Let’s put it this way my partner will only do something if I ask him to and I have to persist with it and then eventually he might get around to doing it lol. But most times he forgets to do it and I have to do it, and if he does do something he does it half done and says he will finish it later lol later never comes. So to some this up I do everything lol x

My partner doesn't do much. I also went on strike and nothing got done at all. In the end I've ended up moving in with my mum for 3 months. I stay there 3 days a week and he has his daughter one night too so he can learn all the shit I have to do. He works part time so when he's at work I don't mind trying to do everything but when he's at home doing nothing I can't help but get extremely angry. Especially being sleep deprived when he had never done a night feed until moving into my mums and making him have her over night without me there x

It is equal, but yes i have to ask or it have to be miserable, so he moves it to clean

@sara-lou86 that's the thing I'm so far from a goddess it's untrue lol but when you're forced to do it you get it done you know. He's had days on the weekend where he's been with our daughter and he's found it hard he's asked me to come home from whatever I'm doing but it's like after that he forgets and he's back to thinking I have a laid back easy time at home which I don't get. Maybe I need to put my foot down a bit more about it I guess

I'm hardly a domesticated goddess & he knew that when he met me 😂 I say it how it is & I won't put up with certain things. As a SAHM I didn't mind doing the majority, however if I had a bad day or night then hell yes I expected his help. Even my husband makes comments now & then when I've had a day with the boys 'Oh you've been busy then' (sarcastically). Give him the boys for a few hours, he's knackered. As would your partner I'm sure. So they know it's not always easy!

@sara-lou86 that's really good. I wish my oh was more like that. He has this attitude that I'm at home so I have it easy. And no matter how many times I say it's not like that it doesn't sink in. Maybe if I keep persevering it'll get better

Yeh he can't use the excuse 'because I work and your at home all day'. Although when I was a SAHM for a while I made it quite clear I wasn't his maid. He's quite domesticated though and likes to cook so he's handy around the house lol

@sara-lou86 that's really good. I guess because you both work there isn't the whole well you're at home so you do it aspect it's pretty even, That's nice. You've given me some hope lol

I think we split it pretty evenly. We both work so I would expect as much. There's certain things that I tend to do and others that he usually does. When I wasn't working obviously I did the majority but he still did washing/drying up. Helped with the laundry and few other bits.

@sarahlucindagiddins at least that I guess lol my partner will cook on some Fridays which is good aswell as he's learning. But other than that I'm surprised he doesn't get me to brush his teeth 😂 x @chesscalouise2 there seems to be a thing about the bin haha @jodiec I'm not surprised tbh hun lol I think they are programmed that way x

Omg he does not a thing!!!! C

@mum2sky my partner doesnt do any unless I asked 4/5 times a week I'll ask him to do the sterilizing but thats about all he does once in a while I'll get him to change the bed although he does change the bin everyday😂

@mum2sky, exactly but it would be nice to have some help now and then but I just think it’s not worth the hassle. Literally let’s say I want him to put a wash on the Monday I’ll keep telling him to do it, he says later over and over again and before you know it it’s Friday and still not done lol but I will give you one thing he is a really good cook so he cooks now and then so I think that’s his way of contributing to chores in his head x

@beffgoude, omg yes and he will have a go at me pretending he was going to do it but we both know he had no intention to do it and was waiting for me to cave and do it myself 😂 x

@sarahlucindagiddins that's true. And I know when I do it it'll be done properly not half done lol x

@mum2sky, don’t worry hun your not alone I think it’s a men thing, I’ve kind of come to the terms of if I want something done I’ll just do it myself that way I know it’s done and I’m not having to nag my partner to do it 😂 x

@kshelley that's why I had to make the post because I was slowly losing it on the inside lol oh he's taking the Mick and my partner's done that before aswell he tries to make out like he cleans more than me 🤔 we all need to go on strike I'm telling you. Just do the bare minimum and see what they do x

Mine does nothing, he had the cheek to say to me yesterday "do you think you can wash up today please?" as though I never wash up. I just hadn't done the dishes the previous day as was too exhausted... According to him, our house has to look perfect but he is reluctant to lift a finger ( he works part time so no excuses).. Lol @mum2sky do not get me started on this topic as it makes my blood boil. X

@lauren1996 argh I hate that lol Fair enough whilst they're at work we watch the kids that's a given but everything else no. If they didn't eat and didn't get sweaty and make mess then fine don't clean but they do and I'm sure more than us women so they need to pull their weight. Annoys me lol x

I do it all! The only thing he does is his job! And maybe cook! I do the laundry I wash the dishes and clean and watch the baby! He feels he has his job and I have mine haha! X

@beffgoude I have 😴 and again it sinks in for a day or 2 lol but I'm going on strike so let's see if that's the special answer haha I'll let you know how it goes 🤞

@mum2sky yeh it was hard at the time, but I'm always grateful for that life experience now.

