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🚩So I need opinions and advice🚩
My BD and I no longer talk. He ignores me. I know in my ♡ the right thing to do is tell him when I go into labor.
BUT, my question is, what would you ladies say? He only gets a text. A single text. I'm not going to bug him to be there and I'm not going to blow up his phone with information that he doesn't deserve. Soooo- options? 👇
1. I'm in L&D.
2. Your daughter is on her way.
At one point he was just gonna get a, "Your daughter is here." txt. Bc that's all I really feel he should get. But, I'm not the type of person to deny him the opportunity to be there IF he chooses to.
So what would you say if you were in my 👟s?
My BD and I no longer talk. He ignores me. I know in my ♡ the right thing to do is tell him when I go into labor.
BUT, my question is, what would you ladies say? He only gets a text. A single text. I'm not going to bug him to be there and I'm not going to blow up his phone with information that he doesn't deserve. Soooo- options? 👇
1. I'm in L&D.
2. Your daughter is on her way.
At one point he was just gonna get a, "Your daughter is here." txt. Bc that's all I really feel he should get. But, I'm not the type of person to deny him the opportunity to be there IF he chooses to.
So what would you say if you were in my 👟s?
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I agree with @babycasey at the same time he has the right to know his child is coming into the world. I would just send a text when you have had her already so he knows. That way if you're in l&d and its false labor it won't be for nothing.
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I agree with @babycasey at the same time he has the right to know his child is coming into the world. I would just send a text when you have had her already so he knows. That way if you're in l&d and its false labor it won't be for nothing.
I will @babycasey and lol thank you @heykaidensmom 😌😍
@uhoh2015, tell him your and labor and deliver and give him an estimated time of how soon it will be before she arrives. If he show up then so be it, if not his loss not yours. And don't forget, I'll still bring you your after labor meal😏
you do what you feel in your heart, just expect the worst so you don't let yourself down.
Thank you ladies. it's so hard. Bc I don't want him to ever use it against me that I "kept" him from being there when she's born. although I do agree with @babycasey he doesn't deserve it and if he don't ask why should I tell. but I just don't think I can be the mom who doesn't do everything possible for her. if he chooses to suck and not be there at least she'll know I tried. 😕 @kcamps @ce5ce @marleiismama @heather-sophia.
I would notify him his daughter was goi g to he born soon and let him decide what to do with the info. Then put all the attention back on baby girl!
sorry swipe messed my grammer a bit lol
I'd say nothing.... if he's already ignoring you then why would he deserve anything..... you may be setting yourself up for disappointment if he only only ignores that text. Don't ask, don't tell.... if he knows when your due then leave it to him to care. In my opinion it's not your job to keep in the loop, as a father it's his job to want too be involved.
Just say hey I'm going into labor , On my way to L&D
I'd just go with the original plan "your daughter is here" because it'll be stressful on you if he shows up wanting to start shit
option 1 but maybe include you're in l&d
I would just do a simple text and say "your daughter is on the way" to be honest