My daughter's first birthday party is this Sunday. We were just told yesterday that my husband's parents who live 9…

@mimixtmn your right. I won't let it ruin her day.

@samilou91, I totally get that but It would be a lie if i said I hadn’t cancelled last minute thinking I’d be ok. However I don’t know her or how she normally acts but myself I don’t tell anyone even my husband it’s really hard because i really want

To be able to push thru it. Don’t let it ruin your daughters bday for you, her parents will be there and that’s what really matters!

Well my husband has been staying there for a job. He never knew anything was wrong and she hasn't told her husband either. I'll be honest that I would probably be upset either way but with waiting at the last minute I think is what is upsetting me more. Because it's not the first time she has done something like this.

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I wouldn’t get upset she may really be suffering. I’ve been suffering from chronic pain for almost a year now and am still trying to be diagnosed and none of my family knows besides my so. I have good days and bad days the good days I feel totally normal bad days i will lock myself in a room and cry because the pain is so bad and I feel like an 80 year old woman and I’m not even 30. If they were making plans for other things while they were there I’m sure they had every intention of coming and she probably just really isn’t feeling up to it.

No my husband was at their house. In Arkansas we live in Illinois. He was there and asked them Thursday night if they wanted to ride up with him and he'd bring them home they said no.

If they were at your place a few days ago, why didn't they just stay for the party instead of driving 9 hours home to drive 9 hours back to you guys? I'm confused

Overreacting? No, you have a right and your reasons for feeling the way you do. A right to be angry? You have the right, but someone on the outside looking in might think you're taking it very personal. They also live 9 hours away, that's a pretty long trip, especially if they were at your place a few days ago and drove 9 hours home, might be rough to make another 9 hour drive. They aren't young, spring chickens anymore, lol

I can see being disappointed, but I wouldn't make a thing of it. Maybe her pain is flaring up and she was just debating if she could handle the drive or not.

I think she may have went about it wrong. Should have atleast let you know they were considering not coming. Maybe she was torn and decided last minute she couldn't do it.

@wolfe1134 I understand how that goes! haha

Oh my gosh I am so sorry I didn’t mean to post that I was helping the kiddos and feeding the puppy sorry momma

You can be angry but I would not get so worked up on it. It is their loss of time with their grandchild. It is best when they actually make and or imply some effort. Who wants to be forced to be grandparents? The ones that are not good ones.

Sounds like a bunch of bull. Sorry momma. It’s their loss. Enjoy your baby’s bday with the people who genuinely want to be there. Hugs!!