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Pregnancy rant This is like my third post about this but I'm just at a loss at how to handle my situation. So I finally…

Pregnancy rant

This is like my third post about this but I'm just at a loss at how to handle my situation. So I finally talked to my SO THROUGH TEXT and he basically said if I don't get an abortion, I am choosing my baby over him. He also said this isn't my decision and if he doesn't want the baby, I should just get rid of it. If I don't have an abortion, he doesn't want anything to do with me or "it."

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I'm so sorry he is acting like this. I would never speak to a guy again if he did that. That's truly a horrible way to act.

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As long as ur child knows u love them that's all that matters! My sons father finally camr around after being absent for 6 yrs. And no he does a wonderful job. Just give it some time hey may come around but don't push or pressure him.

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texxie

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Thank you so much for the support. Luckily I moved back home at the right time so I have my family who will help me. From the bottom of my heart, I really do appreciate you all helping me and giving me this great advice. I truly believe that I can do it. I just hate that my child has to suffer in the process but I know everything will be ok.

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I'm dealin with the same sitiation. Im to the point where I'm sayin f**k him. I can do it myself. Its your body, your choice!

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I fell pregnant and the other person responsible called me selfish and disgusting and said if I don't get rid he hopes I lose the baby.

I told him my decision to keep is based on me knowing I can do this as a single mother with support from my family. Its his choice to be involved or not, but it is happening. Thatsvthe only choice I gave him.

He has had nothing to do with the pregnancy, nor have I contacted him or asked for anything. Thankfully I now have an amazing man who is going to be a wonderful father to our little girl.

Keep your chin up and do what is best for YOU. If that's an abortion then make sure you're supported. If its going through with the pregnancy without him then you'll be a stronger woman/mother for it.

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very rude and insensitive of him but if he doesn't anymore kids he doesn't want any more. are you going to pursue child support from him or just let him sign off his rights? I understand youd want support but he made it very clear he didn't want anything to do with the baby and I think it'd be crappy to go after him. just my opinion though. pull yourself away and enjoy your pregnancy, you're a woman- strong by nature. you can do it if you see fit.

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Did you ever want to have kids? If the answer is yes, then it seems like having a relationship with him (regardless of this pregnancy) is just a waste of time since he obviously wanted no more children to begin with. He doesn't seem like a real winner if he doesn't support the two kids he already has so I would just part ways with him.

You got a beautiful baby out of the situation!! You already sound like you will be a great mamma!

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If you want to "ween" yourself from him: every time you think of taking him back, remember this conversation. Remember what he said about your baby.

I know it's hard. But you can do this. You've got lots of support here!!!

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texxie

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That's the thing, he's not on child support for his other kids. He's got it good. But I guess since he doesn't want this baby, he is thinking about child support. Am I crazy if I say at this point I don't even want that from him? That it's not even worth it? Or should I make him face his responsibility?

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If he has other kids all he's thinking about is more child support. Obviously he isn't think about you only himself. I would choose my babies over any guy any day.

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texxie

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@weldstep I actually have considered his feelings. He told me that he didn't want any other kids but he also said he thought it would be ok bc it was with me. But now he's changed. I even told him that I would go to the clinic just so we could see all of our options. That wasn't good enough.

I can't kiss his behind. I wasn't raised like that. If he wanna be that way then do be it. Yes, I'm gonna have a long road ahead of me but I know God won't put more on me than I can bare. I just need to learn how to let go

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texxie

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No, I appreciate all harsh and real answers. I have made up my mind. I even tried to compromise and say I'll go to the clinic if you go with me just so we can see another option (never said I was going to get the abortion, was just considering his feelings) but that wasn't even good enough. I'm not about to run behind him or chase him. That's not me. I've tried and did what I needed to do as far as reaching out, but I'm not doing it anymore. If I have to raise the little olive by myself, then that's what I'll do. I just didn't want my baby to grow up without a father or to have a part time father like I did.

And as far as his two other kids, he's a great father. An EXCELLENT dad. He has the kids way more than the mom does. I just can't understand for the life if me why the change

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You didn't get pregnant alone right? Tell him to quit being a f*** in pansy and take care of yet another child he has helped create. He didn't ask his other kids' moms for abortions so why ask you!! This is YOUR 1st so enjoy he/she... Babies are blessings! Just don't do something you'll regret later on.

Sorry if I'm being too harsh but men who won't take care of their responsibilities piss me off..

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deleted-user

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What do YOU want to do? It is your body and your decision. He sounds very selfish in my opinion.

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texxie

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Yeah and the sad part is he has two other kids. This is my first pregnancy and he's making it a worst experience. I have to really think it through and how I can ween myself away from him

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I would choose my babies over a guy any day. Screw him.

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