Question: 16 year old dating an q8 year old? Thoughts??
My opinion is hell no. 16 year old is still a kid. Kids now a days want to be grown so bad and be in adult relationships and situations. I know when my daughters are 16 and they tell me they are dating an 18 year old. I will surely flip my lid.
Everyone their own opinions, if I see he’s a respectful man who loves my daughter I wouldn’t care. I would tell her to invite him over so like that I can keep an eye on them. When I was in high school kids my age would only think about sex. Not that older men wouldn’t but never forced me into anything. I remember some kids my age liked me and I said I didn’t feel the same. He keep telling me how he wanted to kill him self since no one loved him. I felt bad but that’s how they act to get to you 🤷🏻♀️ like I said it depends on the person. Your kid can be with someone the same age as her and he can treat her like shit.
I wasn’t the best daughter growing up, but my parents had no clue. I was 13 talking to guys in there mid-20s. I’m definitely not proud of what I did, but I can’t take it back. I will make sure my kids know between right and wrong. I don’t think that 16 and 18 is bad. Just because the girl is 16 and the boy is 18, people think it’s bad. Reverse it and they think the boy is doing great. Also, just because they are dating doesn’t mean they are having sex. I talked and “dated” many boys growing up but didn’t have sex until 18. Every parent raises their child differently, and that’s perfectly fine!
If something were to happen to her, the boyfriend would be tried as an adult
I am okay with my child dating with a 4 year age gap when she is a minor. So but dating isn't allowed till 15 yo in my house either. And I say 4 years bc it's the age range of her classmates. That will go for my sons as well. Rules will be in place as they were for me when I was a teen.
I think I am okay with the gap bc there was a 4 almost 5 year gap between my parents and they had started dating when they were teens. My mom pursued my dad.
I was 16 when I started dating my husband and he was only 6minths shy of 18.
In my state 17 is the age of consent. But typically no trouble will come of a 16yo with an 18yo.
Btw there are 5 years between my sister and her fiance. They have been together since she was 19.
She is 24 and they are getting married after this Corona stuff is over.
My bil was married to a woman that was 3 months older then him and it didn't work out (btw she cheated on him, took out her birth control and didnt tell him, then his the pregnancy for 5 months). He is 36 and dating someone that is 19 now. Both of them are happy. She pursued him.
I'm ok with a 4 year gap also. Even a 10 year gap. Just not with a minor and most certainly not with my minor child. That's the only thing for me
and that's okay. Every parent has their own way. Minor I'm okay with 4 years. That's it. My in laws did they best they could to protect my husband from any kind of trouble and we had just under a 2 year gap 16 for me 17 turning 18 6 months later. There were a lot of rules with his parents. No under blankets, no in bedrooms, no sleepovers, not being alone. It didnt work how they had hoped as we found our ways and every teen does. But we also didnt know the laws. My child will know there are laws and if she isn't careful she can ruin a young man's life and her own even.
When I was 17, I started dating a guy that was 20. We both worked together. My dad didn’t show much concern other than he told me don’t get pregnant! It was casual at first and we took it super slow. We didn’t get intimate with each other until after I turned 18. Now that I have a daughter of my own I don’t think I’d be happy with it. We’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.
I don’t see a big deal but it can be in the eyes of the law. I wouldn’t want my child to be in a relationship like this because I worry about legal reasons. You don’t know people these days he/she might turn around and might report it to the police out of meanness.
I got married at 18, no regrets, but I would not advise my daughter to start family life at such an early age. About dating... I think it’s ok... nowadays teenagers are so ..developing quickly 🙀and their mind set is completely different than we had at their age
I mean it’s not a HUGE gap but rules would be in place. No sleep Overs. No being in the room with the door shut. I know kids will do as they please if they want but I also hope to educate my daughter and son on what’s appropriate and not appropriate so they aren’t getting into bad situations. My brother was 19 and my sister in law was 15 when they met. (I’d flip lol) buuut I know my brother and he’s a good guy. They’ve been together 15 years. Married for 5.
I started dating my husband at 17 and he was 19. My mom was not happy about it but we were really good friends before. Now here I am 27 years old and he’s 29 and we are married with three kids and still going strong. A two year age gap is not bad in my eyes, 18 years old is still a teen to me
I mean I was 16-17 dating a 19 year old. I wouldn't want my kids dating till they're out the house personally but I feel like as long as the person they're dating still has ( teen ) at the end of their age it's not bad... My husband disagrees tho.
I was 16 when my now husband and I started dating. He had just turned 18 the month before.
I feel like 18 and young dont have no business being inna relationships un less thy have the talk and know what there ready for as in getting that little heart broken which im scared for my boys
I dont see it as a big deal. I was 16 dating an 18 year old. We started dating when he was 17 and he turned 18 was still in high school. I think if the parents are ok with it it's fine.
16 is pretty young. I'm not talking about a grown adult situation. I'm 5 years younger then my kids dad.but it's not a big deal at all. Because of being an adult. This is a child for God's sake. Children shouldn't be put in grown situations. And when I think about it I only think of my kids. Like what If they were 16 dating a an 18 year old. Not happening. But the fact it's not ok. 2 year gap sure. If she was 21 dating a 23 year old not a big deal because of being an adult.
