Ok so not using actual numbers.. But everyone knows I'm over weight since having my girls. It's no…
Ok so not using actual numbers.. But everyone knows I'm over weight since having my girls. It's no secret. BUT i was talking with my hubby last night and idk how we got to this but he said something like (not using actual numbers) no one should weigh 800lbs, they should take care of themselves. And i said so what if someone weighs 800lbs? He said no one should weigh that, they should be healthier. I said well i almost weigh 800! I'm in the 790s. And I'm healthy. I may be overweight but i don't have any diseases, no high cholesterol, no high blood pressure, i don't have a bad heart, lungs, or anything else. So I'm healthy I'm just over weight. So then we argued about him having an issue with my weight.. Am i wrong in this? Because it really hurt my feelings.. I've tried sooo many different things to lose weight but having hypothyroidism makes you gain/hard to lose. And my medications for depression and anxiety cause you to gain also.. So it's very hard to lose weight.. But i didn't even know he had an issue with my weight until last night..
BunsInMyOven·
Did he say 800 or did he say a number close to your weight???
Lauren🖤··
A number close to my weight
BunsInMyOven··
how did it even come up??
Lauren🖤··
i honestly don't remeber.
Amanda·
Мама троих детей
I dont think you're wrong. He should havent been arguing with you about your weight. You had kids. Its HARD to loose that weight and sometimes gain faster because having kids does that to your metabolism. I would have been pissed. Im struggling to with my weight. I was thinner the week i came home from giving birth then i am now (that was 2 months ago) and its a horrible feeling.
Lauren🖤··
it was.. I talked to him more and he explained that he wasn't trying to be hurtful but he came across very wrong for what he was trying to say which was that he was concerned for my health.. But being concerned about my health is one thing and bringing up my weight is another. He could have expressed his worries without even mentioning my weight..
Amanda··
Мама троих детей
very true. Its good he apologized
Lauren🖤··
yea it helped some.
BunsInMyOven·
Sorry I just have more questions. Are you sure he is concerned about your weight?
As a woman, if you’re carrying any extra weight in your belly, you’re at higher risk for heart disease.. it’s just a fact. And you may be healthy in all other regards but that extra weight is a ticking time bomb if you aren’t active. So just playing devil’s advocate, maybe he’s just concerned ab your health longterm. Especially with having kids. It’s a super touchy subject and easy to feel hurt about but I would try to have a conversation where you promise not to take things personally and understand where he is coming from.
Lauren🖤··
yea my mom would babysit but my hubby never stops working...
BunsInMyOven··
good!
Well you guys need to make time together a priority so I’d figure it out. He obviously LOVES you and cares about you. Try not to stew over what happened and be angry at him.. id really try to get to the bottom of what he means and if he meant you etc etc
Lauren🖤··
he just shuts down if i get upset or angry at something he says.. He just doesn't want to talk and any time i ask him to tell me what he means by something he says idk how to explain it.. But i will try to talk to him more about it.
mybabybear ·
Мама сына (5 лет)
No one really wants to talk about this subject. I doubt someone WOULDNT have an issue about their partner being overweight. I know it’s a touchy subject, but I’m sure he would rather you be a healthier weight since you are at risk for a lot of things no one would want you to get. I totally get he hurt your feelings and he probably could have said it in a better way.
Lauren🖤··
Like i said above. He's more unhealthy than i am. So idk why he's coming at me about my weight when he is skinnier but more unhealthy
mybabybear ··
Мама сына (5 лет)
did you also bring this up to him?
Lauren🖤··
no i was so mad that he said what he said i just argued about him having an issue with my weight that he denied..
Mind Yours·
I don’t think your wrong if he was concerned about your weight as in health wise then he should of approached you differently about it and if he wants to have a healthier lifestyle as a couple then he should have also said that differently
Lauren🖤··
He's not healthy though! He's Skinner but more unhealthy than i am. He doesn't want to be healthier as a couple.. He's never done any of my diets with me.. He eats what ever he wants in front of me. ..
Mind Yours··
yeah then you were definitely not wrong and he can kiss your butt lol
Lauren🖤··
@madrex2 Lol thank you! Im just really hurt about the entire thing..
Nyla·
Ok so I am overweight and let’s say I weigh 500lbs the way that I carry my weight people assume that I weigh less. Could this have been the case in your hubsands head? He said 800 because you look like you may weigh 550?
Lauren🖤··
Nyla··
seeee you carry your weight similar to me your legs are long and thinner and majority of the weight is just in the belly area which can easily be hidden with flowy tops which confirms my theory...he said that number without expecting it to be anywhere near your actual weight. Put his foot right in his mouth!
Lauren🖤··
lol he's good at that... I get what you're saying.. Im 6'1 so i do carry my weight well. I'm smaller than i was when i had hazel but I'm still too big.. I know i need to lose weight. But him saying what he said about it really hurt. I swear every time i actually feel decently good about myself he fucks it up by saying something...
Thisisnotaname·
I'm sure your weight dont bother him . He was already deep into the convo and had to stand by what he said . . Honestly. Just saying men are dumb . Anyhow . It's not the number on the scale he fell in love with your personality. Looks are just a bonus ;)
Lauren🖤··
@nouseforaname Well thank you very much. I really appreciate that🖤 I guess what bothered me was after i said i was almost ___ amount of weight he still said well no one should weigh that and that i should be healthier or take better care of myself..
Thisisnotaname··
you know men when they put they foot in their mouth . Stubborn and hard to go back . Prolly all it was . Ugggggh men ...
Lauren🖤··
@nouseforaname that's true. He's very stubborn..
Melissa·
Men are stupid!! I once overheard my husband tell a buddy of his how I was fat!! Oh I was pissed!! It was a few months after I had our daughter. I straight up told him I will NEVER be as small as I was before I had kids and that I’m fine with the way my body is. It’s still in the back of my mind how he thinks I’m fat. But I try not to let it bother me.
Lauren🖤··
I'm so sorry! That's terrible! But i understand how you feel. I'll never be how i was when we met.. I was 18 and just outta high school and danced in high school so i was tiny... This was how skinny i was when we first met.
Thisisnotaname··
those legs !!!!!!!!! I look at this and more so I see that beauty of a smile !!!!!! Keep smiling women !
Lauren🖤··
@nouseforaname lol thank you!
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·
He is so full of it big is beautiful too I’m sure he’s no prize pig himself 😩
Lauren🖤··
Hahaha i feel this! He's handsome to me but probably not to everyone else lol i just can't believe he said no one should weigh _______ amount of weight when that's only about 5lbs more than i am right now... This is my hubby..
Lauren🖤··
But i loved him after we met and he was goofy looking then lol