Hey guys. It's been a while since I've really posted anything on here. My husband and I are in the middle of a divorce. My 4.5 year old son just got diagnosed with ADHD. He's also been in therapy for about a year. I was just told today that they started him on meds without informing me this. My husband said the teachers recommend him be medicated and so did the doctors, of course the teachers did, it makes their job easier. I was informed months ago medication was an option, but like I said I was just informed today that he has already started. The medication they gave him, it is called Quilivant. So basically Adderall. Did u guys know there is Meth in it?? 🥺It's the generic brand, it's liquid and it's extended release. Why do I feel so horrible about this? He's still my baby and they put him on drugs already. He's not even 5 yet. The side effects scare the crap out of me, Especially the ticks he can get from them. My best friend's son was on meds and had bad symptoms, and has some life long ticks because of it. I'm so worried about him now, not being there at home with him and my other kids. Can anyone give me any advice if you have been through this and what did u do?
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Just like previous posters said. It makes a difference educating yourself about the drug. If he truly has ADHD then the benefits of the drug along with therapy will certainly help him in the long run. The slow release is a better option for him because it doesn't have as many as many withdrawal affects. I'm actually on adderall xr as an adult. I wasn't diagnosed until recently and I wish my parents and teachers would have stepped up and treated me. My childhood would have been very different.
As far as the legalities of this. Does your ex have sole custody or is it shared. In my court order my ex husband and I have shared responsibility (aka custody) but if we disagree then I have final say.
I will say if the doctors, teachers, and your ex agree he needs to be medicated it will be an uphill battle for you to get him off of it.
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I'm still here, miss you too. Just been more busy then usual lately. Got a full time job now too. Hope all is well by you
@ladyfreyja, yay, I am so glad you are doing well. We are all well here too, thank you.
@nothingtoseehere, neither is generic meth 😂
@kush_queen420 are you for real? You really believe women on this app need to stop telling others to go to therapy because YOU believe it doesn't help? Damn. 😬
@kush_queen420 have you been to therapy before?
I'm so sorry no one told you about him being on medication. Do you see your children regularly? 😔 My youngest was just diagnosed last Friday with adhd. We chose medication because he was being so aggressive in school and getting into lots of trouble. He was screaming, throwing things, slamming chairs, ect. It's really affecting his school work. He's also getting an emotional support worker and a tss worker.
Omg isn’t he too young to be diagnosed with that? Did you know that we don’t gain the skills of body regulation UNTIL 8 YEARS OLD? I don’t have a child with ADHD so I may be speaking out of ignorance. But I do have a hyper child with social emotional issues and so maybe that’s why im a little worried about this.
No actually they can diagnose as young as 3. ADHD presents with other symptoms besides hyper activity. There’s usually other issues going on besides the hyper activity that have parents concerned enough to get their child evaluated by a psychologist. It’s an in depth process if done correctly.
Kinda sounds like my son, but he will sometime push other kids, most of the time he does not listen either, and he sometimes curses at school. He has good days and bad days in school
Just like previous posters said. It makes a difference educating yourself about the drug. If he truly has ADHD then the benefits of the drug along with therapy will certainly help him in the long run. The slow release is a better option for him because it doesn't have as many as many withdrawal affects. I'm actually on adderall xr as an adult. I wasn't diagnosed until recently and I wish my parents and teachers would have stepped up and treated me. My childhood would have been very different.
As far as the legalities of this. Does your ex have sole custody or is it shared. In my court order my ex husband and I have shared responsibility (aka custody) but if we disagree then I have final say.
I will say if the doctors, teachers, and your ex agree he needs to be medicated it will be an uphill battle for you to get him off of it.
@ladyfreyja that's such a gray area because there's nothing legally binding that forces him to tell you. ask your lawyer maybe
@massgirl I will this week. He uses my kids against me as a weapon. He says why should I have to know anything about them if I'm not helping pay for them. Ummm because I love them and they are my children too and because I left his drunk ass and came to live with my friend because I had to get away from him and I don't start my new full time job next week and I still need to get off my feet and if he wants child support I'm more then happy to do it and agree to it in court. I was a stay at home mom for almost two years.
I also wanted to add, with adhd kids also deal with impulsive behaviors and aggression. At first I didn’t want my son on medicine because I thought it would really change him. I didn’t understand how difficult it was for him to control everything going on in his brain. It really affected him in all aspects of his life. Especially school. It’s not about making the teachers job easier, it’s about giving your child the resources to succeed in the classroom setting. I do a combination of in home therapy, out patient therapy, case management and medicine for my son. He needs all resources available to him to help him succeed and to help him in his daily life.
Totally agreed. As a kid it was so hard for me to focus in school and by middle school I became withdrawn. In high school I became impulsive and started failing classes. Being medicated would have changed my life drastically. Children that have ADHD are at greater risk to suffer from depression and/or anxiety among other things.
@massgirl depression is one of the side affects, and serious depression if he ever goes off the meds ☹️🥺
@ladyfreyja the depression side affect usually happens if you're abusing it. And I said risk. Medication effects everyone differently. ADHD is typically comorbid which means that it usually coexist with other disorders, depression being one of them
First, I would recommend talking to your pharmacist for full information on potential side effects. It should not contain Meth like crystal meth, although it is a stimulant medication. In children with true ADHD, the stimulant has a paradoxical effect and actually calms them.
Second, your ex-husband shouldn’t have been able to start him on meds without your consent if you both have joint legal custody. You have a right to be part of his treatment and participate in making decisions regarding his treatment.
I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. It sounds stressful. Hugs to you 💜💜
So far there is nothing in writing we just started the divorce process with our lawyers. His excuse is he told me months ago that medication might be an option. I was NEVER told they mad a decision to start him on it or that he started it, untill today!!! Now it's just another thing I'm gonna have to talk about with my lawyer this week
@ladyfreyja, sorry if I’m being to nosy but why don’t you have your kids? From what I remember from previous post from very long ago your husband was very controlling and abusive.
@badwolfmomma15 he's controlling, Insecure and pretty much a narcissist. I left with no money or a job and moved in with my friend and her boyfriend, plus her two kids. No room for my kids here, I start my new full time job Monday at last then just need to get my own place and then I can have my kids visit me.
My son has adhd along with bipolar. He is 6 and has been on meds since about 4 1/2. At first I was opposed to it but it’s definitely a life saver. There are side affects with all meds but you have to outway the benefits. Is your son living with you?
Wait who put him on meds without you knowing? I have an 9 yr old and I will not give him meds his teachers and myself has helped him learn how to clam down with his adhd and other disabilities.
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I also wanted to add, with adhd kids also deal with impulsive behaviors and aggression. At first I didn’t want my son on medicine because I thought it would really change him. I didn’t understand how difficult it was for him to control everything going on in his brain. It really affected him in all aspects of his life. Especially school. It’s not about making the teachers job easier, it’s about giving your child the resources to succeed in the classroom setting. I do a combination of in home therapy, out patient therapy, case management and medicine for my son. He needs all resources available to him to help him succeed and to help him in his daily life.