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My husband's sil has covid. She's obviously quarantining in her house but is still loving on her kids and husband. I'm sorry but if I had it I would lock myself in a room.
She hasn't gotten her kids tested... they're obviously doing the whole remote learning and quarantining for two weeks but she plans to send them back without testing them on the Monday after Thanksgiving 😬😱.
My husband thinks I'm overreacting but I told him I don't want to see them on Christmas. I'm in the middle of iui cycles and don't want to risk this. Besides I don't think I could sit in a room with her knowing how irresponsible she has been not only with her family's health but those that are coming into contact with her and her family.
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I just want to say that you don’t actually have to get your kids tested if you are positive. I know people who have had it and been told this and we were also told the same thing by the school when it opened. The kids just have to do a quarantine and have the doctor say what day they can return. My sister had it and had no choice but to take care of my nephew his dad was there but he will only do certain things for my sister. The doctor just told her to wear a mask around him and for him to quarantine with her then he could return to daycare he didn’t need to be tested. I don’t think you’re wrong though. Do what you have to do to protect you and your family. So many people are doing virtual holidays.
But also regulations might be different for different areas. I’m just speaking on ours for where I am.
I understand that but why wouldn't you just get your kids tested just to be sure you weren't exposing someone else. That's my entire point. People don't seem to understand that you don't have to go for exactly what your doctor says 100 % of the time. I think it's selfish to not be testing your kids if you have covid ESPECIALLY if they are returning to school after the quarantine.
@massgirl, I know my sister’s pediatrician told her they wouldn’t test him unless he started to show symptoms because they didn’t want him to have to to through that if he didn’t have to. I’m guessing some people don’t want to make their child get tested if they don’t have to. I wouldn’t call it selfish if they are going by doctors orders because they probably trust their doctors. I get where you are coming from though.
Definitely not wrong.
People living in a household with a positive should actually be quarantined even longer. I think I read they should be quarantined 14 days AFTER their last exposure to the positive person. My boss had to do this when her husband tested positive. Even after he got the negative they had to continue to quarantine in case her or their daughter started showing symptoms.
People are getting to comfortable and risking other people’s lives. COVID has really shown just how selfish people are.
I also notified my boot camp which is where I’m pretty sure I got it because my coach tested positive a few days before I did. I figured they’d send out an email to notify the other members of possible exposure and possibly even close the gym for a couple weeks but they didn’t do either of those things. They’re still open and people are still working out.
Then post it on their Facebook page and call the board of health. 🤷♀️. Just because others are being irresponsible doesn't justify when you are.
@massgirl, I’m not being irresponsible. I notified everyone that I came in contact with. I actually don’t have Facebook.
I need to add that he owns his own business and only has 1 employee. They both tested negative twice so they’re working in separate rooms with their masks on. So he is not exposing anyone. I have not hugged or kissed him at all and he won’t sit next to me.
I’ve been at home with Covid all week and I’m not in a separate room. That would be impossible. I do all the cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. My husband would have to stay home from work in order to take care of the kids but he’s not going to do that. He’s self employed and doesn’t get sick pay. He tested twice this week and he was negative so he’s still going to work while I stay home with the kids. If I stay in a separate room who will take care of the kids? No one is allowed in the house since were quarantined. And yes I still hug my kids. I haven’t tested them and don’t plan to. When I feel better I will get tested and when it’s negative then they go back to school and we get on with our lives.
@2sweetie, Actually, he can’t do “whatever he wants” during a public health crisis when he is supposed to be quarantining because of his exposure to covid. Incredibly irresponsible.
@ekko, well he is because we need to pay our bills. The government gave us all these rules to follow but no financial assistance. So how does that work? Bill collectors don’t stop collecting
@earthymama, I know, so the government should order banks to stop collecting instead of ordering people to shut down and stay home. We only got one tiny stimulus all year yet they’re expecting us to lock down again and stop going to work.
