I need advice!! So I am currently in an unplanned pregnancy. Baby's father is very wishy washy about being involved. And…

Although I'm not obliged to tell him anything!

Well I had my ultrasound Wednesday and daddy said he's was coming and didn't...I was so hurt and pissed. Of course when I went to see specialist my Bp was sky high so now he's diagnosing me with high risk pregnancy. I just wanna tell the father to fuck off and grow a pair! He says he's very excited to be having a boy. I decided I'm not going out of my way for him. Let the ball be in his court and if he wants to know how we are he will have to ask.

Well he says he's coming to ultrasound :) although I'm trying not to get too excited I'll believe it when he walks through the doors

One time for like 20 min.

Have you met his mother?

It bothers me that he hasn't even told his mother. Part of me wants to fb her and let her know she has a grandbaby on the way. But then I feel that'll just open up a can of worms with the dad. I want my baby's grandparents to be involved

My little girl put such a strain on mine and the bfs relationship( fatherly stress and shock). and i had the exact same thing but as soon as he saw his little girl and heard her heartbeat( recorded) he came around. sometimes giving space and allowing their mind to settle helps.

if he truly isn't interested don't waste your time. it will be harder on the child in the long run. let him know about the appts if he doesn't go show him pics if still not interested don't push he will resent you and the baby if he feels pushed into it instead of coming around on his own. it is hard but your baby will be more stable and happy this way.

i had the same problem but he left me for his ex he came around when i was 7 mons then went to a first doctor worse time ever just know if its meant to be he will come around

I would do your best to give your child the best and let him know of any apts incase he decides to come and maybe he'll come around! And all pregnancy a are planned by God, even if it's a tough situation for you! Good luck

Thanks everyone! 😘😃

It'll be hard to do it without him, but we women are a lot stronger than people give us credit for. So if he ends up wanting to be a part of the babies life, great. If not, you've totally got this. Good luck!

Just my first ultrasound. We aren't dating or anything...this was a oops. But a beautiful oops.

My boyfriend at first didn't think we should keep the baby, but after walking past newborns in a hospital he suddenly was more keen on the idea. But it was only when we went to my first prenatal appointment and he saw the baby that I saw a different kind of commitment in him. He even said that it changed something to actually see the little one. He is so supportive now. He buys all these vitamins and makes me take them everyday and really just does whatever he can to make sure that I'm comfortable so that baby is comfortable. Sometimes all it takes is seeing that there is a little human growing in there. Have u shown him pictures ?

I don't even know if his mother knows I'm preggo. I've been wanting to send her a baby shower invitation. But if she doesn't know I don't want to be the one who drops the bomb and make my situation worse

I agree with @californiahaley. My fiancé is an executive in a start-up company and went to only the ultrasound appts with me. But he's in no way shape or form a bad father or disinterested in his son. Fatherhood is definitely something he has to settle into, and maybe your baby's father just needs some time and space to grow into the idea of having a child. Men aren't wired like we are, and the fastest way to push them away is to force them into something they don't want to be apart of. Good luck love!

Just because he doesn't go to that stuff doesn't mean he doesn't care about baby. My husband went to the first appointment the first and last ultrasound and that's it. I went to all appointments alone and his mom went with me to the gender revel. My husband just couldn't get out of work to go to these things and classes aren't his thing so we never took any. But he's a great dad. It took awhile for things to become real for us.

I can tell him til I'm blue in the face...but he keeps saying he doesn't think it's right to go with me. I told him lord forbid if there's something wrong id like for him to be there. I'm not good at texting bad news...and I feel I shouldn't he should b there

Tell him to go to the ultrasound! My boyfriend saw that and suddenly he was much more involved we are on our second now. He may not have the same reaction but it's something he shouldn't miss.

I can't wait to feel flutters and or somersaults

Thanks Abby. Absolutely easier said than done. It drives me bonkers why you wouldn't want to be involved this baby has your blood and genes. Ugh...maybe it's the new gf.

I'm sorry that he's not that involved, but don't sweat him, easier said than done, focus on you and baby, if he doesn't want to be involved then his loss! You need to be stress free and healthy so focus on that and concentrating on getting ready to feel those flutters soon!