I don't bad mouth my ex in front of my kids they will know the type of man he is one day for them selves sometimes I even make excuses for him so they don't get hurt, I admit it's hard to not say stuff all the hell he put me thru aside from the physical abuse it was mental and emotional abuse I won't go into all the details but he tortured me for mnths on end at the end of our marriage

I like this thread lol.

i am not a bitc$y ex. i have an order for cs but i don't presue it because he buys them what they need. we don't even follow the visitation schedule. when he wants them he gets them.

@shirly I don't understand why you would do that unless he was a horrible person? If things were to turn bad for you and your SO you would really have the nerve to to deny your child her father? That's horrible... My

Parents are divorced and my dad was never late on a single payment and did everything he could for us even tho he lived 8 hrs away, my mom on the other hand would make things VERY difficult for my dad like make him drive the whole 8 hrs to pick us up then drive all the way back, honestly with her doing all that and keeping me away from dad (I went three yrs without being able to see him) I resented her and we don't have a good relationship at all, literally the morning after I graduated from high school I moved to MO to be closer to my dad and I love it,

I really do hope things stay well with you and your SO for your baby's sake

My bd wants to work things out and I agree to try. Only reason Id turn into a b**** y ex is because of how he treated me in the past, including when I was pregnant. We had some issues with him amd his ex but now he knows where I stand on that. I told him Id go for full custody amd make his life hell if he ever got back with her because she's into drugs and alcohol and is a horrible mother. I don't want my son around that. Luckily things are working out for the better between him, our families, and I. Hopefully I never have to take that road.

I am a b**** y ex. While he is not technically a dead beat, he was and is an a****** .

My ex pretends to be perfect and lies about me keeping my kids from him, even though hes the one with better things to do than "keep the kids for me". He tells everyone everything is my fault and he's the victim. I have text msgs and emails that say other wise.

My DH and I have promised that if it ever didn't work out with each other that we would always be cordial for our kids sake. When my folks split up, all they did was talk trash about one another and I refuse to put my children in the middle.

When my Hubby's parents got divorced, his mom convinced them that their dad only wanted to spend time with them to get insider information about her to use against her in court, so they told him they never wanted to see him again. He kept trying to come around but they wouldn't even open the door. That was almost 19 years ago and they haven't spoken since! :-( She even cut their dads face out of EVERY SINGLE picture they have... We are talking THOUSANDS of pictures here. Makes me so sad!!

I can admit I am. I'm jealous and even if I don't want u back, I don't want u to have anyone either. but that's bc my exes were abusive and it hurt me to see them being nice to their gf yet I couldn't get that respect. it didn't last, I usually moved on once they begged me to take them back lol.

I couldn't be. Bc I respect my husband ( or ex-husband)....

*my story*

My dh n I were separated for almost 2 yrs and just bc we weren't together I respected him bc he was such a good daddy. We had rules though, like no bringing around random men/ women that my dh n i were talking to n such. Visitation was set up, holidays were split, we agreed that our ds birthday every yr wud be planned together and the cost wud be split...

But that 2 yrs apart made me realize how much I missed him, not just as my husband , but my best friend.

I don't even have my ex's phone numbers anymore or even care to talk to them. But you can tell there are tons if b**** y exes on this app that's for sure! Even though they will never admit it

I don't ever talk to my ex's. But a distant friend of mine is. She badmouths her child's father all the time on Facebook for everyone to see. It makes you wonder if she's bad mouthing him to their son too (Big No No). She wants him to sign away his rights to his kid so her new fiancé (who's she's been with a whole 5 months and who's previously been engaged to like 4 other women and never been married) can adopt him. I guess she shares joint custody with her ex and she complains whenever he gets time with him, whenever he gets sick and has to cancel (which is rare), and whenever he gets sick but doesn't cancel. He literally cannot win. She'll publically bash him whatever he does. He has never posted a single bad thing about her. The sad thing is, is that he's a good dad who loves his son. She's just bitter that her ex moved on (even though she did too) and he's happy now. She's crazy and wants her mob of online BFFs to cheer her on. I just shake my head.

man that's awful. you have got to be so strong to deal with that!

@Shirley

I also hope you two never break up. The best you could get out of divorce/break up is someone who will support and love your kids no matter the circumstances! Very selfish to me.

Em 12,8,4 oldest boys youngest girl right now he has them in Mexico left June 18th coming back July 20th court ordered I am suppose to talk to them every other day at 9pm my time ( 8pm his) and since they left I've talked to them 3times he refuses to give me any numbers so I can call them so I guess back to court we go sigh

ugh that's awful!! how old are your kids?

Nope my husband didn't have previous attachments and other children. Thank god!

I have to court order :) I've refused once before and sat my pg butt in a cell for 27hours while he sat laughing at home with my kids

when my ex and i broke up i was a total b**** even if i was the one that ended it but 4yrs later we are the best of friends plus my OH and ex get on great as i do wit his OH my son has the best of both worlds,2 houses 2holidays 2 mammys 2 daddys lol joking but it made a huge difference to him now we all get along and thank god his daddy is a proper daddy a really good one..

sorry Holly :( there is no way I'd allow that bastard around my kids. piece of sh*t!!!

I'm asking because I honestly want opinions on why women would be mean to "good dads".

