Rant..Kinda... Well I'm about 17 weeks 4 days pregnant and the only people I've told are my SO, my children and my sister. I honestly don't feel the need to tell anyone else, I'm not close with any of my family other then my sister. My mom texts me maybe once a month if that. And other members of my family I have cut out of my life for almost two years now due to drama, gossip and them bashing me to other family members behind my back and creating lots of tension. Honestly I feel I could go through my whole pregnancy without telling them, since I am on my 4th child I feel that I'd be judged and get rude/ negative comments from them anyways. Is it wrong of me to keep this to myself? Do I have to tell them? I know they won't be happy for me if I do tell them... I really don't know what to do. I guess I'm just looking for some advise here as to what I should do cause I don't really feel like I should have to share my pregnancy with them. Especially since I know they aren't going to be happy for me. None of them have really made an effort to try be apart of my life in months and none of them usually even bother to try contact me or ask about my children or how we are doing...
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my aunt has 6 kids.
don't care about what other people think.
the more kids the better.
if they deserved to know they'd already be involved enough at this point to know. do what you feel is right and everything else will fall into place! :)
Thanks for the support ladies :) i really appreciate it. Wasn't sure what to do for the longest time now I'm confident in my decision. @aggiee @kayla94
If you know they aren't going to be happy for you, they don't need to know! No one needs that negativity especially someone with a little blessing on the way. Surround yourself with happiness and support :)
no need to tell em.. you n baby don't need tha stress :) do what makes you happy :)
Family isn't always the ones that are blood related sadly but your heart will always guild you in the right direction :)
@beatleslover31 @hunterkw_ Thanks ladies, I feel in my heart I don't need to tell them. I am close with none of them and none of them make an effort to be apart of my life so I don't think I should have to tell them. I just thought that cause they are "family" I'm obligated to tell them. When really they don't even know what being a family is 😒
it's your news and you should only share it with whom you want to share it with!
I believe you should do what's best for your health and your family if you feel you don't need to tell them do to a negative effect dont tell them. Keep smiling and congrats ❤
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Locking your doors
We are having a discussion on one of my birth boards from my older kids about locking doors and security alarms. There are many of us (me included) who do not lock our doors at home (I actually don't even have a deadbolt on my house and we don't lock it when we leave either), and others who think that's totally weird. So what do you do? Do you lock your doors? Do you think it's weird that people don't?
Been thinking a lot how do I tell my family I dont want them at the birth of my daughter they all assume they will be there and havent had the energy to argue with them about it but I really just want me and my babys father. wish my family would understand that.
Took this lastnight...and I'm not sure how I should feel. I've made a terrible mistake by having sex so soon after having a baby but it has made such a precious thing. I really don't want to have an abortion but my Fiancé does. I understand why he wants to go that route but I just would feel absolutely terrible about doing that. I cried all night...I really don't know what to do. PLEASE NO JUDGING IM ONLY POSTING THIS FOR SUPPORT.
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
I haven't told my mom and I struggled with the decision as well. But family or not, if they aren't supportive and caring towards you - then forget it.