Keep the baby or Abortion....... I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was not planned, told my family and there over the moon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we said we would be together no matter what. We both live with our parents and I'm in full-time work and he isn't. I've always wanted to be a mum it's one of my dreams, but my boyfriend thinks we should have an abortion because he thinks we are not ready, he doesn't have a full-time job and we are not living together. I don't believe in abortions and he said he would stay with me if I decide to keep it. But I scared he might leave. Should I keep the baby that I've always wanted and might not ever have one or have in abortion, know I have to live with the pain for the rest of my life and what till we are both ready? Please HELP :-(
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
so I need some advice, I'm currently pregnant from a man who is married with a ten year old. he says he married her because they were young and how he was raised that if you get someone pregnant you have to buckle down and be a man. now that I'm pregnant he says my child has to be a secret. no family from his side and none from myself because I have no family. I feel like my child is coming into this world like a burden from him. and I have no respect from my kids father . even worse he sleeps over his wife's house more that I'm pregnant and I got us our own place than when we were crashing on his ex girls house. I just feel like my child is getting the shit end of the stick and as a mother I feel like a piece of shit. I don't know what to do he doesn't treat me right. lives of off my minimum wage job. I have mental problems so people leaving my life causes long term trauma. so I don't know what I'd do if he weren't around . but he's not a positive influence and I'm expecting my first child.
Please tell me how to even go about reacting to this shit. My SO was in the shower and one of his friends was leaving somewhere with his gf or whatever she is. Colby asked if she had big boobs in part of the conversation and if he had a picture and he'd swap a pic of me and my big belly for that. He said no but he had a bikini pic. At first I thought he's probably joking because he knows I'm sitting right outside this damn door. Then the friend actually goes to show him the picture and he goes that ain't too bad.. THE F YOU WANNA LOOK AG ANOTHER FEMALE HALF NAKED FOR?! I'm fucking livid I'm sorry. I haven't even said anything bc I don't know how to not completely go off right now.
I'M being irrational?! ??? The father of my child (I'm 18 weeks pregnant) says I'm being irrational because I won't get an abortion. I'm almost 5 months and he's still trying to convince me to get one! What the f*ck?! He decided two weeks after I told him that he wants nothing to do with me or baby. I tried for maybe two weeks after that to speak to him but he kept treating me like sh*t so I stopped. I haven't done anything or tried talking to him since and he' avoided me at all costs up until a few days ago. He sent me a text asking if we can talk. I said ok and the first words out of his mouth as I walked up to him were, "I'm never gonna see the baby or be there for him. You know that right?" I was like wtf? "That's what you wanted to tell me? You kinda made that pretty clear already." He then proceeded to say he thought that by acting like a jerk I would have had an abortion. And how can I bring a child into the world that won't have a dad. And it looks horrible in his culture. How can I do that to him? What if he looks for him later? And how is he gonna feel knowing he has a child out there somewhere that's his? I told him that's not my problem and it's his guilt to carry because I'm having my baby boy. If he changes his mind and wants to see him he knows how to contact me as I would never try to keep him away from his child. It's up to him. Starting asking me if my friends are "egging me on." Lol. Um...I have a mind of my own. I told him I'm not like him. His family and friends are putting sh*t in his head. They all hate that I'm pregnant. They hated that he was with me to begin with. He used to say he didn't care what anyone said. But now I see he's just like them. I made it clear I want nothing from him. He saw that he couldn't convince me and started saying I'm being sooo irrational. Really?? I'M being irrational because I don't want to kill my baby?? My God...the ignorance is strong with this one.
Virginia·
that's right you go mommy
Brandi Sapia·
@ashante_12, @babymama26 @kaileenicole16 thanks ladies I needed that , I appreciate it deeply! Everyday I'm making progress making a promise to better myself and my situations to be the best I can be to my child!❤️ God has blessed me and I'm gonna rejoice and be happy with this blessing❗️💪🏼🙌🏽
Virginia·
be encouraged you are a great mom already, do what you need to do for your unborn child , men come and go but once that child gets here he or she will love you no matter what and will stick by you through thick and thin.
Kailee·
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Exactly💖 it you ever wanna talk you can always message me hun💜😊 your child will see one day everything you did because you love them🌼
Vanessa·
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you go girl!! forget him its not easy trust me I know but that baby is yours to love !! screw him it'll get better hun
lil_bigmama·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (39 нед.)
I'm so proud of you for standing up to what u feel is best u never know what God has in store u might get blessed like I did god send u a man that will love u & ur child as much as possible
Brandi Sapia·
@kaileenicole16, thanks darling , it's so hard right now but my child shouldn't have to suffer because he wants to be a deadbeat my child is innocent and will not suffer for his poor actions my only priority is to be the absolute best to my child and that's exactly what I'm gonna do❤️
Kailee·
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that's amazing💜 you're an amazing mother already😊 keep your head up!