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mommy_391
Liix·Мама троих детей

Advice??my 6 year old is acting up...

I know it might not help but my 6 year old raise his hand at me and call me fat before that he hit me and i say no because you know you cry. I took his tablet away and told him that he needs to stop. that got him more mad and thats when he did it.So i tell him he would stay with me these weekend and not with his dad. I let his dad know and he is not agreeing with my decision. He says he is going to talk to him but its been the 3rd time he talks to him and nothing. That doind that wouldn't help💁‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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themothafuckinladymarlow
Linden·Мама сына (5 лет)

You canNOT take away time with his father as a punishment, for ANYTHING. That's freakin horrible.

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momgroupreject
Mamabirdddd·Мама сына (4 года)

Have you considered therapy? You can’t just threaten to or take away court ordered parenting time as a punishment for bad behavior. He deserves time with each willing parent. His dad isn’t a privilege, he’s a right to be able to see him. You guys need to work out a healthy co-parenting plan and definitely try therapy for his aggressive behavior but it’s not ever fair to tell him he won’t see his dad. What if his dad did that to you?

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danniijohn
Dannii ·Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (25 нед.)

I just think there is a better way, maybe ask their dad if you can pick your son up for an hour in his time to talk to him, or better yet put your other kids to bed and let your son stay up a little later to talk with him.

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themothafuckinladymarlow
Linden·Мама сына (5 лет)

@ekko Right?? Shit, that's VACATION! 🤣

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mommy_391
Liix·Мама троих детей

@leonardsquared it's to much lol??? Yeah I get 2 full weekends I tough it's not enough 🤔😅

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danniijohn
Dannii ·Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (26 нед.)

@mommy_391 Alot of people are doing it alone, completely alone with no help from the child's fathers. You get two weekends which is pretty good.

I have a husband who works 12-14 hours a day and works 14 days straight and has one day off, we don't leave our child with anyone so I don't get a break either. It's what we all chose to do when we became parents. Being a parent is hard but well worth it.

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danniijohn
Dannii ·Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (25 нед.)

I agree with the other ladies, stopping him from seeing his dad as a punishment is just not right. Take his tablet, all his other toys but definitely not his dad.

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mommy_391
Liix·Мама троих детей

I didn't say it's a punishment to him..I should have written that he was going to stay with me to talk and understanding why he is acting like that..since my other 2 kids are going I would have the weekend for him..

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themothafuckinladymarlow
Linden·Мама сына (5 лет)

You canNOT take away time with his father as a punishment, for ANYTHING. That's freakin horrible.

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mommy_391
Liix·Мама троих детей

@momgroupreject I know but I'm not trying to argue with him he has decide before not to take our kids with him for 2 months.. or take our daughter since we didn't have a court order.but you right best to go to court and come to a agreement or judge decide if we don't agree??

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momgroupreject
Mamabirdddd·Мама сына (4 года)

@mommy_391, you can agree in court so that it’s court record. That way you have something to fall back on. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can “agree out of court” that’s just their way to manipulate the situation and if they bail, your kids get nothing. You can even file for certain agreed upon things and submit it to court with a lawyer.

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themothafuckinladymarlow
Linden·Мама сына (5 лет)

@mommy_391 You LITERALLY do though. 🤦‍♀️ When taking his tablet away didn't change his attitude, you moved to "Fine, you're not going to your Dad's this weekend. He's SIX, he will see it NO other way than you're taking away time with his Dad cause of his attitude/actions....PUNISHMENT. I think you need to reread what you wrote and possibly rethink/go back over the conversation with your kid again and pay attention to how you reacted. You just need to have a conversation with him on your time. Period.🤷‍♀️

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momgroupreject
Mamabirdddd·Мама сына (4 года)

Have you considered therapy? You can’t just threaten to or take away court ordered parenting time as a punishment for bad behavior. He deserves time with each willing parent. His dad isn’t a privilege, he’s a right to be able to see him. You guys need to work out a healthy co-parenting plan and definitely try therapy for his aggressive behavior but it’s not ever fair to tell him he won’t see his dad. What if his dad did that to you?

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momgroupreject
Mamabirdddd·Мама сына (4 года)

@mommy_391, you can talk to him on your parenting time. It’s not ok to take away the other parents time. You haven’t been doing it by yourself if his dad has full weekend visits, that’s typically the schedule. If you want it modified to have this child with his dad more you can petition the court but threatening another parents time is a huge no no and I’m glad he agreed.

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mommy_391
Liix·Мама троих детей

@momgroupreject yeah we don't have court order...since he only decide 2 weekends a month since he works every day and it's 2 hrs away..I get incharge of them all the time school Doctor..I try so many times for him to spend time with them but no...or coparent with him and nothing..I know it shouldn't be what I say, but he decided only the kids money and 2 weekends

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momgroupreject
Mamabirdddd·Мама сына (4 года)

@mommy_391, he doesn’t get to decide though lol that’s what court is for. Court decides parenting time and child support.

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