I’m 20 weeks and obvi can’t drink my sadness so I’ll vent to people who have been or are in similar situations. This morning my So decided he wasn’t going ice skating with my family and I because my older sister would be there and had recently disrespected him. He clearly didn’t understand why I was sad and why I wanted him to be the bigger person and come with me so I had him take me home. At one point he said “I don’t want anything to do with her” and “you’re defending her” and then I had to bury my feelings because I didn’t want to somehow make my baby upset and now he gets to go out and get blackout drunk while I have to be an adult and mommy and do what’s best for my unborn child. This and many other situations like this are making me become resentful towards him because I feel more responsible and he doesn’t even see that I’ve already sacrificed while he hasn’t and gets months more to prepare for being a parent while I have been one for almost half a year now.
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I agree, and I have tried to talk with both of them but they are both so stubborn. She would never apologize because that means (in her mind) that she’s wrong. She can’t see that it doesn’t matter right or wrong it was rude and he didn’t like it. And if he got an apology he wouldn’t accept it and it wouldn’t change his mind about the whole thing he is dead set on not liking her for the rest of time. Which I think is childish because that puts me and our child in awkward position! My only thing is, I can’t control her and I don’t see why MY Christmas night had to be shat on. I’ve been disrespected by his mother but I had to deal because it doesn’t matter if I like her she’s always gonna be there
How bad is what your sister said? Did she apologize? Why cant he stay home with you and have a couple beers?
It was disrespectful and not her place to tell him what to do or how to live, she has always been over protective and defensive when it comes to me because I’m very emotional. No she hasn’t apologized and doesn’t see anything wrong with what she said to him. I didn’t give him another option because I am so close with my family and have had these plans for at least a month. But the thing is, when he is upset he is silent so I wouldn’t have wanted to be alone with him anyways. He wouldn’t have been drinking, this fight was why he will now be drinking tonight.
I can see where both of you are coming from.
He was disrespected and has yet to receive an apology. I wouldn't want to be around someone either.
Just as you're allowed to have your feelings as well.
I suggest talking with your sister and asking her to apologize. If she refuses, that's that and he may continue not going to family events.
As well, you should have a talk with him and express your feelings in a polite manner.
We all deserve to be respected.