Oh Hell Noo!! One Time He Mess Up Take That Nigha To Child Support ASAP! That's Ode Corny For Any Dude No Matter How He Feels Towards The Female...You Can Do That And Never Use It Lol #ImTop5Petty

The last time I tried drinking, I was pregnant and didn't know it and my body rejected the alcohol hardcore. I spent a majority of my time blacked out and when I was awake I was so stupid drunk. I was constantly begging for my boyfriend to hold me and apologizing for being so stupid 😂😂 I even asked him to take my clothes off because I was so hot and I woke up in only my underwear and my best friend who is a girl was sleeping in a tiny ass chair beside me and my boyfriend was passed out beside me. They took care of me that night but I woke up with a big ass bump on my forehead apparently I headbutted a mini trampoline trying to get to my puke bowl 😂😂

@rockysmommy, lol the doctor said its cool to have one glass but I'm scared n I definitely not drinkin after this baby I gotta stay sober cuz I gotta feeling he gone be a handful n Imma need all my senses 😂😂😂

@kartia_diamond, well I don't have my daddy last name so I know how that feels but at one point he was denying my baby too it's a lot girl if u only knew half about all this it's a headache but I think Imma just give my baby both our last names n call it a day

I hate when my boyfriend drinks around me because I always want to too! His brother bought him beer once and brought me some "wine" but it was sparkling grape soda practically without alcohol I loved it but I wanted alcohol lol I don't think I'll drink much after my baby gets here though.

@rockysmommy, right! Ugh this is a lot! Lol times like this make me need a drink 😂😂😂

Oddly Enough, Try To Give Your BD The Chance To See If He Will Or Won't Be A Deadbeat, If So Put His Ass On Child Support And Leave His Broke Ass Alone And Still Give The Baby The Name. If He's A Great Father, And His Child Doesn't Have His Last Name How Would You Feel? The Name Doesn't Make A Person, The Situation Do.

Exactly you can't disappear whenever you want then come back trying to be good enough because in mamabears eyes you're definitely not good enough

@rockysmommy, EXACTLY!! I would hate to have to answer the questions I asked when I was a child to my mama. Only difference is my mama made my daddy that way because she was petty my Bd does it on his own n I always tell him don't wait till I have this baby to get in daddy duties it's starts before he's born like show me u gonna be there

@kartia_diamond, I feel u but me n his situation is not that great n he runs in and out of my life I don't want him to do that too my baby especially because we're having a son. I'm prepared to do it by myself I told him that but I want my baby to have both of his parents. Even tho we not together I love him to death but I don't want to make the decision of giving my baby a name he's going to be ashamed of because his dad not there. But I kno some petty negros too tho 😂😂

A baby needs a daddy not a sometimes daddy. 😔

@rockysmommy, lol yea I told that jackass that and he calmed down but i also told him make me feel like I'm not making the wrong decision by doing it. Because we not together n he flip flops outta my life all the time and I don't want that to happen to my baby. It already hurts my feelings that our baby coming into a situation that's not all that great

Plus Nighas Is Just As Petty As Females...I Know A Few Lol

Ok So Think About That Too, Wat If He Don't Sign Off The Strength You Don't Give The Baby His Last Name? Trust Me I Know Becuz I'm Not The BM Type Either, Having A Family Is Wat We All Look Forward To. But Sometimes We Gotta Take Wat We Are Givin, Put Our God And Our Child First And Leave The B.S Behind Us. We As Women Can Do Anything We Need To Do As A Mother Without A Man, Give Yourself That Confidence.

@aljf, thank you u helped a lot too

@kartia_diamond, shit I wouldn't pay for nun it would be all on my Bd dime lol

No problem lol and did you at least tell him you were going to after you asked him that? I feel like my boyfriend would've acted the same lol.

it took my first BD 4 years... and I feel you on the dad part, my father's decisions led him to be doing years in fed time, he still there with 5 to go! but I still rock that last name! ima be a Harbin till the day I die! I wish you the best and what ever you decide to do!

@babymay2016, girl yes I love mines to death too but girl if u only knew lol but thank u

@kartia_diamond, well u would get child support period off the strength he signed the birth certificate but I understand. I guess it's because me n him aren't together and that's what I was taught I feel like that but only time would tell

@kamiyahj, girl yes he was but its just frustrating if u only knew half

@rockysmommy, thank u! Like how tf did she think I was gone let that slide ?

Plus It Cost Money Just For A Name Change, I'm Not Spending Money On A Name Change Cuz I Feel Like Things Are Goin My Way All Of A Sudden...But Hey Wateva Floats Your Boat

I feel you 100% girl! I love my baby daddy, I really do. I wish that one day we would get married. But he is childish and is not around. We are not together. The chances of us ever getting married, are slim... but I would be willing to change mine and baby's name if it ever comes to that. If not my son will stay having my last name. Seems right that way. You should not have to feel bad at all for making that decision.

