😂 That's crazy .. it's 1 of two things though .. she's either really mental .. or the worst he has flirted with her to make her feel some type of way.. unless shes legally crazy .. girls don't get that emotional over men .. not saying he has but if you aren't there his whole shift mama you can't say for sure you know that he hasn't

@jenny955 😂😂 right .. you know how it goes though .. young love .. and just because youve evolved together means ?? What exactly? Ive had 9 years with my husband and he's the shy quiet type but men are still men and boys are boys regardless.. especially when you're young .. and those car rides definitely make more sense to this story now lol I'm just saying .. they will live and learn .. no matter how bad or good.. things aren't always what they seem .. but when you're young and hopeful and think you see progress you just gotta let that be .. until you get years in you really don't know what evolving is .. and truthfully there will ALWAYS be evolving happening and that needs to happen . That comes with effort, patience,time, age and tons of obstacles to overcome . And they don't always have to be the worst of the worst but they are definitely real obstacles

@_pokaj_, Exactly! But baby boy comes first. I’ll talk to a hoe if I have to.

Pregnant or not sis would of caught these hands, you know hes my man. And that im pregnant and you still tryna take him oh hell no. But my man knows I'll beat his ass too if he tried me. Lucky I don't have these issues because he knows I'm crazy. Even more now that I'm pregnant. 😂😂😂

@the.real.og, Even the other coworkers are calling her out. Her bosses are calling her out because she’s disrupting the work place. There girls that are like this and she’s one of them. I understand that everyone wants to think the girl is a victim but she’s not. I don’t understand why everyone acts like a girl can’t just be crazy and miss signs. I don’t know her past, I don’t know why she decided to move here. Yes, my boyfriend is an idiot for not taking in any of her hints. But I don’t think she’s a completely bad person, I think she’s lonely moving to a mountain where it’s hard to meet people. But hey 🤷🏾‍♀️

@aengl trueee and some are natural born home wreckers

@taylorc, Some people are just really lonely😭 And I even had a different boyfriend at that time and he knew it! Some people only care about themselves

@aengl 😂😂😂 like whyyyyyyyyyy

@taylorc, Omg yes! Like, if we work together of course I’ll be nice. Especially when I used to get rides home. I even had a guy offer me a ride and then cry because he was such a good person and I told him I wasn’t interested

@aengl the best is when people blame you, like oh you must have been to nice... what????? There's a difference between nice and flirtatious

@aengl 😂😂😂😂 yess I hate when I'm being nice and a guys like so can we get dinner or something I'm like 😑😑😑 I have a boyfriend and two kids what's wrong with you.

@taylorc, I’ve even had a situation like that. I trained this guy at work and we just making friendly talk and then he came out and said “I love you.” I was so confused

@aengl lmao I was like what? This broad is full blown crazy. And 😂😂😂😂 I can't I would tell my friend to calm down

@taylorc, Really? 😂 Omg what is she doing? Take care of your baby, if he left his baby mama to play step daddy for you why would you want him? Some of these women are just wild. I used to have a friend that acted like that too. A guy would say hi to her and she’s have heart eyes and a new “love”😂

Girl I know what you mean and trust me some bitches are crazy and do take "helping" and "kindness" to far. My friend has a pregnant girlfriend and he works in a factory well there's a pregnant woman in there that's fully aware of his relationship and baby. He asked her if she wanted help lifting some boxes cause she's pregnant and the bitch kept telling him that he's so fine and she's going to take him and all this... Like 1. You know I have a girlfriend and baby on the way 2. He was just trying to be nice and 3. Bitch your pregnant wtf you mean 😂😂😂... So yes a broad can fall for a man without them flirting or anything.

You guys can think what you want. No matter what I say or at least try to he’s cheating lol😩

@jordanrwilliams25 preach it!!

@jenny955 @aengl .. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 sorry love but you've explained alot .. he's playing a game with you and he DOES know what he's doing you just don't want to believe it lol .. you did post it .. we all responded .. you're obviously going to keep defending the situation and blaming the chick when it's CLEARLY more from his end than what you choose to believe!!! Not trying to be mean but it's literally getting a little ridiculous now .. because it's been over an hour of conversation and nothing is sinking in .. THERE IS MORE THAN YOU CHOOOOSE TO BELIEVE!!! If you feel better believing what you do then so be it..if you feel you need answers .. dont even tell him yet just go straight to the girl .. as you got deeper into details he isn't fooling anybody but you.. and as you're pregnant I can see how you would want to believe him but nawwwww love .. he's a different person at work and with the dudes .. again you CHOOOOSE not to believe it ... Again not every situation or obstacle is the worst of the worst however there are many obstacles .. I didn't / we didn't make it to 9 years and not learn anything from the past on both of our ends .. YOU also can't say you KNOW him whole heartedly when you haven't had a REAL chance and time to grow together and probably most likely individually... I wish yaw the best but like Jenny said IT WILL COME TO THE LIGHT eventually ... And sad to say with the wool being over your eyes it's going to hurt you more than you think ... You didn't post this for nothing.. and there's no way you can be CERTAIN because you ARE NOT there .. you know what he does in front of you and what he tells you and that's it!!! And it's all bullshit .. no matter how sweet, shy or insecure he is .. i really didn't want to be rough here .. but she is correct you explained alot and keep defending it and just blaming the girl .. you DON'T see the big picture unfortunately!! Goodnight love I really do hope it turns out good for you throughout all our doubts 💓💓

