Trigger. Lost baby
Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
Op you can pm me if you'd like. I am truly sorry for your loss. ?? my heart breaks for you.
"No parent should ever have to bury a child."
Be open with the Drs and ask all your questions. You can take pictures, hold, bathe, lock of hair, mold hand and food prints (bring the kit), dress, request a priest and have them weigh, measure your baby if you'd like. They have a small kit they give bereaving families. Op I'm here for you. I'm sorry you and your family have to go through this. This pain has no words. Nothing compares. Sending hugs and love your way.
Edit: they can do genetic screening, placenta can be sent to the lab for examination and or autopsy. Not sure how early they can do those.
So sorry OP ? you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers
When I had my miscarriage I explained to my children that something must have been wrong with the baby and now the baby was with God (I know this would only pertain if you are a believer)
We let balloons go as a memorial and to help the kids "let go"
I wish I had the words to help console and comfort you...((hugs))
I am so sorry for you loss, this hits too close to home for me and it breaks my heart just imaging the pain you are feeling in this moment. I wish I could reach out to you and give you a hug and cry together because of everything. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and your sweet angel baby boy ?
Thank you, ladies. Thank you so much for all the prayers and thoughts. It means so much. I never thought I'd be here, in this place of loss, anger, frustration, mourning, questions, sadness... and it sucks more than I could have ever imagined.
Thank you, ladies. I really appreciate it.
Has anyone delivered a stillborn? PM me if you feel comfortable offering any advice.
I posted this for another mama in my group who lost her baby. I had an ectopic pregnancy at 13 weeks and this poem was sent to me. Hopefully it comforts you like it did me. So sorry for your loss.
His Journey's Just Begun
Don't think of him as gone away
His journey's just begun.
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one.
Just think of him resting
From the sorrow and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
That we could know today
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of him as living
In the hearts of those he touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And he was loved so much.
I don't even have a name for him. I have to think of a name. I thought I had months, not days.
I am so, so very sorry. I know nothing I say will ease your pain, its a loss like no other. I have been there. I pray God holds you close during this terrible time and the days, months & years to come. Losing a child is senseless and I'm sorry another mother has to go through it. I won't say I understand how you feel, because everyone feels differently, but know I can relate. I only say this because I cherish my pictures so much, but NILMDTS has photographers that will do pictures for free. Even if you never want to look at them, you have them should you ever want to. Lots and lots of hugs momma. Pm me anytime.
Thank you ladies. So so much. All of your words mean so much to me.
I'm just dreading this. Who wants to birth their sweet baby before Christmas and not bring him home? I just can't handle this.
I'm am so so very sorry for your loss...we lost our son February 14th this year and it is like a pain I have never experienced....
I wish I would have known about this before we lost him or someone would have told us about this, so please please please do not take it any possible way other than I am letting you know to help you....you're able to get a kit or the hospital can do his fingerprints for you to later have molded into a necklace. I so desperately wish we would have known this to have done with our Jameson....
Much love and positive healing thoughts your way!
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