normally i do not post my problems ever or anywhere but I am having the worst day and need support. if you could please say a prayer for me and my little baby. Her daddy took me out today for mothers day with my mom and family and we had a good day it was perfect but then when we got home we got into the smallest of arguments and he went out to a bar and got hammered. back story: he has been clean from alcohol for almost a year now and two weeks before our little girl is due he decides this is the time to go out and get sloshed over something so small when he has a really good job interview this week. Well his big brother was at the bar and was getting annoyed with him and told him he needed to go home and take care of his wife and be there for his baby and my husband got mad and punched his brother in the face and then some guy trying to break it up. and then took off in his truck and is driving around wasted calling me over and over. His brother came to my house and told me what happened and that I needed to get baby's things and go to my mom's because he didn't want anything to happen if he were to come home. So I packed up all I could in my car which isn't very much because she is due in 2 weeks and has a lot of stuff and now I'm at my mom's. My husband has been calling me and has left 5 voicemails and I listened to them and he's saying horrible things saying I think I'm better than him and because of me he punched his brother and it's all my fault and I'm a bad mom and he's done with me and that he's driving around drunk and he's gonna go to jail because he doesn't care anymore and not to call him when I go into labor and I'm just another number on his list after this morning he woke me up with roses and a beautiful card saying how much he loved me and how much I have stepped up to be a good wife and mom I know a lot of it is the alcohol but still it hurts of all days... I am heartbroken because we have worked so hard on our marriage and with Christian counseling and book studies and he's going to throw it all away right before our little girl gets here. I'm terrified he's going to rip our house up in a drunken rage and my babies things will be destroyed or I'm gonna get a call in the morning that he's in jail for assaulting a cop or something. I am just praying and hoping a miracle happens because I refuse to let her be around any of that. but I wanted our family to be together and him to not miss her being born :'( im at a loss for words. alcohol has destroyed our family before and i refuse to go back to that., we just really need prayer right now I am so sick to my stomach and I'm going to miss more work when I was out all last week with back pain , I don't want to get fired because I need the insurance and to save money but i don't want to go into labor because I am so stressed out. and to top it off his dad who lives next door and who keeps him accountable, went away for 2 weeks and isn't here to help and his mom is scared and wants me to stay with my mom until baby is here. also my brother moved all of his stuff out of my mom's this morning because he was mad at her so she's having a rough day too. I just can't take this 😔😢
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You are so strong to be with an addict through his ups and downs. Sounds like he needs to revisit whatever it was that helped him get sober. AA.. Maybe a meeting? You need to protect yourself and your babies first and foremost and he needa to get himself clean and sober. He will absolutely regret missing the birth of his child. But don't take that burden on yourself now. Just keep yourself safe and happy and if you guys can work it out later, then that's great. But this is an addict falling off the wagon. You cannot let yourself be a casualty while you do your best to help him. Be strong mama!!
@butterly234 thank you girl. I really appreciate your advice
You don't have 2. That's years away...She will understand when she gets older. Don't beat yourself up over this all this crap is his doing and you don't have control over his actions.
@butterly234 I agree. it just makes me sad for her. I don't know if I could ever tell her that her daddy wasn't there
Well, that's a regret he is just going to have to live with. You cannot I repeat CANNOT feel bad about all of this. None of this is in your control.
@butterly234 I completely agree. I've texted him and he's not returning any texts so it's his fault if he misses his first baby's birth :(
Ok well sounds like he needs a "time out" I'm a bitch so what I would do is send him a "blank" text and either turn my phone off or block him for a bit. You don't need that negativity in your life right now and he needs to grow up a bit.
@butterly234 he's still being a jerk and cussing me and telling me everything is my fault. I feel like he doesn't care about us anymore :( thank you for asking
@beautifully_created thank you girl. I still can't sleep
awww man that's a lot to deal with. I'm praying for the most high to give you peace.
@jana.bear thank you for the reassurance. I have a doctor's note for all of last week. and I really hope they wouldn't fire me. I'm just over thinking things I guess. he's an alcoholic and has been for over 15 years and to him alcohol is like a drug which means he cannot have it. it's been almost a year sober and I was so proud of him. when he drinks he is mean and takes his problems out on people instead of dealing with them when he is sober. that is why I have a problem with him drinking. :(
They can't fire you for missing time while pregnant. They don't want a lawsuit I promise. I'm sorry this happened.
thank you girl. I needed to hear that more than anything.
Breath. It's a bad night not a bad life. Pregnancy is stressful on everyone. This doesn't mean he's going to turn into his old self. You need to breath and realize that God has all this and try and get some rest
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@ligermama thank you for your kind words! he just called me this morning and apologized and said he can't wait to meet his daughter and feels awful for the things he said under the influence. it definitely is hard being with an addict but I am one too I have been clean for over a year. I just drank but us drinking together made me drink more than I ever had before. He really is a good man with a good heart. he is just jekyll and Hyde sometimes. I know that is an underlying issue of the addiction but with prayer and trusting God that's the only way we'll make it