@twinscomingsoon, u was dismissed long time ago ma'am 🖕🏾

@babymay2016, well we are not together we are just cool friends right now but tbh he still has a lot of growing up to do so no marriage lol

Although My Fiancé And I Are Planning To Become Married(4 years) I Still Would Give My Son His Last Name...1. If I Was To Become A Single Mom I Can Receive Child Support No Problem 2. My Child Isn't The Reason Why We Should Marry, So They Don't Go Hand In Hand And My Child Would Still Receive His Last Name

@aljf, I understand what u saying lets just hope he does what ur first Bd did because I want so much for him to be in my baby life but I know what it feels like to be kept away from my dad and I don't want my baby too go thru that

@twinscomingsoon, you kinda started that unneeded drama by stating an opinion you knew might cause an argument.. Also just stating an opinion here lol

@anthonysmommie080116, lol just because you didn't like what I had to say doesn't mean it wasn't an opinion. More unneeded drama. Bye🖐🏻

Not wrong at all. My daughter won't have her dad's last name she will have mine and I'm on good terms with him. Like @babymay2016 said only gurantee is that you will be there. Forget him being mad he hasn't taken your feelings into consideration showing out and acting like a child throwing a fit because he can't get his way. No ma'am. If he gets his act together and proves himself he's more than welcome with your approval to pay to have it changed later on in life. Or your child can decide for himself if he wants his dad's last name when he's of age. Then he was disrespectful and insulted. Girl.

@babymay2016, see my situation is kinda the same my Bd is too flip floppy so that was my reason of telling him that. But thanks for understanding because obviously some ppl ain't understand wtf I was asking

@twinscomingsoon, it wasn't an opinion it was bullshit u can't exit my post tho

And on another hand if he does plan on marrying you, and you guys love each other, what is the harm of changing both your last name and baby's last name, later on when/if you get married!?

@anthonysmommie080116, & @babymay2016 I see what yall are saying, but then again my first BD wasn't shit and I still gave her his last name, he did a whole switcheroo on me and has became the man he's supposed to for her, makes me glad I gave her his name, plus that's part of who she is! the baby I'm preg with now will get her father's name as well even tho we got our issues, but yall are that baby's mama n your going to do what you feel is right, and I don't blame you..

@anthonysmommie080116, if you say so. Sorry I isn't follow the guidelines of your idea of an opinion. 👍🏻

In the end it is up to you. I also don't see a problem with you asking for opinions. In the beginning I had also planned on giving my baby his dads last name, and he did a complete 180 and is not around... then came back around... and is once again not around! You are allowed to change your mind or to think about it. I would even be okay with giving my baby his last name, if I could guarantee he will always be around... there is NO guarantee and he changes within a blink of an eye! If we ever get married then I will change it, if not my son will forever have my last name unless I get married way in the future and my husband and son decide we should all have the same last name. Until then I WILL have the same last name as my son. He is my son. I will always be there, no question about it. Just my decision. Not my fault his dad wants to be flaky as fuck.

@twinscomingsoon, no I asked if I was wrong. I ain't ask for the extra shit everybody gave an answer that went with what I asked u didn't.

@polkadotcutie, @supermommy31082 @fifimama @j.d-rose @babymay2016 thanks ladies y'all made some good points

@aljf, that's what he said too but I told him what @babymay2016 said to u. Like I am I suppose to give my baby his name n him not do anything and we are not together either. But idk it's something I still have to think about

@anthonysmommie080116, you asked for opinions. Maybe next time you shouldn't.

@twinscomingsoon, first off no I didn't create a problem if I did that's my business u don't know our situation for u to say what was needed thanks tho

@aljf, I totally thought the same, but then my baby's father decided to do NOTHING for my son. He is honestly a terrible excuse for a person right now. I want to give my son a name to be proud of and live up to, not a name of a father who does nothing for him and a family who won't ever even meet him (which they decided themselves)

Idk my opinion if that's his child it should carry his last name!

No you're not wrong. My fiancé and I are planning to get married before baby is born too. Although even before we got pregnant I had told him I wouldn't give my baby his last name unless we were married. He agreed.

cause my son definitely won't have his fathers last name because he definitely showed his true colors at week 12 so ✌✌✌✌✌✌✌ to him and his name I said thanks for the sperm lol

wow he called you project he rude and no your not wrong it's your choice and he needs to respect that if he gotta problem put a ring on it lol

I also had thought about giving my baby his fathers last name, but decided against it. Nothing wrong with changing your mind. He has shown his true colors and my son will have my last name. If we ever get married then sure I will change both our names and then there is no problem.

If u want u can do both

I don't think that is wrong at all. My son will have my last name. If my baby's father and I ever were to get married, then of course I would change my last name and also his last name, but for now he will have my last name. So much easier also to change your name and baby's name IF you get married, than it is to change babies name to yours if you decide not to. I am not gonna take the chance of my son having his stupid ass fathers last name FOREVER when chances are we won't ever get married.

Then why would you tell him that? That just seems mean if you were going to give his name anyway. Seems like you created a problem when it wasn't needed