Ladies I need help. My mans ex baby mama is trying to make his life a living hell. She was sleeping around on him and…

@mamabearof2, one of the kids is being taken away from her because she neglects the kids. He asked the judge for a dna and she told him it doesn’t matter!!

@arthuranna26, that’s not true at all. I live in pa and I signed my husband’s (boyfriend at the time) name on our daughters. His name being on the birth certificate makes him the legal father, dna or not. I’ve lived in pa my whole life and never had someone at the court house said “dna doesn’t matter” if he’s serious he needs to ask to speak to someone in charge. 🤷🏼‍♀️it’s simple. And if he comes out to be the father nothing will change so be prepared for that too, she will take him for everything he makes. Especially if it’s more than one kid.

@mamabearof2, he’s trying to get a dna test because the kids look nothing like him and his ex won’t give him a dna test because she wants his money. And he wasn’t there to even sign the paperwork for his name to be on there so it’s not his fault and he’s not making up excuses at all!! He’s trying to fix it and I looked up the laws in pa if you are not married you are not responsible for those kids until it’s proven they are his kids.

In many states, it is a law, “a man who's legally established to be a child's father is held responsible for his share of support.” INCLUDING HIS NAME BEING ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE. You do NOT have to be married to apply someone’s name to a birth certificate. LEGALLY he is particularly responsible for that child, because of his name being on the birth certificate. If he wants that changed, he needs a dna test. No excuses.

@arthuranna26, I have no idea. I Agree with@alejandra1x, he's going to need a good family lawyer.

@taylorsmommy1017, I well tell him

@taylorsmommy1017, I will tell him that

He’s always nice her new man attacking my man calling him names@taylorsmommy1017,

@taylorsmommy1017, I will have to find a family lawyer that won’t charge to much and see what we can do.

@taylorsmommy1017, she told him that she signed his man. When I had my son I was allowed to put my sons fathers name on the certificate but I didn’t because he was dead

@t143, they keep saying no it doesn’t

@arthuranna26, WTF! Yes it does! They never help the guy! He needs to go to a lawyer.

@t143, they won’t give him the paternity test they keep saying it doesn’t matter

He has to get in contact with the office of attorney general; state he needs a paternity test and she committed fraud by signing the birth certificate.

@taylorsmommy1017, she signed it for him

He called the judge and she said it doesn’t matter wtf pa laws fucking suck

@crystal.newman, I am gonna let him know because I think he should calm the judge and ask her for the dna test I don’t want him paying her anything until he knows those kids are his

He don’t need to be paying a ducking dime unless there’s A JUDGE SIGNED DOCUMENT THAT HE HAS TO

DONT LET HIM PAY CASH. Listen this is how it works right now. Just because he’s on the birth certificate don’t mean shit. Right now if he wasn’t married when the kiddos were born. She has sole custody and is the sole parent. Child support has not been court ordered therefore he don’t have to pay it. She has to take him to court. The only way they get joint custody is if he took a DNA at the time of the birth which he did not. Therefore let her take his ass to court because I know she won’t. Because if she’s wanting that much HAH. Bet she can’t afford a lawyer. I know I’ve been through the whole process. 2nd of all you income will not apply to child support it will only between him and her. You won’t be involved at all unless you’re married and even they still don’t take your income.

He is going to need a very good family lawyer.

@littleonemorning, she’s dirty and she keep acting like they are still together and tells him what to do it pisses me off and than she’s going around saying how he rapped her and hit her it’s all lies and it’s really posing me off

@missjess, well let’s say those kids aren’t his. Does her mother have to pay all that money back to him that he’s been giving her?

@arthuranna26, I would have already done that lol she clearly doesn’t want it and probably has it as an “excuse” to stop by.

He can get DNA test and they go off of his income he will have to bring his w2s it's 17% of whatever he makes at least here in NY and he can even ask to pay less and see she'll give him a break. But typically they can't take more than 17% I think maybe if it went to a trial it's possible they could take more but idk how that works it's also possible if it went to trial they could make him pay less then 17% too.

That’s what I’m trying to do but she won’t get her shit out of the house so I’m starting to put it outside and telling him to tell her to get it 🙌🏻🤷🏼‍♀️@littleonemorning,

@arthuranna26, I’m sorry. Just keep pushing for him to find out if they are his. It’s really his choice right now, but you guys have to start thinking about your baby.

I don’t want him giving her anything she’s a horrible mother he abuses her kids it’s disgusting @littleonemorning,

@arthuranna26, this whole thing sounds fishy. My gut feeling is she is guilt tripping him. Either way, he needs to know where or not those kids are his before everything that woman a dime. A court order DNA test can not be turned down.

@megan03, apparently they worked something out and she’s gonna drop the court thing and he has to pay her 159 every week and he’s also paying child support to her mother because of the daughter

He can get an paternity test thru the courts before anything child support is issued... if they do come back his he will have to pay whatever the test is (my brother was in the same boat ended up being his and he has to pay 300 for the test) also just cause they want 659 if your boyfriend doesn’t have it they will go off of his paychecks etc and they do take living arrangements the more your bf gets the children the better too (less he will have to pay)

I would recommend your boyfriend get an attorney it will make things so much easier.. make sure you guys are saving text messages receipts etc etc.. good luck hun! It’s an horrible process!

@aprilshowers.bring.mayflowers, thank you it’s been annoying and she’s losing her daughter and she wants him to go to court to fight with her but at the end she’s gonna lose anyways because she’s a horrible parent she’s been sleeping in a motel with her new man and she drops her son of at stranger homes so she can have sex it’s really a nasty

@imakemommymoves, I am going to when he gets home I will talk to him about it

@morgyporgypudninpie, that’s what I thought and it said if you weren’t married you have to have a dna to prove it

@aprilshowers.bring.mayflowers, I will tell him to fight it and get the dna test done id like to know who those kids belong to. She’s a dirty person she really is

@arthuranna26 tell the ppl in court he don't gotta tell her nothing ..tell them ur be wants to speak to judge he wants a DNA test because he doesn't know if kids are his and he has 2 other little kids that he needs to attend to as well

@littleonemorning, the child support lady said it didn’t matter and his ex keeps saying she won’t do it

@imakemommymoves, she’s been holding it back from him he’s asked several times and she keeps saying no

@arthuranna26, the lady or his ex said it didn’t matter that he got a court ordered DNA test? Tell him to fight it, until he knows those kids are 100% his, he shouldn’t have to pay a dime?

@morgyporgypudninpie, he asked and the child support lady said it didn’t matter but I think he needs to go to court and get one

If court ask for the DNA she can not deny it she has to get that done for the kids.

@littleonemorning, he did and the lady said it doesn’t matter so I told him that he needs to tell them that he wasn’t even there when the kids where born and he never signed the birth certificate! It’s all been so stressful and some of her shit is still here and she won’t get it and I need the rooms for my son and the new born

He can get a DNA by court

He can get the court to order a paternity test.

He can get a court ordered DNA test. I would still request that especially if she is asking for child support.