Keep the baby or Abortion.......
I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was not planned, told my family and there over the moon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we said we would be together no matter what. We both live with our parents and I'm in full-time work and he isn't. I've always wanted to be a mum it's one of my dreams, but my boyfriend thinks we should have an abortion because he thinks we are not ready, he doesn't have a full-time job and we are not living together. I don't believe in abortions and he said he would stay with me if I decide to keep it. But I scared he might leave. Should I keep the baby that I've always wanted and might not ever have one or have in abortion, know I have to live with the pain for the rest of my life and what till we are both ready? Please HELP :-(
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I went through the same thing. my biggest deciding factor was that "what if". I would go my whole life wondering what could have been. some women can have one (or many, unfortunately) & not think twice about it. you know yourself best to determine how you will handle it emotionally. I knew I could never forget nor forgive myself if I had, but everyone is different. good luck in your decision. I know its a hard one!
Please don't have an abortion!! Youd be doing it for the wrong reasons!!!! I found out a couple of days after Xmas I was pregnant! Very much unplanned! At first my partner wanted me to "get rid of it" but we came to the decision that if I had an abortion it would be for the wrong reasons as I deep down like you wanted to keep it. I was scared he'd leave me after I made the decision but he hasn left my side! He's even started looking at a few baby bits! Like you said you'd regret it and have to live with it!! Definately does not sound like the right decision for you. Stay strong and good luck hun x x
Don't get an abortion. If you are doubting being a parent adoption is key. Every baby deserves a chance!
If your boyfriend does not want the baby fine you can do it on your own. I am and I am doing just fine. I also live with my parents and they help a lot. I would rather be living here with them than with my sons "sperm donor". If your happy with the baby then you will do fine. If your having second thoughts, there are PLENTY of people married or single who can not have children and who want a baby.
keep the baby! I struggled with this decission.to me and my bf were going to split upand ive ALWAYS been against abortion and I decided to have one Bc I ddnt. want his child but when it came down to it I couldn't do it I knew I couldn't live with myself if I did I'm now 11 weeks getting a baby bump now and I love my unborn child soo much already its unbelievable if.you have been against abortion don't do it it will haunt you forever
If you have a good family support system, that's a strong plus. If I had waited in my life for things to be 100% ideal for having kids, I would have pushed it off for forever. It's never 100% perfect. When I had my dd, everything fell into place, though. It involved life changes, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
Congratulations on your decision to keep your baby. It's an amazing experience.
keep it i had my first child when i was 19 with my highschool sweetheart neither one of us had jobs our relationship ended but he still takes care of our son he n i have matured so much and have no problem finacially or emotionally supporting him. my son is the best thing that ever happened to me. and you will totally regret an abortion i dont believe you should have the right to kill a baby because youre not ready and expect one later. if you want to be a mom is there really any question to ask.
U should really think about" what u want " If u want this baby then keep it. Don't let this so called boyfriend of yours make decisions for u cause in the end u r the one who will have to deal with the decision that was made. So make sure it's ur decision . My personal opinion is if he really cared about u he wouldnt ask u to do this just usually when a woman has an abortion 9 times out of 10 they end up regretting it.
Keep it... If bf Ends up leaving u that just shows he doesn't care about u at all..... I had a friend who had an abortion last yr and until today she is still regretting doing it and going through depression :/ I tried convincing her to keep the baby but since she got pregnant by someone she just met she was scared.
If YOU wantto be a mommy then do it for yourself don't depend on what bf feels/thinks.....
