is it wrong to be frustrated that my daughter acts like she can't do certain things with out my help. she plays dumb a…

She’s 2 years old!, you should be impressed she is even doing that.

Yea at 2 that’s impressive. She’s so young still if she wants mommy’s help help her

One day she won’t want your help treasure it. She’s 2 you should be proud of this and encourage her don’t be frustrated

Umm relax she’s 2 my kids can’t even hold a pencil and they are much older.

She’s only 2 and it’s completely normal. She is only wanting your attention. Wanting your attention should not be taken a bad thing. Enjoy it while it lasts. One day she won’t need you at all and you’ll miss and want this.

My daughter is five and still pretends she can't do something when I know full well she can. It's her way of getting my attention because she knows that I'll stop what I'm doing and show her what needs to be done. This is likely what your daughter is doing.. remember children will learn behaviors and crave the ones that get them the most attention..good or bad...oh yeah and she's only two. That's pretty impressive for someone her age. Maybe starting introducing new skills since she mastered this. Have you tried to teach her cutting?

Where did you get this book? I need it!

she's 2.! what at 3 you want her drawing like a professional? give her some time and don't push her each child learns at their own pace

@massgirl no we haven't tried that yet. she begs me to let her trace so I do it with her. what type of cutting activities do you think would be appropriate

Woah people need to lay off lol the poster just asked a simple question and is getting mom shamed pretty hard here. Anyways, yes, you're 38 weeks pregnant and get frustrated easily- it's okay! And I get it, my almost 2 year old is going through a phase where he wants me to do everything for him. For your daughter it might be a confidence thing, she feels like she can do it with you helping.

Oh my heart! 💔 did you just accuse your 2 year old of "playing dumb" shes 2!!!!! Holy hell, give her a break!!!!!!

@_slimm.shady_ not all 2 year olds need everything to be done for them. my daughter like to do a lot of things by herself so when she regresses, as a mother I'm going to be concerned. I dont want her to be independent but like I said I want her to show what she knows. if your child suddenly couldn't do something she has already mastered, would you not be questioning why?

She may just simply want you to be involved in what she’s doing...ie. sitting with her while she draws or traces.

She is only two & I don’t believe she is ‘playing dumb’, as you’ve said, I think she is simply still a baby & learning at her own pace. At that age kids will learn something & a few days later need a reminder on how to do said thing. They need the repetition & sometimes that requires you having to help...& to have more patience. Enjoy this time bc soon she’ll be doing everything by herself & you’ll miss these days. Let her be little, they’re only little for such a short time.

I cant help but say, maybe she wants mommy to be more involved with her learning, which is natural for any child help her, dont make her feel in the wrong, she should still need you and that is okay!

This is really good for a 2yo. She isn't acting like she can't do it. I used to feel this way while teaching my son shapes, colors, letters etc. Because One day he would have it down the next day he would point to wrong things or call them the wrong name. So I can relate. I was convinced I was doing something wrong for him to just forget but like many are saying shes just 2. You just have to keep at it, it's ok if she needs your help/attention it's normal. just keep encouraging her. It will take a while but she'll get the hang of it. Dont be hard on her or yourself. Also keep in mind even if you get a lil bit frustrated they will pick up on it almost immediately which in turn will alter their emotions & ability to learn. So when you feel it happening take a break for a while maybe play a game or get a snack then come back to it later. And try not to have long periods of time while trying to teach her because she may get frustrated

Also try to get creative w/ it & make it fun. Google & pinterest have great ideas for make learning fun for toddlers

Idk if you let her have screen time but if so maybe download tracing & learning apps for toddlers. Where she can trace w/ her finger or a stylus

I think it’s just how kids are at that age. My daughter is three and there’s things I know she can do like pull her own pants down to use the pot or put her pants on. Some days she’ll do it and I’ll let her and others she ask for my help and I help her. Just stay patient with her. My 7 year old does the same thing sometimes. I asked her why and she said sometimes she just likes for me to help her. Just be patient and understanding. My 3 year old cant even trace things she just likes to draw on stuff so that’s impressive lol.

thank you, I help her with everything she likes to do. I try not to show my frustrations outwards but sometimes it just like "mina you know that's not what you're supposed to do"

Perhaps she senses that there will soon be another person needing your attention and wants to hold onto all of you as much as she can right now. At 2 she doesn’t have the ability to verbalize her emotions and thoughts, so she is going to demonstrate them the best way she knows how. It’s not negative or manipulation, it’s an attempt at communication.

It’s okay mama. That’s actually pretty impressive for a two year old. My 5 year old does the same.

She's 2 she still needs mommy. She's still just a baby. My daughter will be 2 and can't do that. Your going to miss it when she won't need your help anymore.

She might not yet have the control to do it solely on her own. You could try to do it with her as in you each have your own book, her seeing you work solo might encourage her to be like mommy and try it on her own. My 4 year old is on the spectrum and right now we are working with her on holding a pencil/crayon and scribbles are great! I would just take a deep breath, give her ample blank paper and let her at it. :) This needs to be about fun right now.

I’m editing to add that you might want to buy the fatter whiteboard expo markers- they might be easier for her to hold- we take our fine motor skills for granted, it is much more work for little ones. Example- you know those giant puffy Mickey Mouse gloves? Try putting one on and doing a writing activity- it will be very hard to make marks on the paper you as an adult already know how to do, so your steady hand might truly help her especially with that thin marker.

She can be doing it because she knows soon she won’t be getting g all your attention once new baby comes. She’s just trying to get all of mommys attention before she has to share you real soon with new baby. My daughter acted the same way before my son was born. Yes it does get frustrating just remember she won’t be an only child soon and she won’t be little for ever!! 😊