You know what's upsetting? I was trying something different (sexually) and it was the most fun I had with my hubby in the 3yrs of marriage...last night I wanted to do it again and he said we would...he said no...I was so upset! I cried, slept on my daughter's bedroom floor for a bit then went back to bed and cried myself to sleep....got my hopes up for nothing! 😔😭
@bitchcraft, I’m just trying to give her another perspective.... I know I wouldn’t want my hubby being upset if I said I was too tired for sex, and I wouldn’t be upset if he was. Adjust your expectations.
@armywife72515, Yeah Definitely doesn’t do anything for me
@let_there_be_life no its not..I didn't like it either that's why it took me over 3yrs to try again
@armywife72515, Oh I see. so BJ is not in the norm for you guys well that makes sense, I personally I’m not a huge fan of it so it’s more of a treat for him
@its.a.bird yeah I understand now. Just got a little shy about it that's all
@michellemybell09 @its.a.bird @itty_bitty @britt. Michelle was right I originally didn't want to say it cause most women have done that before and I have little experience...so it seems kinda silly to everybody else but not to me...
@let_there_be_life guess we're not really that rough lol we're noobs...it's different for us cause I hadn't tried it in a while (did it once when we were dating and I didn't like it so I didn't do it again til 2 nights ago)
@its.a.bird, I told y'all!!! It's real!! Here it is, nagging!! But you asked for it!😂 Nagging senses are on point! It's really not THAT serious,@michellemybell09, it's just a blow job.💁🏻 and apparently she WAS ok with talking about it, since she has answered. Oh yeah... And made a post about it. But I already know what you're going to say... "Nag nag nag"🙄
@its.a.bird, because I said maybe she doesn’t want to discuss what they did? I mean even the original poster told her she wasn’t abusing her husband so maybe she also thought asking if she was kicking and punching him was unnecessary? And I only got rude when she suggested I can’t do simple math. But whatever. I don’t have time to argue with you as well.
I hope it works out better for you tonight! But I am confused on the “rough part” during a bj?? Have him pull your hair or choke you. Those are always pleasing.
@armywife72515, it won't last! Once the baby gets a bit older, you'll get a bit more freedom back.
@itty_bitty, be careful!! @michellemybell09, doesn't like those questions! Her spidey senses start tingling, and she comes out to nag you! It's not a myth... It happened to me! But I've heard she can only nag during the day... It goes into hiding at night... Like a cave or something. That parts probably an urban legend... I don't know. But I know it feeds on questions like yours. So I'm just warning you.
And now that I know what happened... It's 😕 I was hoping for 😟
@its.a.bird no it was because that I feel more like I'm just a mom then a wife, and I just wanted a night to let loose and have fun.
@itty_bitty yes we're an Army family. It wasn't his military job he's reserves it was his civilian job, he works construction sorta, and no I didn't put my finger in his butt that's kinda gross. I gave him a bj for the first time in a while..
@michellemybell09 thanks I am better. We talked it over.
Good luck dear. I always felt horrible when I had to turn down hubby.
@britt. I didn't say that. We may disagree on what rough means but I don't do name calling..
@michellemybell09, well that's not very nice... Calling my questions "stupid" and calling me "immature". 😒 But if you do understand, then why do you continue to nag me about it? I thought I made it very clear that I disagree, and don't give a shit... No?? Maybe nagging is just your thing??😕
@lillyb thanks..we may try again just depends on the day and how sore he is from work
I'm sorry he said he would and then turned u down because he was tired. I've been on both ends especially since my daughter still doesnt sleep well I've turned down my hubby even after I've promised so many times or we would be in the middle and baby would wake up and by the time I got her back down I just wanted to go back to sleep. I can understand feeling upset but try to understand that his feelings as well. Maybe u can try again tonight :)
@armywife72515, if a man wants a good ol fashion slap during sex... That doesn't = abuse.
@michellemybell09, and just because I've asked doesn't mean she has to.... This is simple math. Do you understand now?
@michellemybell09, yes, I'm as serious as I can be, with this post. I assume if she didn't want to talk about it, she wouldn't post about it on an app... which even allows you to disable comments, which she did not do. Clearly this leans in the favor of wanting to talk about it. BUT if she doesn't... My comments will not force her to do so. No harm no foul. So what's the problem you've got? Any?
@britt. He had said he liked it rough, so I wanted to try something different than just kissing
Would you want him to be upset about you saying no if you were tired ?
@michellemybell09 he was tired from work...didn't get home til around 7pm
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
TWW!!
2dpo and on the tww journey. Anyone on the same dpo or close? Haven't decided if I will test at 12dpo or just wait and see if she shows up!!

I will be 41 :/
Short Luteal Phase?
I've just started temping because I believe that the reason I haven't had a BFP yet, after 20 months, is because I believe I may have a Luteal Phase Defect.
@michellemybell09, yes, I'm as serious as I can be, with this post. I assume if she didn't want to talk about it, she wouldn't post about it on an app... which even allows you to disable comments, which she did not do. Clearly this leans in the favor of wanting to talk about it. BUT if she doesn't... My comments will not force her to do so. No harm no foul. So what's the problem you've got? Any?