EDIT : this post is very long.
I need to rant really quick and I am expecting honest answers from some mamas on here! Tell me if I’m wrong. Couple months ago my boyfriend got into an accident and went through a coma, was in a rehab center and for weeks. I was only with him for the first 3 days of him being in the hospital cause him mom kicked me out and didn’t let me see him for months. When he woke up from his coma she lied to me told me that he didn’t remember me or his daughter! When she found out I was pregnant by him she tried to make everyone plus him believe that I cheated on him and got pregnant by someone else but even though she said that he still didn’t believe her which made me really happy! I wrote to her every single day since she kicked me out the hospital and she gave me nothing but hell and lies and even said she didn’t want to know about her own granddaughter. This story is extremely long so to not bore you guys out let me get to the point, he told me I could go to his house for Father’s Day and bring our babygirl and he wants to feel baby in the belly move BUT I was never allowed in his house cause of his mother and father. am I wrong for not wanting to step a foot in a house full of people who enjoyed to make my life miserable for months or better yet told me that she wants nothing to do with my daughter, and Is trying to convince him that baby on the way isn’t his?? I told him we can meet up with us aid (he needs a aid due to complications from his accident) and go out for dinner but he doesn’t want that. He already has a 5 year old daughter that his family adores ( but they can’t stand my daughter ) he wants them both together but I told him I don’t feel comfortable being in a house full of people who literally prayed for him to not remember me or his daughter! No one has apologized or tried to make things better just worse. I tried to make arrangements for us but he thinks I just don’t want his family around my daughter and he’s damn right! Those people will never get to be around my daughter ever again after all this stress they’ve caused!! Someone people tell me I’m not over exaggerating 😥
@sandraluvx i bet its hard u would think theyd be supportive since he can't be there for u right now
He told me his mom said I can go over with my daughter but I find it hard to believe especially since she doesn’t even talk to me
It’s a lot for me to take in and such a stressful situation. I’m so upset about it all 😪
@preciouslove, yeah he’s just waiting on getting better so he can come back 😞😞
@sandraluvx Do they know ur supposed to go? They are gona feel dumb when hes better and goes back home!
He’s able to go out and do things he just needs to be in his wheelchair. He can’t walk but he’s been doing therapy and is able to stand now and take baby steps. @nerualauren,
@preciouslove, yes he understands and I see him try a lot but his family likes to take advantage of the fact that he can’t do anything on his own for now at least 😞
What is his condition? Is he able to walk without an aide? If he was in like stilll in critical shape I think I would suck it up and go. Just because it might be very difficult for him to leave the house. If he’s able to move around fine then I would make him meet me somewhere else or maybe your house so that he’s still in private and can be comfortable.
@sandraluvx Is he able to understand every thing thats going on? If so he needs to talk with his family they are jus trying to keep u all apart it sounds like. True love will never end tho!:)
@sandraluvx Your not wrong at all but it may be your only choice if u want him to see your babies:/ are they ok with you goin on father's day? That would be hard. Will he be able to go live with u one day?
Girl that just sounds stressful.. & on top of all that and the way they’re acting you’re pregnant! Like you don’t need all that, especially right now. All that matters is you put in effort, tried and are doing what is best for your babies. I agree with everyone else and you. Stay strong momma 💗💪🏼
@floralfairy, yes they love her
Here’s my view, and I can’t stand being around my in laws and they aren’t anywhere near as bad as that. Lol if you plan on having a future with him you must include his family but for his sake not theirs. Regardless he loves them but also he should stand up to them if he wants to be with you. They need to accept your child as well and if they don’t then he needs to make the decision of what he wants. His family will probably always cause problems if he doesn’t stand up to them. He needs to know you’re there for him (which is including his family at times) even though they don’t deserve your greatness.
I would own it. It would be difficult but I would show up just to make them mad and prove that you will be with her son like it or not. Don’t let her control you. But if you show up and they make you leave their property it’s all on him to defend you. He needs to see it first hand how they treat you so he can have your back. If he will. You’ve done nothing wrong. Own it girl! 😉
@sandraluvx, yeah that's messed up. His mom is clearly trying to keep you away. All you can do is make an effort but he has to meet you half way. He should want to meet up with you and the girls but something tells me he may not want to upset his mom. She may be pulling the victim card on herself and making him take sides.
