since everyone tells me I hold my daughter too much I guess I will never Hold her unless I'm feeding her.

@edomke,

thank goodness people are on my side

It's hard. My parents hate that I still rock my son to sleep but I love it and I also don't believe in the cry it out method and omg the hell I get for that lol but I'm happy and my son and I have the strongest bond ever and I believe it is because of my "bad" decisions (what a lot of society thinks) but best decisions I've ever made!

yeah and I had everyone telling me to have my baby sleep in the bassinet and she sleeps soo much better with me. @ilyric

You're most welcome! Honestly, my baby boy slept on our chests until he was 16 weeks old.

wow thank you for posting that. @ilyric

my 11 mth old boy is very independent and we've done attachment parenting since birth. :) @sarahdrew @jasminemaye have faith, everything you are doing is right. Hold that baby as often as you want, they're only small for a little while. :)

@ilyric, thank you for posting that, I wish I had seen that right after I had my daughter..... my husband kept trying to tell me "oh you will spoil her" or "just lay her in her bassinet and let her cry" I was dumbfounded we have a son who's 2 and he never said that about him... he said "Easton didn't cry this much" so I yelled at him and said "EVERY BABY IS DIFFERENT DAMNIT" and picked our daughter up

http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2012/11/04/the-fourth-trimester-aka-why-your-newborn-baby-is-only-happ

The first 3 mths after birth is babies adjustment period from womb to world. They need much more attention and holding.

right. her dad won't even change her diapers. don't tell Me what to do things. @sarahdrew what's 4th trimester? @ilyric

I am in the same boat, altho my husband doesn't bathe her sometimes, so when my husband says something like "oh she's gonna be spoiled" I just look at him and say "I'm with her 24/7 don't tell me how to do anything"

Your child, hold her as much as you want. DO NOT listen to anyone tell you different, attachment patenting actually instills a very independent, trusting child in the long run! Also there is what they call the 4th trimester.

I know I'm the one who feeds her, the one who changes her, I bathe her, I get up with her at night no one else. it just makes me more.upset. @sarahdrew @krista15

I understand, you feel like they are undermining you and putting your parenting skills down.... keep your head up mama you are doing great and hold and cuddle that baby all you want

you know your baby they don't

I know it just makes me sad. :( @sarahdrew

it just makes me want to cry since everyone judges my parenting. @krista15

hold that baby as much as you want to, she is your baby not anyone else's.... mama you do what you want, don't let anyone dictate how you raise or take care of that baby

well it seems like every one judges my parenting. "don't hold her so much" "have her sleep in the bassinet" you're not the one taking care of her...@edomke,

don't listen people use to say the same thing to me and to i kindly said I'm her mother

Omg I hold my son all the time and he's 8 months old I really don't care what people say cuz it's my baby. Don't worry what others think!