I need some advice ladies. Through these two years of living with my fiancé, I've never stopped coming across things…
I need some advice ladies.
Through these two years of living with my fiancé, I've never stopped coming across things that belonged to his ex wife. They were only married about 4 months and dated for 9 months. So they relationship was rocky and short. We have a 6 month old, just want to add. A few times when I've come across her things, I've said something and he immediately throws it away. He apologizes and says he didn't know there were there. Tonight while cleaning the laundry room I came across some bags filled with papers so I decided to go through them. I found karinas [ EX WIFE ] stuff. Like birthday cards, insurance papers and along we're a few notes from my husband to her and how much he loved her. One said
"my angel, remember when you were little and you were excited that Christmas was the next day and you looked forward to it? That's how I feel with you everyday. I love you karina"
Reading this breaks my Heart because doesn't do that for me. He does bring me flowers, tells me he loves me. Randomly texts me through the day and says I love you. Stares at me while I'm doing something. But why isn't he with me like he was with his ex? He married right way. We're engaged and he says we'll get married when we have money because he wants a big wedding. And he's never had one although he's been married twice before.
If it matters I am 21 and he is 34.
Allie·
Girl trust me. You don't want him doing things he used to do with his ex for you. It's like if he'll be reliving that relationship all over again.
savannah·
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You can't focus on the past, as much as it bothers you to find her stuff, they're not together for a good reason, I'm sure. And the fact he's with you now and wants to have a big wedding could most likely mean he wants to do things right with you and not rush! It's hard to not compare her and their relationship but all it will do is make you feel insecure nothing good can come from it, so just focus on what you two share now and make it special. If you feel like you want him to be more affectionate maybe try talking to him aboutnit, but I'm sure he loves you and is def in love with you if you're engaged 💕