@jenny955, I don’t suspect anything lmao. I was just hype about being right 🤷🏾‍♀️

@aengl if you know hes not a cheater or would never do anything like that why would you put up a status obviously you suspect something

@jenny955, She wasn’t driving him everyday. Just some days the sickness hit me bad and I was glued to a toilet. It was not an everyday occurrence, only when I asked him to. It’s a 10-15 minute drive max. The bigger picture? Girl. Please.🤦🏾‍♀️ If the situation were reversed, you wouldn’t call me a cheater. I’d be a victim of a man who got the wrong message.

Damn ladies, why all the negativity? You want him to cheat on me so bad.😭 Any other answer that’s not him cheating on me is automatically him cheating on me. He’s a good guy. Just a god damn idiot who thinks he’s unattractive. Believe me, I would know. He’s a shit liar. And I don’t have a problem leaving dude if I have to.😩

@aengl but didn't you say in the beg of your pregnancy she was driving him???

@aengl I'm over this conversation your missing the big picture, if you believe your man good for you!! But if he is doing something behind your back it will eventually get to you always does they can't hide it forever. And honestly talking to her might be your best option you might find out things he has said to her or whateevr that your man never mentioned your just hearing his side of the story she's prob got a different one

@jenny955, She’s not a head supe. She’s like a team leader but they call them supervisors. He gets out the same time everyday and goes in everyday. I’ve been taking him to work and picking him up for a year and half now. 🤦🏾‍♀️

@jordanrwilliams25, He’s not the type, I swear. He’s just not self aware. Like, if you’re cute and you’re too nice on top, girls get ideas. Hell, even a few boys would come up to me and try to ask if he’s single😭

@aengl if she's his supervisor they could go to her house after she picks him up!!! She's in charge if she wants to start late she can and if he's late how wpuld he get in trouble or points bc she likes him so shell let him get away with anything

@aengl he's got a little game for sure!!! She wasn't just spreading rumors unfortunately

@jenny955, He works from 6 am and comes home because I take him home lmao. (He doesn’t have a license due to living in the city before). But he’s always tells me he’s done. And when he hangs out, he asks me if it’s ok and tells me where he is and who he’s with but it’s very rare. His real friends live in the city and he doesn’t bond with people well

@jenny955 yessssss 😂 I'm trying to tell her now to not explain anymore lol I dont mean to laugh but he's already got her looking realllllly foolish .. I HATE to see Beautiful smart young women with the wool over their eyes.. @aengl girl you are gorgeous!!! Pleassssse don't do that to yourself .. he knows exactly what he's doing..

@jordanrwilliams25, I’ll have to talk to him about it. I know he doesn’t talk about our stuff to just anyone because he’s reserved but I’ll definitely have to tell him to keep it more discreet. Also, to take my intuition more seriously. He thought I was just being crazy lol. I know a scheming hoe when I see one. I was wondering if I should send her a message, nothing crazy but he just seems so upset. Work is one of the things he really likes and even after this rejection, she still thinks she has a chance. She’s still approaching him. I honestly think she was spreading rumors about them before she even told him she liked him. Even with him blocking and deleting her info and telling her to keep it strictly professional.

Im sorry I'm all in the conversation because this is gooood😂😂 girllllllll .. she's his supervisor!????? If you don't take any advice from me .. please take ThiS advice.. don't explain anymore!!! You don't want to believe it but he's got a little bit of Playboy game going on no doubts .. the overheard conversations, 6am car rides .. he can tell you evey you WANT to hear but just your explanations are absolutely saying you want to believe him .. as you should want to your having his baby and I'm sure love him .. but nawwwww girl you'll realize one day ..