You have every right to feel the way u do and wat u do to protect yaself and ya kids doesn’t need to be explained to anybody if he cant compromise on a neutral place that your comfortable with then I guess he see u wen he see u ✌🏽
and once in a blue she makes slick comments about this baby not being his. She supposedly has an lawyer for a dna test which I’m 100% okay with. I can’t wait to throw everything in their face cause they really believe this baby on the way isn’t his
@laylasmom, I just don’t know. I really feel for my boyfriend I know he would do anything to have his babies together for Father’s Day but just can’t find it in my heart to forgive them or even be around them. Things would’ve been different if they apologized for everything but they still haven’t til this day.
@sandraluvx, Aww man, sorry you’re going though this. I know you rather not, but what if you just go and see how it goes? Maybe it won’t be so bad.
@sandraluvx I agree with everyone else. Those kind of people don't need to around you or your kids. I stopped talking to my husband's family and now they want me to send them pictures of the baby.... Ummm nope
@laylasmom, yes I told him everything but he forgets 😞 that’s a complication he has to deal with now since his accident he forgets a lot but I always remind him
@momof5brats, it’s just something I’ll never understand 😞
@ashrod23, I understand him in a way cause he can’t walk since his accident and we live in different towns but if I’m trying to make arrangements why make things difficult! I’m tying here but I always end up looking like the bad one
His mother sounds like a real bitch. That’s terrible that they’re treating you that way. Does he know about all the lies and how she treated you while he was in the coma?
@sandraluvx I had a feeling that was the reason. My husband's family doesn't like me because I'm mixed and he is Filipino
@sandraluvx, smh if he isn’t making an effort to see his daughter and soon to be newborn that fuck all of them honestly you don’t need that kind of negativity
@momof5brats, no reason at all. they just never liked me from the start smh. They’re Guyanese and believe that he should be with the same race so since I’m Hispanic they hate my guts.
Don’t feel bad for not wanting to step foot where you’re not wanted! And why won’t he meet up for with you to see his kids ? He can bring his other daughter to tag along . If he doesn’t that’s messed up
You are not over exaggerating there is nothing more difficult than dealing with someones family.. stay strong and keep your grounds
Girl I’ll be the same wayyyy excuse my language but fuck all of them!!!! They will never ever see my baby.. n if he don’t like it to hell with him.. ur daughter doesn’t deserve that treatment... I’m 100% with u on this one.
Noooo they are wrong for doing that to you and most important your daughter. Is there a reason why they are acting that way?
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My friend posted this on facebook last night and said her kids were asleep within minutes. It's a song that scientists created to help people fall asleep. I was skeptical but I thought what the hay, I'll try it out. I didn't bank on Dh falling asleep, but both him and lo were asleep by minute 2. And lo slept six straight hours. ?
the amount of women who are clueless about their own anatomy is so sad and shocking. a lot of the women are older than me and have more children then I do 😳
now I understand that everyone has their own opinion on the topic and grown adults can do whatever they want with their bodies but to deny facts and make up false statements about your own anatomy when it comes to your unborn child is just so disappointing.
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Here’s my view, and I can’t stand being around my in laws and they aren’t anywhere near as bad as that. Lol if you plan on having a future with him you must include his family but for his sake not theirs. Regardless he loves them but also he should stand up to them if he wants to be with you. They need to accept your child as well and if they don’t then he needs to make the decision of what he wants. His family will probably always cause problems if he doesn’t stand up to them. He needs to know you’re there for him (which is including his family at times) even though they don’t deserve your greatness.
I would own it. It would be difficult but I would show up just to make them mad and prove that you will be with her son like it or not. Don’t let her control you. But if you show up and they make you leave their property it’s all on him to defend you. He needs to see it first hand how they treat you so he can have your back. If he will. You’ve done nothing wrong. Own it girl! 😉