Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄

This whole I give him money and he'll pay me back thing is WEIRD period. One..he should be providing for YOU AND THE KIDS and buying his own work shit. Two... stop giving him your bank card. Refer back to #1. 3. "Pay back?" In a relationship/marriage weird, just weird. 4. Refer to #1

I don’t blame your SO at all at this point. This is your fault for not being responsible with your money, which would include giving your card to someone that has proven to abuse YOUR money. My advise would be to budget and be more in control of your money.

I’m not feeling bad for a grown ass man. If he is using the money for work, as a contractor, he can tell his clients he needs 1/2 of the cost before starting and remaining upon completion. Every contractor I’ve worked with does this. And everyone I know who is a contractor or who has worked with a contractor, does this. Something in the water ain’t clean. Your children over his..... addiction

Start having him give you all receipts when he uses your money. Even $20. You have every right to know where it goes. And make sure he gives you the money from his boss

Uh after further investigation, your SO is a pos. Takes your money, and verbally abuses you. Girl, come on.

I'd look at your bank statement and see where that extra $100 went. If he just pulled cash out I'd ask for receipts. Seems weird he'd just take an extra $100 like that. I'd be questioning what that money went to since it's impacting your childs education.

We should talk. 😩 I feel like our situations are very similar and it’s so hard when you try and vent to friends whose home lives are all great and you feel like you’re constantly complaining and being negative. I deal with so many financial issues because of my husband’s problems, and then the verbal abuse? Yeah that’s there too. It’s exhausting and no one else gets it.

How the hell did $60 turn to $160 that’s the first problem ..& then after you got over $100 why do you need $20 more dollars ! What does he do with his check ? Him and his boss could and would kiss my ass .. he’s very dependent.. he’s just getting over at this point because he knows that he can .. Easter shopping ?? He would have to take his ass outside and find a nest to ball up in like a egg tonight 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think you need to get your priorities straight and stop letting your SO have your card and worry about your kids and your bills. He is only going to continue to walk all over you because you let him.

I don’t blame your SO at all at this point. This is your fault for not being responsible with your money, which would include giving your card to someone that has proven to abuse YOUR money. My advise would be to budget and be more in control of your money.

Does he even help with bills? I’m really confused of how he’s working and you must be too, and y’all can’t figure out bills together. I think y’all need to sit and talk about some shit. All bills should be taken care of and figured out. I know sometimes something has to wait, but for 5 months?? And his boss should be giving his the work card or cash for materials. My bfs boss gives him the work card so he knows exactly what was bought and spent. He does that to all his employees. Why feel bad for a grown ass man that seems to be getting taken care of by you??

Your kids should come first. If he won't budget his own money why would he budget yours? Stop giving him your bank card, it isn't going to change. Don't let him guilt you into giving him money. 5 months behind on your child's school payments. That is all you should have to say. You have other priorities.

No girl, you’re not being mean. All the ladies here have given you great advice.

If your having a rough time saying no to him next time he asks your for money or your card tell him your accounts overdrawn..and you can’t....tell him you legitimately have nothing. That way you don’t have to be guilted for just saying “no” to him. I actually do this when my older sister asks me to lend her money.

I would strongly suggest taking a couple steps back and analyzing whether you can financially stay in this relationship..assess whether he’s using you. I’m not saying leave him but maybe draw some solid and serious boundaries with him. Was the money truly for work? Maybe it wasn’t and that’s why his boss didn’t “give it back to him”..this would throw up so many questions for me. It sucks though I feel for you there is NOTHING worse then questioning whether someone is using you as a cash cow...you need to remember your personal value and you are better then this. You deserve better and you should never be put in a position to pay for his “work” over your child. Putting you in that position makes him an inconsiderate person it doesn’t make you a bad parent.

This whole I give him money and he'll pay me back thing is WEIRD period. One..he should be providing for YOU AND THE KIDS and buying his own work shit. Two... stop giving him your bank card. Refer back to #1. 3. "Pay back?" In a relationship/marriage weird, just weird. 4. Refer to #1

Your SO should be more concerned with your sons education. Stop giving him money, you can't pay $70 a month for your son but a $100 in a day that he used to do what exactly?? Your SO knows money is tight so he has money for Easter but not for other things? So confused because you're enabling this behavior.

Your child’s education shouldn’t have to suffer because your so is a deadbeat.

Girl, he is dead weight. Do better for you and your kids only. He seems like a selfish person that only takes takes takes. And he’s taking advantage of you because you’re too nice I guess.

The fact that you’re not even able to pay for your child’s education due to you giving your SO money that you already know you’re not going to get back is extremely irresponsible! You need to stop giving him your card! Simple.

why are YOU , paying for HIS work ? & you have to pay for everything else ... lol somethings backwards ...

I would have a talk with him and tell him that he needs to do better at budgeting his own money. You have a lot of financial responsibility and you can’t continue supporting a grown man.

Sounds like you need to leave him. All you do is complain about him and he doesn’t seem like much of a keeper anyways

Stop giving him your money. It’s clear he just says he’ll pay you back with zero intentions of doing so.

Simple. Stop giving him your card and money...

Maybe switch to a public school until you're a little more financially stable? Private school seems to be way expensive if you're 5 months behind. Cut down on anything else that's not needed as well.