@aengl haha so now shes saying he hangs out at her house that could also be true. So girls try to make the other girl mad but sometimes their actually telling you what's been happening

@karennn, He has a good friend at work that he talks to about our issues and he works in a kitchen. She assumed that our relationship was garbage, but I’m pretty sure she was spreading rumors about them before it even got to this point.

@emily526, I want to say something because he was so angry when he got home. She’s purposely slacking and starting arguments. But she’s also his supervisor. She then switches up to asking to take him home and lying about him hanging around at her house. This is after he’d already told her no and deleted her contact info. My boyfriend loves his job as a cook and takes pride in his work(food is one of his loves). He has other employees intervene because of it.

Some chicks and dudes, Are delusional and get obsessed. But I have to agree, Maybe he flirted with her before or something between them happened? Even if he flirted “unintentionally”. She sounds like her obsession is because she believed something was there. I had a friend that her fiancé slept with the girl then tried to drop her and she was crazy obsessed with him, Even would post pictures of the character of a tattoo he had and would quote things like “forever yours” ect. My friend would come to me and show me the girl’s posts and the girl had a weird creepy obsession. Her and her fiancé worked it out but it was hard for her to trust him because what the chick would post, Eventually they broke up. Not saying that’s your situation, But there is two sides to the story.

And if you haven't yet .. kindly let him know that it's okay to talk to his guy friend about your relationship just ask him to please make sure it's private because YES some hoes do take that as an opportunity to step in .. which again would mean HE left that window open and that's not cool ... he'll see that in time as well ..

This sounds like a shitty situation. Like what was said above there can be so many scenarios. She's delusional, he flirted with her or something did happen between them and he's now trying to cover his tracks. Of course, we want to take his side but men are sneaky and will take shit to their grave deny deny deny even when caught red handed. My guess is she likes him and she is batshit crazy and he's telling her to kick rocks and she's not taking it well

@aengl If she's going to be transferred I would just drop it. But if not I would say something. I wouldnt start an argument, I'd just be straight up with her. I always say go straight to the source because a few years ago I was in a similar situation. A girl in my husbands unit developed some type of feelings for him and it made him uncomfortable because he didnt want to hurt her feelings and obviously it pissed me off. But I went to her and I just let her know it made me uncomfortable and I felt disrespected. She backed off right away.

@aengl omg really? Do you follow me now I have to follow you lol .. I DEFINITELY understand having to unlearn what your parents bring upon and teach you growing up .. I've had and still have those issues as an adult .. him some as well..from the sounds of it yawll will be okay just keep that (not giving up and work it out) mentality!! And communication is so much .. also keep in mind that you WanT to learn and grow with him and that it will always work out for the best!! No relationship is easy .. even people who are 80 and still together have overcome SO much and that I can promise you!!!!!!

@emily526, She’s a higher rank than she is. The bigger boss hasn’t been in but he’s made sure another supervisor has been in the kitchen. He’s going to ask her to be transferred because even the other workers have noticed that she’s been starting fights with him. But should I? I was just going to let it go but I was contemplating on sending her a message.

@jordanrwilliams25, You’re one of my favorites on here so I know you mean well. I feel like a big reason this girl felt she had a chance is because he would complain about some of our issues at work. He’s friends with his team leader who he asks for advice and such since he’s married with a son of his own (I have met this man and he’s been over plenty of times.) They work in a small kitchen so she overheard and assumed that she had a chance since she would hear about our issues. I’m still working through a lot of my bad traits as is he. (I have daddy issues and he has mommy😂.) We still have a lot to unlearn from our parents and work around the toxic behavior they continue to try to bring to us. As long as he wants this relationship as much as I do and tries just as hard, I’m for it. I know it will be a challenge, especially when we get older. He’s really a sweet, sensitive person. He’s just an idiot sometimes. And girl, yes you are still young! You’re not even as old as my mom. You’re good lol.

I'd go straight to the girl and tell her I feel she may be disrespecting myself and my family. If she's confessing her love to your SO than not for nothing it sounds like more than just "hoe intentions". There's a huge difference between confessing love and trying to make a slick move. I'd tell her she needs to have more respect for your relationship because it's serious, and I'd tell your SO to be firm with her as well and maybe distance himself a little.

@aengl yup been there done that lol

@jenny955, Oh no. He hasn’t. He just never communicated and we’ve had split a few times because he was never vocal about issues and thought that’s how relationships work. Unfortunately, during one of those times I slipped up and slept with someone else. (We both lived together still too.) He was angry and betrayed because I was hypocritical. I had the need to be right.

