OK I need advice so my sperm donor aka my ex..randomly wants to go to my 20 week appointment.. he's…

let.him go maybe him seeing.you at the appt will change his feelings. but if he dnt wanna be with u just because he going.to appts and being.there dnt get him out of.child support.lol !

does he want to be a part of the child's life after its born? or is he just wanting to go this appointment?

I would let him go, he's still the daddy girl

I would personally. Even if it never works out between the two of you he obviously wants to be a part of his kids life and that's rare these days. Your child's lucky.

@mrsdoyle, he wants to be in the kids life

I would let him go, but make sure he knows he needs to contribute to the child's life even beforehand. help pay for stuff and be there. I would be careful though, he may be doing it just to make sure you aren't moving on.

@mrsdoyle, that's another problem too..he doesn't wanna help financially at all..every single dollar I get from my taxes is going to pay for clothes and equipment and all the babies needs

if he won't help out then he doesn't deserve to be in the child's life! if he won't act like a father then he isn't one. just being there isn't enough. babies require a lot of money as well. he needs to do both.

I would let him go but I would also put him on child support too. It's not about if you need the money or not but it is about him helping you take care of what he helped to bring into this world. Now if he can't pay but still wants to be in their life I would say let him. Kids know no value in money but they do know when a parent is absent or barely there or whatever. Don't stand between their relationship if he is willing to be there because of money. Yes it does take a lot to raise them but you don't want your child to grow up resenting you either. Now if he has the funds then let child support work everything out for you. Which is the easier way to go.

I feel that whatever make you comfortable you should do. after the baby is born then I would allow him to see the baby and see if he steps up. but until then he isn't really supporting you and I would think of your feelings first and avoiding the stress.

Even if you're not his type it's still his child. I'd say let him go! If he causes drama you can cut him off but if he just wants to be there for his baby I don't see an issue. Your feelings towards/against him shouldn't affect the relationship he has with his kid.