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OK I need advice so my sperm donor aka my ex..randomly wants to go to my 20 week appointment.. he's been gone till now…

OK I need advice so my sperm donor aka my ex..randomly wants to go to my 20 week appointment.. he's been gone till now and is practicality begging me to go. today he made it very clear that he doesn't care about me stating I'm not his type. do I let him go to anything? I still love him a lot but those feelings aren't mutual should I just say no or should I let him go he claims it's what's best for the baby by him being there...ugh I'm so lost all opinions are welcomed😙😙

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santinosmommy41816

Vanessa

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let.him go maybe him seeing.you at the appt will change his feelings. but if he dnt wanna be with u just because he going.to appts and being.there dnt get him out of.child support.lol !

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mrsdoyle

Emily

does he want to be a part of the child's life after its born? or is he just wanting to go this appointment?

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missing268user

missing268user

I would let him go, he's still the daddy girl

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maciecakes

Macie 🤘🏻 Simon

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I would personally. Even if it never works out between the two of you he obviously wants to be a part of his kids life and that's rare these days. Your child's lucky.

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lesleyraesmommy

Bree

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@mrsdoyle, he wants to be in the kids life

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mrsdoyle

Emily

I would let him go, but make sure he knows he needs to contribute to the child's life even beforehand. help pay for stuff and be there. I would be careful though, he may be doing it just to make sure you aren't moving on.

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lesleyraesmommy

Bree

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@mrsdoyle, that's another problem too..he doesn't wanna help financially at all..every single dollar I get from my taxes is going to pay for clothes and equipment and all the babies needs

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mrsdoyle

Emily

if he won't help out then he doesn't deserve to be in the child's life! if he won't act like a father then he isn't one. just being there isn't enough. babies require a lot of money as well. he needs to do both.

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sexxymama83

Mrs.RJ

Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого

I would let him go but I would also put him on child support too. It's not about if you need the money or not but it is about him helping you take care of what he helped to bring into this world. Now if he can't pay but still wants to be in their life I would say let him. Kids know no value in money but they do know when a parent is absent or barely there or whatever. Don't stand between their relationship if he is willing to be there because of money. Yes it does take a lot to raise them but you don't want your child to grow up resenting you either. Now if he has the funds then let child support work everything out for you. Which is the easier way to go.

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momhearts3

momhearts3

I feel that whatever make you comfortable you should do. after the baby is born then I would allow him to see the baby and see if he steps up. but until then he isn't really supporting you and I would think of your feelings first and avoiding the stress.

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bria.k

Bria

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Even if you're not his type it's still his child. I'd say let him go! If he causes drama you can cut him off but if he just wants to be there for his baby I don't see an issue. Your feelings towards/against him shouldn't affect the relationship he has with his kid.

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