@aengl, girls like that deserve what’s coming to them. Get a life and get your own man 🤣

@aengl I personally don't think he's trying to do you dirty but I do think he's still a young boy who needs to learn , grow , and mature as well as you same as I said already above .. and I do think the little chick is crazy as hell lol .. I also think that it takes almost a lifetime to KNOW someone again speaking from 9 years with mine and evolving takes much more than what you believe (from what you stated) .. we were Young love once still young but pushing our 30's lol .. as long as you Both have that commitment to continuously TRY like you just said that's what will tell the true test of time .. I'm rooting for yawll I'm sure we all are here ... We're just responding to your post and us older ones are just giving you advice that it sounds fishy as hell, and yes there are bops like that .. not personally trying to come off judgemental.. just giving advice to not be gullable to what you "think,feel" is good or your meaning of "evolving" especially being young.. idk how old you are but I definitely know it's not my age lol what we know NOW.. is COMPLETELY different then when we were 17 and 18 and throughout early 20's .. obstacles change.. like I said before they dont always have to be the worst of the worst but they will definitely be obstacles! Just keep in mind that there's no ill intentions from any of us well from myself .. just giving advice as someone who has seen,heard, experienced and grown so much and still am with the love of my life and others situations! 💓💓 💓 again love no ill intentions 😀🤗

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@aengl when you say people can chnage did you cheat on you in the past??

@aengl, that’s what I was saying. My SO SIL is like that. So I could believe she is too. And I’ve seen it more than once from other women too. And from men. Some people just dgaf about family’s and it’s sad.

@tatsandcats, But some women are just like that. I think it’s funny how women can say a man did some crazy shit and cried and they’ll believe that shit right away saying stay away from him. But when a female does it, it’s always he must’ve did something to her or lead her on. It’s a double standard. Some people were just taught that they can get their way by crying.

Listen guys. I know how my man is. And in our times of struggle, he has never stepped out even when we were apart for a bit. He’s not the type. But he’s also capable of telling the difference of a female friend and a girl he’s attracted to. I say in the beginning because he really lacked an empathetic view of the things he did/didn’t do and held onto a lot of trauma he had towards females against me. But, I did my dirt too because neither of us were ready for a serious relationship. But I know who he his and who I am. I also know people can change. (Not everyone😭) But we’re in a good place. Not everyone is trying to do you dirty lol😂

Well my fiancé’s SIL is the kind of crazy that would do and has done something like this so I believe 100% that she could be too. Then again I don’t know. Some women just don’t care and have no respect for a family and have their mind set on having someone so when they realize they can’t it’s bad. Idk if he led her on or not but Ik some women are just lil home wreckin hoes.

@jenny955 oh ABSOLUTELY!!!

@jordanrwilliams25 even if I was single right now there's still boundaries you don't cross. I love seeing couples that are happy and in love and abput to start a family, I think love is a beautiful thing and I wouldn't wanna interfere with that.

@jordanrwilliams25 some girls respect it and some don't but its all up to the man if he act apon it.. And I feel like he has because she crazy inlove with him and I guess she " just" moved here. That's like me getting a ride with a guy I worked with and started crying because he turned me down. But the older you get like me and my man you just don't cross those lines its just common sense I would never try to get in the middle of someone's relationship

@jenny955, I feel like it’s because she doesn’t have friends here since she moved from another state. But he’s rejected her offers to “help” her set up her new place and never hung out with her outside of work because I told him it made me uncomfortable. He’s very open about any communication he had with her.

@jenny955 DEFINITELY

@aengl mm mm girl .. same for both genders .. people KNOW when it's real and not to cross certain boundaries.. a window was left open with a gap somewhere

@jenny955 it sure does .. and a girl can only try to interfere with a another girl's man .. where the man leaves room for it .. if he was on her like ThaT (you 💓) another girl or girls in general know to respect that but there is more to this situation and I'm sure being young has it's part . But it's also his mentality and personal self .. love already said" if it was the beginning of their relationship the maybe" and only some "months" in together.. that plus the 6am car rides say a whole lot more than what she (you 💓) WanT to believe in this moment.. but nobody blames you .. we get it honestly .. been there done that unfortunately lol

@jordanrwilliams25, I feel like she just took it wrong. She moved here by herself and he was the first person she talked to and who lives close. I feel like she’s panicking from being left alone but he told her no. Women can go crazy the same way some men do when they think being nice is a sign or something

@aengl if she knows your situation.. With your man why would she have crazy feelings for him like that to the point she cried. I just don't get it I feel like there's more to this story that's being left out

@jordanrwilliams25, Girl, yes. When I met him, my fiancé died and it was hard. But we went from screaming matches to actually sitting down. We still have a lot more growing up to do and definitely more healing from our separate traumas. But, I believe we’ll get there. We’ll get where we need to be and we’re both finally willing.

