I'm so tired of feeling sick and trying to do everything I can in this marriage. I just wish he would hurry up and leave…

There's shelters, hotels, rooms for rent, gov office that can help you or even place u and your daughter somewhere. There are resources out there. Hell...go to your local police station, someone will help. But continuing to let him blatantly disrespect & degrade you doesnt help! U might as well go with him to the girls house or tell him to bring her to yall house since hes so forward with it and ur allowing it. He knows u wont do anything so hes to continue to spit in ur face & walk over you. Id pack her bag, your bag and leave. I'd find somewhere to go before I let a man treat me like a dog. Youve gotta realize ur worth real fast.

Does this bitch know he has a pregnant wife and a daughter at home?? FUCK THIS, FUCK ALLLLLLL OF THIS!! This BOY could just keep his ass at that bitches house! I wouldn't care if I ended up having to go to a shelter. Those places have people SPECIFICALLY trained to help women in your situation, and much worse. They will help you find a job, education, housing...anything you'll need in the beginning. You just work hard, for your babies, and build off what they help you start. One step at a time, you'll realize how strong you are. I would NOT deal with this shit a SECOND longer! I wouldn't give a SHIT that I couldn't stay at the house, once he left for his little trip ALL his shit would be out in the yard for him to come home to! I'd take his absense as time to pack the necessities for me and my kiddo and get into a shelter AS FAR from his ass as possible. He can come home to all his shit outside, the house a damn mess and my ass GONE!! If he's THIS big of a pric, SO openly treating you like shit WHY fight for a DAMN thing?? He's going to do this as long as he thinks you aren't going to do anything about it. He's having his cake and getting to eat it too. Again....FUCK THIS, FUCK ALLLLLL OF THIS! I am PISSSSSSED TF OFF for you girl!

Why.... do you allow that to happen?

That’s cheating he’s cheating.

Wow this is heartbreaking you definitely dont need someone like that.

Girl your setting a example of how your daughter will think it’s okay to be treated by a man. A marriage isn’t always “fun” but that’s the thing about being married you made a commitment to be with one person for the rest of your life. You don’t get freebies cuz your “bored”. He is mentally abusing you especially into thinking this is your fault when I promise you it’s not. He’s a selfish, and he will only do to you what you allow him. Be done and mean it. Stop having sex with him, focus on your daughter and pregnancy and get the hell away from him. No person deserves this shit. Your better then this!

I'd pack his shit for him, gtfoh. Girl u deserve better. I got this. Be realistic dont do anything based of emotions be smart about it. Protect yourself and daughter

I hate to be that person, but I’m gonna say it because he sounds like scum anyway & he’s already disrespected you to the fullest. Not sure if it works like this everywhere, but you have his kids & live in that house right? If you call police & want him out.. they’ll force him to leave & stay gone until you go to court & get it in writing. Because you’re his wife & have his kids that’s how they do it. At least that’s how they do it here. It’s a dirty move, but what he’s doing is far worse & degrading. Therefore, you could keep your home until you found something else & more affordable. Or that would give you time to get assistance to get you a place. Welfare can help find a place & help you pay for it. My welfare office even offered me a job with my first when I needed help because I still lived at home & was by myself. But they would give me transportation to & from work, the job itself, housing, help with food & bills. There are options out there. You don’t need to stay with this piece of trash. He’s not worth you feeling this way. & the other female is even more disgusting because who would be comfortable being that woman? Females make me sick these days. Unless she doesn’t know what’s going on or that he has a wife & family, then you really can’t blame her.