You’re not wrong. I wouldn’t want to be around anyone at Christmas this year - especially if they’re being super irresponsible and especially if ttc! If she’s being reckless with her own family, then she’s not going to change.
I personally would test my kids before sending them back to school if COVID has been in my house, but unfortunately she’s under no obligation to do so and as long as they are symptom free they can return to school after fulfilling their 14-day quarantine. We’ve had multiple parents who have tested positive and their kids never had symptoms or were tested and they’ve come back after 14 days. There’s nothing we can do because they’re following public health protocols and we can’t force people to test. It makes me uneasy, for sure. Sadly this situation is actually pretty common in my experience.
@ekko omg the arrogance is right on point 🙄😑...is the one thing that I cannot stand about husband's family.
Exactly. I would never be able to live with that on my conscience.
@massgirl, We had most classes together throughout high school. I remember being lab partners several times over the years and he was so impatient with me. 🙄 He was nice in general, but annoyed that I wasn’t moving as fast as him. Also probably mad that I was more interested in socializing than doing the work lol
@ekko he's an incredibly impatient person and has anger issues. He only likes to socialize with people that are on his "level" nothing about what you experienced surprises me at all. Kiddo and his twins are six months apart so that's really the only reason I speak to him or his wife 😂
I had COVID last month and I’m pretty sure my kids had it except the youngest but I still stayed away from them as much as I could I even slept in a separate room. I constantly washed my hands and I wore a mask in my house. I would almost forget sometimes and when I made food once I was blowing it to cool it down and had to throw it away soon as I remembered lol ugh. I think she sounds very selfish🤷🏼♀️
Right. She keeps putting all these sympathy posts on Facebook of her being "miserable" and cuddling on her kids. Like go to bed dumbass.
After 10 days you are not contagious anymore although it can last in your system for up to 5 months so with my kids they needed to get tested once but after a positive they don’t retest and they where allowed to go back to school after 10 days but I waited the full 14 but if she can prevent her kids and husband from getting it then obviously she should I know I was kissing my hubby and everything before my test came back positive and he got tested and it came back negative
That's the problem she hasn't gotten them tested to know their status and if they are negative then she's risking them getting it and spreading it once they do go back to school. That's what irritates me the most.
I find it pretty ignorant she's all up on her husband and kids. 🤦♀️ I'm trying my best not to give it to my kids right now. I'm quarantined to my room. They do eAcademy but i have to be there to help them scan and submit things and I'm going to call tomorrow to see if they can be excused because my husband has no idea how to do any of that.
Right! Like yeah they've already been exposed but why make the situation worse then it is ESPECIALLY if you don't plan on getting them tested 🙄😑
I’m sorry but if she’s truly sending her kids back like that I would be THAT person to contact the school. I wouldn’t want to risk infecting the rest of the kids and teachers.
Your right ! She sounds very irresponsible to her young children.A friend of mine works in a ny hospital she got coronavirus and sat quarantined in her bedroom 14 full days didn’t give it to her 3 daughters or her husband luckily and locked herself in her bedroom she had it mild too but,was very safe ,I wouldn’t want to be around that sister n law no thanks
I don't think you're wrong. She clearly isn't responsible and you're in the middle of ttc. What if you became pregnant and had complications due to fever or illness? No way. Stress alone can make a cycle fail. You need to stay home, relax, and know you aren't going to get covid.
That's so damn irresponsible of her to send the kids back without getting them tested. What if they are asymptomatic carriers who give it to their grandparents? Who cares if a classmate has a family member die at Christmas, it's all about me and my convenience. This is why the crap keeps cycling through.
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I don't think you're wrong. She clearly isn't responsible and you're in the middle of ttc. What if you became pregnant and had complications due to fever or illness? No way. Stress alone can make a cycle fail. You need to stay home, relax, and know you aren't going to get covid.
That's so damn irresponsible of her to send the kids back without getting them tested. What if they are asymptomatic carriers who give it to their grandparents? Who cares if a classmate has a family member die at Christmas, it's all about me and my convenience. This is why the crap keeps cycling through.