I say keep it if you decide in a few months you absolutely are not ready there is a wonderful family out there somewhere that want a child but can't have one of their own.... Trust me I know I was adopted and my adoptive mom is the best and she can't have her own kids so if you aren't ready there is a family that is ready but just know once he or she is here you'll love your child with every inch of your heart...... I an three weeks pp and I didn't think I was ready I don't have a job and didn't when I got preggo and neither did my fiancé he got a job about three months ago but still doesn't work much it's really hard but I would never trade it for anything I love my son more then anything in the world and all I ever wanted was to be a mom and it's more amazing then I ever knew...... You do what's right for you but just remember there are so many woman out there that try and try to have kids but can't so maybe you could complete someone elses dream for them if you aren't 100% ready and there is always open adoption so you can see your baby and they will know who you are..... Good luck with what ever decision you make
I had an abortion. But the things were flipped. My boyfriend wanted to keep the baby but I didn't because I wasn't ready. I was emotionally and physically unstable for months after I terminated the pregnancy. I regret my decision every day more & more. It was so bad that anything baby/pregnancy related made me beak down. My boyfriend stood by me & helped me back to my feet & now we're expecting our baby. & I couldn't be any happier. I'm 10w6d
Thanks everyone for all the advice. My boyfriend has change his mind and he wants to stay with me because he loves me and we are going to keep the baby. Thanks again everyone :-)
I've been through the same thing. I got pregnant right out of high school with a guy I had been involved with for 3 yrs and he tried to convince me to get an abortion. I even made it to the clinic. They offered the abortion pill since I was so early in my pregnancy. I couldn't do it and its the best decision I ever made! Her father skipped out but I fell in love with a great man 2 yrs later and we got married. He is dad to her. He even adopted her. Some people can live with that decision but not me. I knew I'd be one of those women who always would wonder what the baby looked like, or what that baby could've been to this world. My daughter is almost 7 now and she's absolutely amazing in so many ways. I'm pregnant with my 3rd child and not saying she's my favorite.. but I always feel this extra special bond with her. She truly was my Godsend. I have her and 2 boys. That's another reason why I'm thankful... she's my only girl and I've ALWAYS had my heart set on a daughter. If I would've had children with just my husband then we'd just have 2 boys and I wouldn't have my daughter. And I know if I would've went thru that abortion, I'd be wondering now... what if that was the daughter I always yearned for? Luckily.. I don't have to wonder because I have her right here with me
if I were you I would keep it and I say that because I know a lot of people that got abortions and didn't really want one and now they regret it.
Plus I was kind of in the same position... I thought about it for 2 weeks and couldn't do it cause I knew I wanted my baby and babies are blessings. my bf and I both only work part time, we don't live together, and we were not ready. But we are making it work because we love each other. We are moving in together after the baby is born, he is about get a full time job and I plan to after I have my son, and we are still not ready but we love him and will be the best parents we can be! Good luck. I know it wel be worth it.
I would keep it no doubt. if you want the baby and are happy about it you will regret it the rest of your life. you will probably also start resenting him because you will feel he forced you. if he leaves you over it then he wasn't worth it anyway. some of the best and strongest moms are single mothers
If you've told your family than deep down you've probably already made your decision. Regardless, you should do what you think is best but what's best should NOT rely on whether your bf might break up with you or not. If he does, he would have eventually anyways for a different "reason".
Keep it ! I got pregnant a year ago and my fiancé (we were not engaged then) was shocked and scared. He wanted me to have an abortion, we had huge fights about it and I was ready to leave him with the baby... But then I lost the baby, I had a miscarriage. I was devastated and he was too to my surprise, he realized then how horribly he was acting. I am pregnant again now and he is really excited. So please keep this baby, he will come around soon and will adore it more than you think he would. Good luck!!!
PPl do it that have a lot less than u two have... It's great that ur family is so happy and supportive, like pp said, if he leaves u then he's a jerk and u will find someone better and more worthy of ur and that baby's love. However, if u abort u can never go back and u can never replace what u lost. If u absolutly can not keep the baby, then there are so many families out there u could help make their dreams come true! GL and Keep us updated!
Oh goodness rather than preach at her be supportive! This isn't a church.
My advice is to keep it because you both have been together a long time and no one is completely ready for the first one. I adopted my first one and that was months of preparation but I still wasn't completely ready. You two will do just fine. GL.
Having an abortion is by far the worst choice you could make. For you and for that little life growing inside your body. Having a baby even if u adopt it is hard but it's so rewarding. You had sex and everyone knows sex makes babies so now it's not your little baby's fault so don't kill him/her. You can do it. Don't ever forget that just as you are another person separate from your mommy this baby is separate from you. Boyfriends come and go but a baby will stand by your side forever. :)
i would keep it. yall have months to figure out if youre ready and abortion isnt the only option if youre not. you can always give the baby up for adoption to a family who wants a child. if he leaves you cus you decide to keep it then thats wrong of him. you both made this baby so he needs to step up and help you through it.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
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If you have an abortion, you need to be sure that it's what you really want because it will be hard on you forever if it isn't and you'll regret it for the rest of your life. In my opinion, you should keep the baby because it sounds like that's what is really in your heart. Babies change everything but your family will get over it... I'm 20 years old and my mom was very unsupportive at first... It took her less than a week to start getting excited. & wait until the first time your boyfriend feels your precious baby kick. Everything will get better.