@aengl have you ever hangout with this girl like did you guys used to be friends and chill??

@one_coolmama 😂😂

@jordanrwilliams25

@jordanrwilliams25. Its true tho no matter how your man is they all think the same, and they all want the same thing. And who knows what goes on during those car rides. This seems like a really sketchy situation!

@aengl and that still may be so that he is happy and excited but as a woman though .. and I'm sure maybe a little older with 9 years under our belt don't be gullable to simple positive changes ... Those car rides at 6am definitely have something there .. a girl doesn't just go that crazy unless she is Legally THAT crazy and that's crazy .. but truthfully I don't think she's that crazy lol

@soon-2b-mother-of-3, Thank you! He didn’t even try to entertain it. And it just makes me love him more.

@jenny955 😂😂 right .. you know how it goes though .. young love .. and just because youve evolved together means ?? What exactly? Ive had 9 years with my husband and he's the shy quiet type but men are still men and boys are boys regardless.. especially when you're young .. and those car rides definitely make more sense to this story now lol I'm just saying .. they will live and learn .. no matter how bad or good.. things aren't always what they seem .. but when you're young and hopeful and think you see progress you just gotta let that be .. until you get years in you really don't know what evolving is .. and truthfully there will ALWAYS be evolving happening and that needs to happen . That comes with effort, patience,time, age and tons of obstacles to overcome . And they don't always have to be the worst of the worst but they are definitely real obstacles

@jenny955, I understand. It was only because he works at 6am and during the beginning of my pregnancy it was very hard on me to take him so he’d avoid waking me up. He did it before we moved but the coworker that lived by us were men. But he was not aware of it. He tried to offer her gas money and she passed it off as something she would do for anybody. But he makes our relationship known and my pregnancy (He’s happy to have a little boy on the way.)

@aengl, she sound bat shit crazy

@fishinamanda, Thank you! Like this girl has seen me, my man, and my dog at our house. He shows off pictures of me to his coworkers. What makes you think he’s leaving me and you can play stepmommy?

Yes she did!!!But he handled it..

And she is really disrespectful!!

@disfanlaur, He was nice because she recently moved here and she lived close by. Plus they work together so he understands not having friends or anything because all his friends live in the city. But now he’s getting so mad at her because she keeps flipping out at work acting like an angry girlfriend. He’s about to get her moved to a different department 😂

@aengl I wouldn't like that if my man was getting a ride from a girl and she had full blown feelings for him. That would be a little wired to me and I would eventually start to not trust the situation. It would always be in the back of my mind thinking that maybe he did or has feelings for this girl. But only you know your man. I'm just saying how I would feel if I was in that situation

@jordanrwilliams25, I know he hasn’t. If this were the beginning of our relationship maybe. But we’ve gotten to a very good place, plus he’s also a very bad liar. But I was aware that she liked him, he wasn’t. I didn’t really think she would try me though🤷🏾‍♀️

@meganeliza, Right? She would give him rides to work and tried to be like “I do so much for you”. He even told her that he has a wife, a dog, a baby on the way and a happy home. Like, we’ve been together for two years! What do you think you’ve done in the two months you’ve know him versus the years I’ve spent with him? And we were already in the perfect place when we moved to the area we’re in.😂

@jenny955, We’ve been through some shit but she literally just gives him rides. But she just moved to this area and my boyfriend is just a friendly person (He’s been this way since the beginning.) I told him she seemed fishy but he has low self esteem and doesn’t find himself attractive so he feels that no one looks at him that way. But he immediately blocked her and deleted her number but she still tries to approach him at work like nothing happened and going crazy. But she’s seen me, our dog, our family and is fully aware. And believe me when I say that our relationship has evolved completely

@disfanlaur thats literally insane tho.. I dont think she would have that deep of feelings for him if "nothings is/was there"

Guys are sneaky as shit... Not saying your man is but could be saying she crazy an all because he knows he led her on or something. And I agree with @jordanrwilliams25. Your not there so your just going by what he says there could be a whole other side to this story that you don't know. Not trying to piss you off but I've delt with that bullshit in the past

@disfanlaur maybe ... But umm 🙄😶😂😂 that's mentally crazy if so .. if she's not there though she can't definitely say unfortunately

@jordanrwilliams25, some girls take a man being nice as flirting though, he might’ve just be nice and talked to her like a friend and she just took it to another level

😂 That's crazy .. it's 1 of two things though .. she's either really mental .. or the worst he has flirted with her to make her feel some type of way.. unless shes legally crazy .. girls don't get that emotional over men .. not saying he has but if you aren't there his whole shift mama you can't say for sure you know that he hasn't

Ugh I hate women like that