birth plan Environment - I prefer a private room in the hospital Companions - I only want my partner, doctors, nurses and midwives in the room - I would like my partner or companion(s) to be with me during labor Fetal monitoring - I would like the baby to be monitored using a Doppler - I would like to have continuous fetal monitoring Photos & videos - I would like to have a video shot after birth - I would like to have a video shot during birth - I would like to have a video shot during labor - I would like to have pictures or videos taken during every stage of labor and birth - I would like to have pictures taken after the birth - I would like to have pictures taken during birth - I would like to have pictures taken during labor Induction - If necessary, I am ok with my waters being broken to induce labor Pain relief - If possible, I would like an epidural Tearing & episiotomy - I would like to have directions regarding when to push or not to push, so as to avoid tearing During labor - I would like to be able to move or walk around freely - I would like to try various birthing positions Cesarean birth - Do not perform a hysterectomy, unless it is the only option to save my life - I would like my partner or companion to be with me if I have a cesarean birth - I would like the baby to be given to my partner immediately after delivery - If an emergency cesarean is required, I would like to stay awake Delivery - I would like directions regarding when to push or not to push, so as to avoid tearing After delivery - I do not want to be given any drugs to speed up the delivery of the placenta - If possible, I do not want to be separated from my baby after delivery - My partner will stay with our baby if there is an emergency - We would like to have skin-to-skin contact and time to bond with the baby as soon as possible after delivery Umbilical cord - I don’t want the umbilical cord to be cut immediately, but want to wait until it stops pulsating, so that the baby gets all the remaining cord blood Feeding - I would like to breastfeed my baby as soon as possible after birth - I would like to have some help the first time I breastfeed my baby

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