I'm not a single mother, but my own mother brought 5 kids up herself because after years of being together with my 'father' he decided to get into drugs, stealing, cheating and abusing so a massive f*ck you to anyone who is ignorant enough to think that all single mothers are to blame for their circumstances ✌️

I bet you're also forgetting rape victims too. How would they feel seeing this? Hmm?

Yeah it's not so black and white, is it.

Nenni (and a couple others), I think you're mistaking what I'm saying. Let me reiterate.

We choose who we sleep with.

We do our due diligence and select our partners according to their proven character.

Two loving parents are better than one.

Single motherhood is not ideal and, yes, society DOES glorify it.

When it IS the better alternative, however, us women step up and do a kick@ss job.

See? No slut shaming ?. I don't waste my time blaming. I hope to encourage accountability. I can't blame shïtty fathers for being shïtty. I CAN encourage women to watch for them and avoid them. We are not powerless. We CAN choose. We CAN raise a better generation than what we had. I am committed to.

Oh and kosh i was a virgin until i got married... so that is also crap.

All this does is completely take any and all responsibility off the man, and solely places it onto the woman. As if we can control their actions. And misogynistic, slut shaming women like Kosh feed into it to help them feel better about themselves.

But the statement that a single pregnant woman cant give her child the world... thats crap.... you can... it may not be the same as a two parent household.... but that doesnt mean a single parent household has any less love or potential to provide for their child. Giving your child the world isnt always monetary.

I was married 8 years and my ex was abusive as can be.... i have permanent damage to my chest from him.... that happened after i had my second child, i left because one day he lost it in front of my kids, punched 8 holes in the wall, threatened to cut my throat and was telling my 3 year old daughter to call me a stupid b.... hes allowed to see them, but their behavior is atrocious every time they come home from his house.... you cant tell me that the fault of that lies with me... i am a single mom and it is the hardest most painful decision i have ever made.... but me and my children are better for it and i have found a wonderful man that is 100000 times the man my ex could ever be.... i gave my girls the world by being a single mom, because i gave them security in knowing that i would always put them first, that their safety and mine is a priority.... so yeah i disagree with this meme

As a dogleg mom I can see where josh is coming from and relate a bit. But it's also not that simple. I'm a single mom twice now. Not by my own choice either though. My daughters dad just left and he used me. So obviously not the best relationship to be in. I'm not gonna stay where I'm not wanted and where I think my daughter will learn its okay for a man to use you and things.(also this man did cheat on me a lot)

My sons dad his choice also. He cheated on me and become verbally and emotionally abusive. Did I know that after knowing him for so long? No. It came out after I was pregnant and couldn't do anything about the situation except love myself.

Now was it my choice to be with these men? Absolutely. And I take full claim that I choose to be with these men and have sex with them. But I was also with these men for a long time and then found out. Being a single mom doesn't mean k can't give my kids what the need in this world. and my daughter at least has her father in her life. Can't say the same for my son as of yet. But I know I will always do my best for them with or without their fathers

I'm sorry, but I don't appreciate Kosh's comment at all. I don't think blame for being a single parent falls solely on the woman. Of course, it would be ideal for children to have fathers in their lives, but they need good male role models. A guy who is a jerk won't do. A lot of men change after women become pregnant. That isn't something you can tell before it happens. Where is the blame for the "men" who leave the situation, because they don't want to deal? I would never judge anyone's situation or blame the woman, because she chose him. They chose each other and sometimes things don't work out.

I also don't think single parenthood is glorified. It's more of a pat on the back and encouragement, because being a parent is hard. Being a single parent is even tougher.

Wow. This is disgusting.

Did I know he was going to become violent and steal over £800 from me but only AFTER I found our I was pregnant? No. The baby's father's actions not only put my life at risk but the unborn baby's too. Don't assume I have done this intentionally, or this is what I wanted.

I'm not glorifying single parenthood, I know babies need father's. It's the worst thing in the world not growing up without a father, but this still doesn't stop me being a single parent.

?? kosh

I was a single mother until my daughter was 1.5 year old. Since marrying my husband (he adopted her) she seems to be so much happier and the smile in her face when daddy is coming home is amazing. Every child needs father. The picture is harsh, but true. If I would be smarter in my past choices I wouldn't have to tell my child in the future that my husband is not her real dad and the biological dad didn't want her.

I can't get past the ghetto junk talk. Ignore things like this mama, and hold your head high! Life happens, there will always be someone to tear others down. Don't give them the time of day, or waste your emotions on them. ?

Research has proven that children need a father. Their need for a mother is unquestionable and us mothers have been doing a kick@ss job doing what we have to do. But honestly? I'm sick of people glorifying single-motherhood as if it's something to achieve. No, I'm sorry. It's something women survive because we ARE so kick@ss...

I'm sorry you're single and bringing this baby into the world alone; But unless you were having sex against your will, yes, it is your fault. You chose who to have sex with and did not choose a man who had proven himself worthy of your precious body. We need to be more selective in our choices, and choose a man of honor and integrity. I warn you, though, it probably means he won't sleep with you on the first date... Maybe not even until you're married.