Strippers.
How do you all feel about your SO/hubby going to the strip club? I honestly have jealousy issues and I dont approve of it for my SO, as he already doesn't like too go. But i feel like if he wants to see women stripping on poles, I can be his own personal stripper. Lol ? I am just curious to see what others feel and think!
And how is looking at other naked women respecting you? Allowing a man to disrespect you is not being cool it's being foolish. Why when the world already tempts him day and night would a woman allow her man to look at other women as candy and think he wouldn't desire a bite? For girls who say that "I trust him" this is just foolishness. Protect and take care of what is yours. Also, if he loves you, respects you and is committed to you this would not be on the table as even a possibility in his mind. He is going to be a father. A father to YOUR child. Hold him up to a higher moral standard for you and your baby.
That sort of thing has always bothered me. I know it shouldn't, and I trust him. I just have jealousy issues and body issues. I feel like if he sees another naked women he won't look at me the same way, like he will compare her perfect fake boobs to my saggy stretch mark covered giant nippled balls of fat haha
For my personally, I'm not okay with it. We've been to a burlesque show together, and that was fine because I was with him. But he knows how I feel about it, and he always says, he's seen strippers in his youth, and it wasn't all it was chopped up to be, he would much rather see me dancing naked than some stranger. Which in all too happy to oblige. Lol.
I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I fully trust him, but I just think those places are disgusting. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those flaming feminists but I just think it's disgusting that an industry like that exists! Sure, there's porn, I'm not a fan of that either...why? Because "jobs" like those are showing women that they'll be viewed as worthy by someone else if they take off their clothes and show their sexual side. I may have a daughter someday and I would NOT want her daddy teaching her that it's okay to drag her self-worth through the dirt and take her clothes off just to be valued by a dirty old man. Call me old fashioned? But we ladies have gone through way too much to earn the right to be paid equally to that of a man, among other things, and choosing that sort of job is wasting our efforts, so to speak. That's my take on it!
Hell no. So many people our in a relationship where they flirt with other people and do this and that. Like no that's not how God made love to be. Those place are just a bad energy filled with pervs, druggies, and alcoholics. I would feel so disrespected if my man would ever go or even ask me.
I told my husband when we got married (I was 22 weeks) he could have a stripper for his bachelor party if she was more pregnant than i was. I personally don't think he needs to be staring at women's bodies in that mentality. I don't do that with men and don't think my husband should get a free pass to do it with other women
If you are jealous then the answer is no. It's better he find a "healthier" way to "get off" if that's what he needs. A way that you approve of! If you don't approve of what he does and he does it, the relationship will not be good anymore.
Personally I don't mind if my hubby goes to a strip club. My reason is he never looks at girls other than me. He really does not look at anyone else. I'm pregnant now with only about a month or 2 to go, and I do not want birth control and he does not want to be on birth control either (I don't blame him, his is more invasive) so I told him no sex! So if he needs to get off well he already watches videos (I'm fine with that). But I personally could not go 10 years without sex. I could not go a month without it! (except while pregnant I have not wanted it at all). So I told him that if he needed a "boyfriend" I am fine with that. No women for him other than me! Teehee (my husband is bi and super super super loyal).
I have absolutely no issue with my husband going to a strip club. I'm from the south and strip clubs are really a place to hang out for both men and women. I've gone many times without him with just a group of my friends. In fact I recommended the strip club that he went to in my hometown the night before our wedding with his groomsman and frat brothers. They were all so impressed and had an awesome time. My husband also DJ's on the side and recently DJ'd some private gigs for some strippers outside of the club. I'm totally fine with that as well. Oh one last thing, strip clubs normally have the BEST food.
That wouldn't happen in my marriage. I tried being buddy buddy with exes and going to things like that and pointing out other women like they would do with their guy friends but that turned and slapped me in the face. None of those relationships lasted and I was completely taken for granted and they never saw it an issue when they did something disrespectful and wrong. So no. Never and I wouldn't expect him to ask me to go to sown thing like that
I used to work at one and I would say HELL NO! its not just dancing, I've seen so much stuff that I would leave him if he went to one. Bachelor parties are the WORST! They use it as a pass to get one last grope or more... I've only seen two guys in the entire time I've been at a club be faithful to their woman at home. Seriously. Gross
If he were to want too go, I'd go with him! But i wouldn't allow me to go with a group a friends cause men are sneaky and they'll probably be a little too touchy. Rather they say they will or won't. I want my SO to have eyes for me and ONLY me. If he is attracted to another female that works a strip club than there's no need to be with me.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
TWW!!
2dpo and on the tww journey. Anyone on the same dpo or close? Haven't decided if I will test at 12dpo or just wait and see if she shows up!!
No, absolutely not. He would not appreciate me doing it and I feel the same. I view it as going outside of your marriage for sexual gratification, which is not okay with either of us.