My brother and his gf broke up before she knew she was pregnant. He ran into her at a restaurant with some other guy while he was there with his friends. Anywho, she finds out she is pregnant a few weeks later and from that moment it has gone down hill. He wanted to get back together and she didn't, he wanted to go to doc appointments, she would let him. She told him he could come to the gender scan and the morning of, texted him and said she changed her mind. When the baby was born her dad called him and the first thing he said was "I hope you're ready to step up and be a father because Michele is in labor!" He got to the hospital and waited in the waiting room for 7 hours, after the baby was born her dad came out and showed him pictures on his digital camera and said that "Michele and baby weren't accepting visitors at this time" and told him to "come back tomorrow"! He offered to buy diapers, formula, and give her money all the time, she refused for the first 6 months and then went and filed with the courts saying he wasn't supporting her and then he owed her an extra $100 per month in back pay.

Fast forward 4.5 years and it still isn't any better. She got married last year on my brothers weekend so they had to switch weekends (of course)... My brother got married this year and she told him that if he didn't get married on "his weekend" then their daughter would not be present because she refused to switch. She married into a wealthy family (her new hubby's parents bought their house and a new car) and she knows my brother and his wife are STRUGGLING, yet she takes him back for more child support when SHE DOESN'T EVEN WORK!!! She constantly tells their DD that she "just visits" my brother and they tell her to call her step-dad, Dad, but my niece cries to my brother and says she doesn't want to because she already has a daddy.

Any who, sorry this is so long... I just really want to know why some women do this. She is generally a nice person and a great mom to their daughter, it just seems like she is out to get my brother!

@holly - number 16 makes me want to throw up!! Gross!! I would classify him as a big douche and deserves whatever you throw at him!!

I am the b**** y ex, but I have good reasons to be, let me start my list

1) he wants gas money to pick up his kids

2) he talks to them like trash

3) refuses to realize our son is autistic to him he is stupid

4) he abuses the kids

5) he abuses his wife in front of my kids

6) refuses to buy any clothes school stuff or shoes

7) tells me to buy extra to send to his house

8) refers to me as the w**** to my kids

9) refuses to take them to the dr and if I push the issue he wants money

10) plays favorites

11) refuses to help with school work

12) refuses to ever bend on the schedule but expect me to

13) likes to still try to control me and my life

14) let's my sons talk like a drunk sailor

15) let's my kids watch inapproiate movies/music

16) tells my sons he can't wait til they turn 15 and get a gf so daddy can share

17) allows the new wife to slap my 4yr dd in the face

18) refers to my dh as the child molestor/pervert

19) smokes weed on the balcony

20) sells fake/illegal social security cards and Id's and green cards

And that's just a few things

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@Shirley

I hope for your kids sake you two never break up. If he is truely a good father then what you are saying you would do is horrible and unfair.

Like I said, I can understand being that way to the dead beats, I would act the same way. But for those of you who have kids with someone who happens to be a good dad, do you treat them badly because you are still angry over your split up, jealous that they may be with someone else, things like that?

Nope, they call them.exes for a reason. When im done i mean it, and could cafe less what my exes do. To me its as if they dropped off the earth lol

basically I am the ex being b**** ed about lol

(this is gonna be long lol) my ex husband is an attentive father and we fight constantly. he lets my son play video games that are made for adults then my son gets in troube at school for reinacting what he sees on those games. my son was diagnosed adhd by a therapist a psychologist and his pediatrician. I refused to medicate him for a yr and when I made the decision. to do so I made my ex come in talk to the Dr and agree too which he did. my son did beautiful on meds. his best school yr yet BUT my ex refuses to give him the medicine I finally threatened to take him to court for neglect and now hes getting it pretty regularly. he had 3 more kids after my son by two different woman and he cant keep track of who goes where and when. he forgets to pick my son up from school. I have to call three different people to find him to get him back. I feel i constantly try to make things easier for them and in return I have to constantly jump thru hoops. oh and theres always the latest that my son isn't allowed to talk about me when hes there. when he is with my son he is a good father and he loves his son. but we will never get along

And again let me clarify i wudd disappear, as in leave and take my kid with me just be " b**** y" in the sense that i wuddnt want him to have anything to do with her, i wuddnt care about his personal life or what he did with himself much less become a stalker.

I only had two serious relationships before my hubby. I don't talk to neither of the chicken heads.

I don't talk to my exes, I just don't care. If my husband and I got a divorce I'd stalk him though. I'd steal his garbage and cuddle with it.

not really. but I love him.

But if my husband dumped I would become that b**** y ex.

Or stalker ex.

Ya know.. whatever is hotter.

Im not an ex but i think i wudd be...ive had,serious conversations where ive talked to my bf and let him know that if things dont work out between us id prefer to be a single mom n disappear n not have my child even learn the word daddy than to put my baby thru visitations and chase after him for money or support n what not or have her be disappointed because hell have a seperate life from her. So far hes been great though and were engaged and waiting on our own place which will be ready next month sooo hopefully i dont have to worry,about that

Nah. I don't even talk to them.

I'm not at all don't even talk to them. But my friend is -.- she makes me smh

No, I'm just the ex that actually knows how to move on and doesn't try to f**k up my exes lives. Unlike my husbands ex (more like fling). She's insane and it's been 3 years and she still wants my husband.