Having two kids close together isn’t a bad thing. Unless you already sucked with the first one so then you start to…

@sarasmilesatyou, one can only hope

@brianne, I guess that makes sense but it makes the whole situation even more crappy. 🙄 I’m sorry girl, good luck! I hope you get through to her and she stops being a free loader & actually disciplines her kids

@sarasmilesatyou, she doesn’t have a job. Hasn’t worked since she was pregnant with her oldest. I dunno, I guess she doesn’t kick her out cause she knows she will take the kids. She would never keep the kids away from their dad and grandmother. But she wouldn’t want her to take the kids to live somewhere else.

@brianne, why doesn’t the mom kick her out? She’s not contributing to anything. I mean does she even have a job? Like what is she doing to contribute? That’s not fair to any of you.

@sarasmilesatyou, we all live with the guys mom. Still trying to get up on our feet.

@brianne, omg that sounds disgusting! Why don’t you move out or kick her out?

@sarasmilesatyou, I told her no and reminded her I won’t do it again.

It’s sorta easy to avoid her. She stays in her room 24/7 doing nothing. 🙄 she doesn’t even wash her own sons bottles. And takes a week to do laundry cause she lets loads sit in the washer and dryer for hours and hours. Then gets mad when someone moves it to do one load. It’s ridiculous. And you should see our bathroom..... it’s disgusting. I keep all my and my kids shower and bath stuff in my room.

@brianne, yikes so I guess she’s unavoidable for now. That’s awful! If I were you I’d have just said “I’m not watching your son, I already established that. You take him.” And then I would’ve taken my son for a walk or gone somewhere so she knew you were serious

@sarasmilesatyou, I just avoid her at all cost. Yesterday she went to the store with the guys mom, and took her oldest. She asked me to watch her youngest (same age as my son) even though his dad was home. And I told her last time I had both babies that I won’t do it again. Both babies were losing their mind and his dad disappeared. My bf was in the shower so he couldn’t take our son. By the time he got out my son fell asleep.

@sarasmilesatyou, sorta, she’s my boyfriend’s brother’s girlfriend.

@brianne, omg I can’t stand oversensitive people like that! I was going to say maybe you should stop having play dates with her LOs but you live in the same house? Is it your SIL? I don’t blame you, that whole scenario seems really frustrating. Idk how you haven’t lost your mind on her yet. I know I would’ve.

@sarasmilesatyou, I’m getting close to losing my mind on her. I hate letting our kids play. We all live in the same house.

@sarasmilesatyou, I’ve been trying to for months since he started his bad behavior. I’ve tried in every nice way possible to try to tell her to start disciplining and to do things to help other issues too and she just takes it as me telling her she’s a bad mom or as me telling her how to parent her kids. She gets upset at everything.

@brianne, omg that’s awful! I understand why you’d be upset! I’d be livid if some other kid hit my son! Did you talk to his mother about it?

@sarasmilesatyou, he was continuously hitting my daughter and she kept telling him to stop. After 5 minutes of it (I had my son and couldn’t get to her in time) he pushed her and she pushed back. So everyone got mad at her for it (except me and her dad cause we knew). I told her she should have called for me or daddy before retaliation.

@brianne, oh yeah definitely! They need to learn that certain things are not right to do. Ugh he’s hitting people? Yeah he definitely needs to stop that. Because it’ll only get worse. I wish I could tell my baby to stop hitting me in the face 😂 but he’s just 5 months so I’ll just have to deal lol

@sarasmilesatyou, oh yes, 5 months is not when you start to discipline. But 16 months old? Yeah. I know all kids are different but that child knows damn well what he’s doing when he does it! And he doesn’t know not to hit cause he’s never told not to. 🙄

@brianne, sometimes I’m not sure. I try my best but I feel like I still suck. Omg that does sound crazy! My son is too young to be reprimanded but I know that it’s necessary to discipline kids when it’s appropriate.

@sarasmilesatyou, girl I’m sure you don’t. Lol. This one little boy is 16 months old and has an almost 4 month old brother. He runs WILD. He isn’t disciplined or reprimanded AT ALL and the whole house of people suffer. 🙄

I feel that. That’s why I’m trying to be careful and wait another 2-3 years or so before having another one. I feel like I suck now...😬

@takiahilk, I totally getting having the adjusting period. Every mother needs it no matter what. But some people just grind my gears.

It’s tiring at first but you adjust my eldest is 4 Baby boy is 3 and I’m pregnant with 3rd boy