Advice Please!!!
I have a 6yo 3yo 2yo and an infant
They all have the same father except for my 2yo son. We had problems and Separated. I dated an ex for about 3 mos at this time and got pregnant. He’s known about the child since I found out I was pregnant but we weren’t 100% sure which was the father. I got back with my hubby and we worked things out and I had my son. He signed the birth certificate because we honestly thought he was the father but just a few months ago we took a dna test and he’s not.
Over the past 2 years I’ve contacted the other guy a few times trying to let him know how he’s doing and he’s blocked me out every single time. I’ve told him he is in fact his father and he doesn’t care. My ex’s father(my sons bio grandfather) however wants to see him. His entire family is really messed up. His sister molested her own 6mos old baby girl and caused tearing from her Vagina to her butt and was in icu and lost custody of all of her children. He is in jail for 6 mos currently for breaking his probation. He has multiple felonies. I’m very hesitant to even let my son be involved at all with this crazy family... what should I do?
My hubby is still on his birth certificate and idk if I want to change anything. Should I just pretend that family doesn’t even exist?
I’m going crazy trying to figure out what to do!
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@ladyblauvelt,
I’ve actually only ever seen him 1 time. I haven’t talked to him about it yet. Im kinda just trying to come up with ideas to run by him right now. He does know that he’s reached out to me though.
@lillys.mommy I'm not really sure, you know who he is and that's really your call if you want to keep him updated. Have you talked to your husband about how he feels about the situation?b
@ladyblauvelt, @kambam,
Also to clarify
Him and his sister have different fathers.
I’m considering maybe just giving him(his bio grand father) updates from time to time how he’s doing, new things he’s doing, maybe send a picture now and then and if that goes well maybe do a phone call of video chat.
What do you think?
Would that be opening a door I shouldn’t?
Wtf?! Im all for healthy coparenting but I would not get involved with them. Literally nothing positive about that situation. If they dont like it they can go to court for supervised visits.
You've tried reaching out to his biological father and he's ignored you every time. The family has major issues and probably shouldn't be involved with the child anyway. Your husband has been there for the birth of him, has raised him the last 2 years as his own, and he is on the birth certificate. I would just keep it as is, as far as I'm concerned or anyone, your husband is his father
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@kambam,
His bio fathers dad(my sons grandfather) did reach out to me and ask to see him.