So I may sound selfish. But I feel like my son no longer knows how to react to me... Sebastian grandma and mom is forever snatching my child out my hands and it's like when they do...he stops being fussy. But when I have him he cries and cries and cries. And it really does upset me... It's like he doesn't wanna bond with me anymore... Sebastian doesn't help me with the baby at night and I'm so overwhelmed at this point that I start crying in the early mornings when he gets so restless. I just feel like my entire experience as a mom is being ruined and that my son is gonna end up closer to other people than me..they they try to tell me how to parent, they make me feel like everything I do is absolutely wrong. They harp on me about everything. They never ask me if something is okay or not when it comes to them... I just feel like once again... Someone is taking over and managing to make themselves liked more than me... And what hurts more is this entire family knows I've had 4 miscarriages. They know how much I wanted this baby. And it feels like they're trying to slowly take him away from me. Yesterday I barely got to be with Xayden. Everytime I got a chance to even hold him someone was coming to take him from me. Sebastian family says I'm not a caring mother. But I am...and how can I continue to care for my baby when everyone is always taking him from me. I honestly feel like this baby doesn't think I'm his mother, anymore..
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I had to do it. they got the hint real quick. my husband's grandma is hell bent on getting my child attached to her and I'm like uh no. you're not. not the way you want. she wants my daughter to favor her over me. I'm not playing that crap. didn't with my 1st. won't with this 1.
the only thing I know to tell you is to start being rude. tell them no when they try to take the baby. tell them to mind their own business when they try to tell you what to do be a bitch. end of story dear. it doesn't matter whose feelings get hurt because right now.... you're the one getting yours hurt and they don't care.. why should you? that's your baby. not theirs. make that point very known
@xbbycolletto I get Seb may not know 100% how tto handle him yet, most men don't but he needs to come to you so y'all can figure it out together, th ning to nene is the problem bc he's giving her the thought that 1 he doesn't wanna deal with him and 2 he doesn't know how. I hope yesterday went well because that's your ticket home and his ticket to start a better life for yall. Xayden needs time to realize you got this. Babies aren't stupid and understand more than we think , I'm sure seeing His father bring him to nene and Laurie taking him from you is confusing poor Xayden. Everyone needs to back off y'all and let you guys love and cherish Xayden. Honestly Laurie needs her ass beat, or maybe she should do it to her girls kids.
I fucking hate this place. I want to go home. where people don't do this shit. and Sebastian complains about people trying to run us. but yet he's the first to run to nene for everything including the fucking baby. he doesn't even realize this baby doesnt feel like we are his parents.
@xbbycolletto I imagine so, that's their goal, I know it's Bern Laurie's from day one and the damn witch is pissing me off. If they would back the fuck off you and Seb would do just fine if not better than they think... but no-one can parent with the shit they're doing and they know that. Maybe what we talked about yesterday would be the best thing all around for yall. I think Xayden needs a major break from Laurie and nene.
like.. I just feel so fucking worthless.. @hermommy
and you're definitely not being selfish!
they need to stop, they know what they're doing and it seems to be done non purpose. Don't let them take him from you, he knows your his mom because he knows your scent but what they're doing is perceiving to be the ones who will be there when he's upset. I'll tell you when my mom had me my grandparents were always there and I loved them almost if not as much as I loved her but in a different way BUT when I don't feel good, when I was hurt, or if i was upset.... I wanted my momma no one else was ever good enough and to this day, whem those things happen its my momma it always will be. Put a stop to that shit while hes still an infant. I believe they're waiting for you to stwp up at them and say " NO! He is not your child Seb and I are go in to parent OUR child the way WE want to, y'all are grandparents NOTHING else sp quit trying to make.your title more than it is and enjoy.your GRANDBABY, I am his mother whether y'all like it or not.
I hate that they are doing all that to you! and I completely agree with everything @sarahdrew said!!! I hope things get better for you because it seems like they are trying to force you into a mental break down...
you are his mother.... you need to sit down and talk to Sebastian and tell him how you feel and that you don't feel a connection with the baby.... it is NEVER too late to bond.... take a day when no one else is around (if possible) and just lay in bed with him watching movies, rock him in the rocking chair, just have a mama and baby day
everytime I try to they start shit and then harp on seb. then he ends up fighting with me bc of them bc of how they're talking about me. I just feel like its too late to bond with him now. all he wants is Sebastians grandmother..like.. I feel like I'm not even gonna be seen as his mother now. @sarahdrew
the next time they say to you that you aren't a caring mother (which by the way no one should be saying to you period) look at them and say "well if you would let me be a mother to my child it would be different. but you guy are forever taking my son, I haven't even gotten a chance to bond with him". your SO also needs to stand up and say "he is our child not yours so please don't just take him away from his mother". maybe if they try to take him, don't let them... put your foot down mama he's your little boy not theirs
he love's you and knows your his mama he just feels when you're upset thats all and it makes him tense. try your best to relax when with him.. you'll get through this sweetie