I need advice. if the father of your baby has not been there for you the whole entire pregnancy... like won't text you…

I'm with ya if my ex decides not to be apart of the visits or help in anyway I'm not sure if I'm gonna invite him to the hospital either 💁🏽👶🏾

Yea Let His Ass Go.. In My Eyes That's All He Wants.. Is Custody Or A Blood Test... No Need To Put Yourself Through It Or Baby Girl

good luck hunny hope it all works out for y'all.

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I think he would be a great father if he actually stuck around. I just hope we can co parent and get along without having to get the courts involved. I don't need or want child support if he wants to be around and help out. so I'll definitely wait till I have the baby and get settled in at home. and let him know. @february2016 @leiibaaaby @shaunatb

me too I do agree with @leiibaaaby he may actually stay in her life and be a good father

ya he wants to come back in her life again and he hasn't seen her sence she was 1and a half and she's 5 almost 6 now.

I agree with @leiibaaaby

Yeah that's true. I am definitely going to breast feed. so he needs to understand he can't just take her. plus a newborn baby needs her mommy. @leiibaaaby

reply back and say "I'm OK with that, how are you going to help me provide for the baby?" and take it from there keeping only the baby in mind.

Oh god!!!! that's horrible! !! her father is an alcoholic. well he was, I heard he went to an out patient rehab .. but who knows?

I'm not sure if I could use that in court if he does take me. @february2016

I would tell him after i give birth and im home so he can be apart of the babys life and if he doesnt help out or be steady father then put him on child support but he doesnt have to be there when you give birth

I get child support but he ain't paying it so we're going to court dec 17th ugh. I will not let him take her though cause every time I got her back she was dirty and had lice and the same clothes on. im like wtf... his mom don't get her cause she always got her hopes up when she said she was gonna get her and never come and he was arrested for armed robbery. id rather my daughter be no where near him.

no. I haven't seen or heard from him since I was 4 weeks pregnant. @shaunatb

until today when he texted me telling me he doesn't wasn't want to talk or see me but tell him when I'm in labor. it doesn't work that way.

if he's there for y'all kid it shouldn't matter what you want for you. have he provided for the baby: stack up on things for baby demand things of that nature?

he will disappear again like my first twos fathers did.

if he tries to fight you for custody tell the courts you are breast feeding.. they will allow him to come visit the baby but not take the baby with him.. thats pretty sad that he wants to pop up out of no where and do that. i wouldnt tell him when i was going into labor that bs.. if he wanted to be there he should have been from the start.. i hope it all works out for you in the end. good luck sweetie.

he definitely won't be on the birth certificate and she won't have his last name. @february2016

he don't need to be there fuck him. don't tell him and you can have him on the list of people you don't wanna see while in the hospital and you don't have to put him on the birth certificate.

he doesn't even know when I'm due ! @shardeja I think that's why he messaged me today because he thinks I'm getting close. when I really have 3 months left.

he doesn't even know her name lol

what kind of father is that.

Yea & Keep It That Way.. Don't Tell Him Anything

exactly! and I don't want him to try to fight me for custody...

he would never get full custody because he has nothing to use against me.

I just don't want to have to share my newborn baby..

like actually having to let her go be with her dad without me. that's not fair for me or her.

and that's a lot of stress...

i.dont even want child support. I'll do it alone . I've done it this far without his help.

@lexrexx @february2016 @tea-chan @tahtahme @shardeja

maybe just don't let him in the room? There's consequences no matter your choice.

if you only want child support, no father, don't tell him. the problem is he gets to be however he wants to be just like you get to be your kind of mom.

You don't owe him a damn thing. Tell him that if he doesn't want to fully be involved, unless it's convinient for him, then piss off. A child doesn't run on his schedule , and neither do you.

I'll Say No.. Because 9/10 He Just Wants A Paternity Test & Try To Get Custody

No way girl! You don't need that stress or negative energy while pregnant or while giving birth to your little one!