@anicole3285, when I was 13 my boyfriend at time was 17 thing’s are dif now though
Now that I probably wouldn't be ok with... Maybe 15 & 17 but not 13 .. Just my opinion
I agree. No hate towards the commenter though. That’s weird af that a 17 yo would even have interest in a 13yo.
Idk I think it’s completely normal. I know a few couples whose ages were exactly this. It isn’t much difference unless the 18 year has been on his own living his life w no adults then he might be ahead of where she’s at but in general age wise, I don’t find that to be a big deal. I feel like at sixteen my limit on age would be 19. I wouldn’t allow past that and the 19 year old would have to have me convinced this is a good thing. Older than that and I won’t be tolerating it at all. Especially not 21 and older for obvious reasons.
Agreed. Just my opinion but just cause a women’s husband or whoever really is 8 years older NOW. That doesn’t make it okay. Hope I’m wording that right . You wouldn’t want a 10 year old dating a 18 year old, would you? When both parties are of legal age that’s a different story...
@anicole3285, my man is 11 yrs older than me I met him when I was 22 and he was 32 we are together 19 yrs now
Completely fine and pretty normal. It’s only 2 years. 18 year old is still a kid to me 🤷♀️ No huge significance.
Sooo i was 17 when i met my husband he was 21 and who gave permission my parents but me n him were talking getting to know each other
Same here. We ended up getting married when I was 21, but it didn’t work out. Nothing to do with the age difference though.
My man was a little older, I always liked older me and it had nothing to do with daddy issues. My dad is a great dad who I love and respect but I have always liked older men for some reason. 🤷🏻♀️ Im still with him and my parents approved. I mean I did get pregnant so they didn’t have any other choice but they like him so that’s good.
same expect my younger brother was to get his girlfriend pregnant 1st , we waited bc we wanted to travel more n i was n to more into older man too something bout that mature mind
I mean it’s a two year difference. Not a big deal at all. Now 16 and dating someone who is 20+ is definitely a problem.
A 16year dating a 18 year old isn’t bad in my opinion it’s only a 2 year gap. an 18 year old to me are still just teens, but a 16 year old dating someone in their 20s is a big no for me.
Technically it’s considered illegal to date anyone under the age of 18 if ur 18+ but all states may be different on that ... but I think 19 and under is still a teenager so 16 dating an 18 year old is not really a big deal
It is. So idk why there are so many people thinking it's no big deal besides the fact of being a mother. I'm thinking of it as if it were my kids. Before I had kids. I wouldn't have thought it was a HUGE deal either
Most states have age of consent laws that waiver around 16 give or take so it's not really not illegal anywhere
I don’t see a big deal in a two yr difference 😂🤷🏼♀️ and a 8 ur old shouldn’t be thinking about boys imo creepy ... my husbands 8 yrs older then me not everyone likes there age range I always liked older kids when I was 13-14 I hung out with 19-20 yr olds also depends on maturity as well ... I had two kids by 18 so 🤷🏼♀️ my seconds kid dad told me he was my age but he was 14 smh 🤦♀️
@sherrynygirl, that’s great ! Me personally I couldn’t handle having my own kid that young , all my family worked I was in school so I wuda had no one to help me with my child and my hs didn’t do child care for students there that had kids soo it wuda been difficult
@flamingfiremom, my high school I finished at had a daycare that teen moms could use for free,you had to go to school and work to be in the program so yes it helped a lot
So 16 dating an 18 year old? Seems pretty normal too me. Would it wrong for you to date someone 2 to 3 years older than you? I get the entire at 18 your considered an adult, but are 18 year olds adults? Nope definitely not. I at 16 dated 18 and 19 year olds.
but you would though, now? Date someone 2 to 3 years older than you? So what's the difference is all I'm wondering?
A 8y old dating a 16y is not cool with me 16 dating 18 isnt a big deal to me
@j.concepcion ohhhh I was a little confused why there was so many ages going on but I was just going with it hahaha
Not hating, but idc if i was a millionaire i would not but my 3 year old in a 950 anything 🤣😂
Transgender children So I just learned that in my kids school district (my kids aren't in school yet my oldest will be starting kindergarten next September) there are twin boys who identify as girls. They are 5 years old. What's your opinions on this matter given they are 5!!! I don't believe that at that age they really understand the whole thing. So the entire school had to take a course on how to handle transgender children. For example they can't say girls go this or boys do that. What are your thoughts on the matter? Do u think the parents are behind this? Idk because I haven't met the parents or children. I just think at 5 it's very young for children to really understand. What do u ladies think?
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A 16year dating a 18 year old isn’t bad in my opinion it’s only a 2 year gap. an 18 year old to me are still just teens, but a 16 year old dating someone in their 20s is a big no for me.
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Idk I think it’s completely normal. I know a few couples whose ages were exactly this. It isn’t much difference unless the 18 year has been on his own living his life w no adults then he might be ahead of where she’s at but in general age wise, I don’t find that to be a big deal. I feel like at sixteen my limit on age would be 19. I wouldn’t allow past that and the 19 year old would have to have me convinced this is a good thing. Older than that and I won’t be tolerating it at all. Especially not 21 and older for obvious reasons.