JessTaylor G
jtaylorg
JessTaylor G·Мама дочки (1 год)

Ugh, need advice.

I’ve posted here before about my MIL and every response i’ve gotten was agreeing with me saying she’s toxic and shouldn’t be in my daughters life if she isn’t going to change.

Well, I basically told her that we need to sit down and discuss whatever issues are going on WITHOUT my daughter being present and get on the same level of respect for each other and then if she can be consistent then she can be in my daughters life. she said she agrees. She hasn’t reached out since asking to get together.

We have a first birthday party to go to on saturday and my bf told me his mom wasn’t going to be there. well turns out she will be there. I don’t want to go. She never reached out to get together and it’s not fair that she gets to see my daughter only because we end up in the same place at the same time. she didn’t even come to our daughters first birthday party. I know that if we go on saturday and she gets to see her, she will have no motivation to want to get together and discuss our issues and she will get to see our daughter even though she hasn’t seen her in about 6 months and doesn’t ever ask to see her.

I don’t want to go and I don’t want my daughter going.

Thoughts?

Комментарии

coffeebean
🌸GoodVibeTribe🌸·Мама троих детей

I honestly wouldn’t go and I’d explain that to whoever. My MIL used to be real good for this.. we cut her off because she’s toxic as hell and she would use family gatherings and parties as her way to weasel herself into their lives and spend time with them. And then would clarify she’s their grandma because we always use her name and no grandma because she’s a poor excuse for a mother let alone a grandmother abd I don’t want my kids associating a “grandparent” with someone like her because that’s not a real grandparent. It got to the point we wouldn’t go or we would come later to avoid her. And then she got so bad into her own shit she stopped coming around everyone herself so it helped us out and we go to everything now and avoid her. I can’t stand that woman. When she’s sober, she can be awesome.. but when she’s not, LOOK OUT.

Нравится Ответить
heatherlou88
Heather·Мама двоих (младенец)

I wouldn't go...

Нравится Ответить
jcheller07

I wouldn't go. I understand what you are going through. If she's toxic to the point where you don't want her to interact with your daughter then don't go to that party.

Нравится Ответить
Читайте также
Jessica Haefele
jessi37
Jessica Haefele ·Мама двоих (1 год, 18 лет)

TWW!!

2dpo and on the tww journey. Anyone on the same dpo or close? Haven't decided if I will test at 12dpo or just wait and see if she shows up!!

jessi37 No Christmas present for me, BFN, AF due today.. I'm sure she'll be here tomorrow or the
jessi37 CD 1 on to the next cycle....
jessi37 Well everyone has left the thread that I've had for month's. I've decided to go on a
Читать все 712 комментариев →
Christy Pfeiffer
thepfeiffwife
Christy Pfeiffer·Мама двоих (младенец)

I can't take it anymore! Haley (yes my 1mth old and no I wasn't able to go through this "joy" of nursing my older daughter, Molly) has been screaming non stop for 6hrs! All she wants to do is eat and I can't have her attached to me all day, everyday! She has wanted to eat every hr on the hr for the past 3hrs! I put her in her room so I don't scream at her but I just can't take it!

lillyb Good job giving ur self a break we all need them. See if maybe she will nurse
delete____ I have to commend you for stepping away, momma!! Everyone reacts to a child screaming differently and
imisssleep123456789 Ugh I remember those days. With both kids I decided to always top them off with formula.
Читать все 67 комментариев →
Courtnie
courtniek98x
Courtnie·Мама двоих (1 год, 5 лет), ждёт третьего

Girls am I wrong? I asked my SIL to be one of my birth partners but she hasn’t bothered to message or see us since unless we message first or go see her. Am I wrong in not wanting her there now?

vic22 I see my sister in law every few months if that due to her job. And we
courtniek98x @vic22, she doesn’t work and that’s the only time we speak is if we message her first
vic22 Ah 😑 I wouldnt bother then hun tbh im close with my fellas sister but i wouldn't
Читать все 37 комментариев →