I really need some advice/ a place to vent. I'm sorry for the length of this, but here it goes.
So, during our relationship, I caught my bf talking to other girls. Like the whole time. And everytime he got caught, he would apologize and it would be good for a week or two. This happened for two years. And I kept forgiving and trying to trust him. Well, there was/is this one girl that he WOULDNT stop talking to a couple months back. He cheated on me with this girl. He says only twice. But I think more. Anyways, he would tell her that he wasn't going to be talking to her anymore and disrespecting me with her. Like, he humiliated, embarrassed, made fun of me with her, and disrespected me with her continually. Anyways, after he would tell her this, he would block her on everything. But then I would find out that he was still talking to her because he unblocked her number. Eventually he blocked her number and kept it that way. We broke up about a week and a half ago because I found out that he unblocked her of instagram and we had a huge fight and he ended it. But, it was on good terms. We were trying to keep things good between us for the sake of our son. But I told him, for us to be on good terms that she needed to be out of the picture. So he blocked her again. Well, he unblocked this girl yesterday. And I just cannot be a part of his life like that if she is in the picture. He betrayed me with this girl. And I thought he had enough respect for me to do this. Anyways, I guess what I'm asking is am I wrong for asking this of him? I'd never keep him away from his son because he is a great father if nothing else. But I just have to distance myself from him if she is in his life. Am I wrong? Please, I just need some unbiased opinions and advice
@ingridm89, it was really him that called the final shot on us
you remind me of myself. i'm going through something similar. I'm getting ready to leave my partner because it's too much. We don't have sex and he's always talking to other girls. He's a great dad, but as a partner 👎🏻.
How did you get the courage to leave him? I mean i want to try and give it until our son turns a year to see if he'll change but little by little i'm losing hope.
I understand. Some guys are great fathers but awful men/SOs and some are great men and awful fathers...
@hazelnautumnsmomma125, that's exactly what my thinking is. I mean, I would never keep him away from our son no matter how much he hurts me because he really is a great father
I'm not trying to make it sound like it'll be easy but I feel like with what you said he's just gonna end up hurting you again if you get close to him..
@berrongc honestly...i wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him.. But with how he is he's gonna do what ever he wants and either lie to you or just tell you he's gonna.. Maybe just coparent but stay at a distance like don't try to be good friends just get along enough to let your son have him in his life?..
@hazelnautumnsmomma125, that's really where I am at this point. Like do I trust him even if he says he will?
I wouldn't have stayed as long as you did.. But I see it both ways now that y'all are not together. Part of me thinks well he's single he can do what he wants but the other part thinks that he should show some respect since y'all coparent and because of what has happened in yalls past with her but looking at how he is, even if he tells you she's blocked and out of his life I wouldn't believe/trust him..
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Science!
My friend posted this on facebook last night and said her kids were asleep within minutes. It's a song that scientists created to help people fall asleep. I was skeptical but I thought what the hay, I'll try it out. I didn't bank on Dh falling asleep, but both him and lo were asleep by minute 2. And lo slept six straight hours. ?

My sweet baby girl gained her angel wings this morning. She was my best friend, my true love my everything. She was so happy and beautiful, I'm struggling to say good bye. Sleep tight princess, mummy and daddy love you very very much ❤️
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So today I went in for my routine bloodwork and ultrasound, and found out that I have three follicles at 17mm! Plus another two at 15mm. When leaving the clinic my FS said to take another dose of gonal-f and come back tomorrow to check to see how big they got and that we would do the iui on Wednesday. Well, after getting home, taking my gonal-f and going out to shovel snow (lol) I get a call saying that I am SURGING!!! I haven't ovulated on my own, or even come close to it in years...
Girl, let that man go. Let him see the grass isn't greener on the other side.