#1 Leave for Sanity and Safety ! I was in a bad relationship from 16yrs~married at 18 and divorced his crazy controlling ass at 21 ! And got FULL Custody only had my 1 at son with him and waited 7yrs to have another child with a Better Man! Love yourself enough to get the F@-:& OUT , PEOPLE treat US How We ALLOW ! Save all the texts for a judge! How dare he go to some woman’s home for sex while you two are married and have children and are Pregnant! How dare he have sex with you while having another person on side @ you are pregnant (AIDS doesn’t care about feelings ) stay safe Every city has woman and children programs YOU won’t be alone they help with job placement,daycare and shelter ASAP ,,stay safe , ps I am 40 yrs now not judging you WE all put up with shit at times ,, HAVE you had enough yet , Your baby in your belly needs you less stress and your child needs their mommy not to cry

From what I've seen lately from you this man has SERIOUS issues. You're pregnant and hes playing with your emotions. He knows what hes doing and he seems to be proud of it and seeing what more he can get away with daily. He knows hes got you in a bad spot and making you feel like its your fault. Its not, for your mental health, your childs health and your unborn babies you have to either stick up to him and tell him how it is and see his reaction. If you can't say it to his face, Write a letter. He seems to have complete control over you. You can get in control by taking measures into your own hands. See if your town has a concerned citizens facebook page, join it and ask about the resources available. Dont be shy. Youre in real danger if this man can go sleep with someoje else and expect you to still have sex too while potentially spreading disease to your unborn baby, he doesnt care about you or your kids. Im sorry to say that mama but you and your babies can find a way out of this hell. Im sure your kids can feel the animosity and possibly see both of your reactions. You don't want to do harm to them or let them think that this is normal and it just be a cycle. Please just reach out into your community and they will help. I live in a small town and I've seen so many moms rescued from situations like this or worse and it all started with them just finally reaching out and seeking help.

And YES, your lawyer is full of shit.

Does this bitch know he has a pregnant wife and a daughter at home?? FUCK THIS, FUCK ALLLLLLL OF THIS!! This BOY could just keep his ass at that bitches house! I wouldn't care if I ended up having to go to a shelter. Those places have people SPECIFICALLY trained to help women in your situation, and much worse. They will help you find a job, education, housing...anything you'll need in the beginning. You just work hard, for your babies, and build off what they help you start. One step at a time, you'll realize how strong you are. I would NOT deal with this shit a SECOND longer! I wouldn't give a SHIT that I couldn't stay at the house, once he left for his little trip ALL his shit would be out in the yard for him to come home to! I'd take his absense as time to pack the necessities for me and my kiddo and get into a shelter AS FAR from his ass as possible. He can come home to all his shit outside, the house a damn mess and my ass GONE!! If he's THIS big of a pric, SO openly treating you like shit WHY fight for a DAMN thing?? He's going to do this as long as he thinks you aren't going to do anything about it. He's having his cake and getting to eat it too. Again....FUCK THIS, FUCK ALLLLLL OF THIS! I am PISSSSSSED TF OFF for you girl!

Your lawyer is full of shit. Antidepressants do not give right for more custody. If you haven’t tried to hurt your child then you’re fine. Cheating is grounds for divorce and alimony. So he will pay you since you don’t work. Keep looking for jobs and file for divorce on him. You need to stand up for yourself. If you can’t do it for yourself do it for your kids.

Does he know you've been talking to a lawyer? And you really should talk to another lawyer, that one sounds shitty...who says because you file first your going to lose custody you have proof of infidelity which is frowned upon.

I feel like he has his cake and can eat it to? I mean he has his side piece and a wife at home taking care of the house and his children and also having sex with him (which btw you should stop that) why would he file he has no reason to file for divorce?

There's shelters, hotels, rooms for rent, gov office that can help you or even place u and your daughter somewhere. There are resources out there. Hell...go to your local police station, someone will help. But continuing to let him blatantly disrespect & degrade you doesnt help! U might as well go with him to the girls house or tell him to bring her to yall house since hes so forward with it and ur allowing it. He knows u wont do anything so hes to continue to spit in ur face & walk over you. Id pack her bag, your bag and leave. I'd find somewhere to go before I let a man treat me like a dog. Youve gotta realize ur worth real fast.

While he’s gone. Why don’t you find a place to stay and put in some job applications? I’ve gone back and read your previous posts. I believe you can leave. It will be hard to start over but he’s really walking all over you and it’s not fair. You wouldn’t want someone doing this to your daughter. Figure out how to give your girls the best lives you can.

You’re joking right?

I couldn’t imagine my husband doing all that. Do you have any family members you can pack up and go stay with??? You can’t be afraid to leave him. You have to find other options for you and your babies.