And well good luck! 👌 and if you find the answer please tell me haha!

I think it's good that she'l see 50/50 on pulling the weight though, maybe sit and explain that too him? Even if it's like little things he washes the pots after you cook etc, so your not doing everything!

@beffgoude Amen sister. The same with Simon. He learnt to cook just about at uni but nothing special. Oh hun I'm sorry but it seems to have made you an independent woman and your children will grow up knowing what's what. I'm trying to get him to change so that our daughter doesn't see what he does as a given for all men if that makes sense. I always said I didn't want to be like my parents because my dad never did shit so I'm determined to get him to pull his weight x

@sarahlucindagiddins my life! I bet the min you go to finish his job he say 'i was about to do that' 😂

@mum2sky sounds like Aaron's mum that too, i swear it's down to upbringing with men haha, his mum did everything for him aswell, still does. Where as at 15-16 my mum had left with my sister's and I was keeping house for my dad and literally fended for myself since then. He didn't know how to cook from scratch or anything when I met Aaron, it's like having two kids sometimes 😂

So im determined my kids won't be like that! 👌

@sarahlucindagiddins that made me laugh lol it sounds like my life. So the moral of the story is about 90% of us do everything and if they do do something it's from persistent nagging 😂 at least I know I'm not alone x

Let’s put it this way my partner will only do something if I ask him to and I have to persist with it and then eventually he might get around to doing it lol. But most times he forgets to do it and I have to do it, and if he does do something he does it half done and says he will finish it later lol later never comes. So to some this up I do everything lol x

@beffgoude argh same here. Oh is a proper mum's boy. Even when we go over she takes his plate and everything when he's done he doesn't have to lift a finger I think that's why he's like this. At uni he was forced to fend for himself but now I'm here he sees me as mummy and hardly does anything :( and that's so cute lol because Brody has a great mum like you to show him how to do it 😍 x

@natalie.louise89 woah that's a long time congrats I've been with my oh for nearly 2 years and I'm so tired of him already haha he's so lazy sometimes. I think it's because they are so certain we won't leave them so they continue...assholes x

@bonnieb that's really good. At least if he complains he still does it. I've spoken to him so many times about it and still nothing sticks unfortunately lol but I'll keep trying. Hopefully it'll sink in one of these days. I've currently gone on a strike so this week I haven't washed his clothes so I want to see if he clocks and does it himself 😂 x

erm non existent haha, only job he does is take the bins out and that's because I physically can't do it right now. If he puts his clothes in the wash basket I'm happy atm​. I blame his mother, she did everything for him! Brody actually helps out more than Aaron haha 😂

@mum2sky i call him a work in progress 🤣 nearly 4 year we've been together too haha! I've told him he'll need to help me or he's getting a kick up the arse lol I won't be putting up with it 😁, what I don't get is they know they take us for granted but carry on anyway 🤔 like talking to a brick wall! x

@natalie.louise89 omg my partner said the same to me the other day. I take you for granted babe and it'll change for a day and then it's back to usual again lol it doesn't get better once you have kids I can tell you that 😂😂 especially when you have the babies washing and changing and feeding to do Its just so much. Hopefully something falls into place you've still got time to tweek him haha x

not alot to be honest I could count on my hands the amount of times he's done the dishes, washing, hoovered etc.. it's a pisstake! he's told me before he takes me for granted but nothing changes lol, he does sometimes make tea I'll give him that 🤣 men think their only job is going to work and nothing else! x

@bonnieb thats really good. Does he work? I'm the same. His argument is he works so he's tired but I'm tired too. I literally do everything and it's got to the point where I can't keep up uno. I might have a chat with him tonight again and see if he will take on stuff like his own washing and stuff x