Don't know Bambi but will be sure to let you know what I think after the big event! I never got to the pushing stage with my little man was in labour for over 25 hours but my little man heart rate was dropping to 60 with every contraction and had meconium in my waters so have no idea what it feels like to push if I make it that far this time that bit will be new to me! Glad your recovery is going well x

I just had an emergency section 7 days ago and I was already thinking about if I have a 2nd child would I want to try for a vbac. I have had a decent recovery so far, but I am wondering if I will miss out on the pushing and all that other gorey stuff or is a 2nd section the way to go?

I tore really badly with my first he was 9lb1 and I had a tear going up to my clitoris and one really bad one going all the way to my bum I also had two internal tears. I didn't feel a thing when it happened it must of just got lost in with the rest of the pain. Recovery took a while ( two weeks) but really not that bad just poured soapy water over area while I went to the loo. So really I wouldn't worry about it, it's no big deal.x

I have had two vbacs since my er c section. Like you i felt like I missed out . It is very different and I felt totally worth it. On this, my fourth, I'm also planning a vbac unless his head appears super big. Then I might consider a planned c. The er c section happened because my inner ischial spines were too narrow for the baby's head. He was btw two weeks over due. Hmmmm. I know nowvthey won't induce a vbac. They used to. My last and easiest delivery was induced early. Hmmmm again.

Don't be afraid. No matter what. And it really is different.

My best. E

Thank you so much for your responses ladies has made me feel a lot better my c section was 16 months ago now so hopefully am all healed and good to go for vbac. I had just read/heard about how painful a tear is (think spelt wrong looks strange!) I started frightening the life out of myself and winding myself up! They have already told me they won't induce me if I go over, although they will do a sweep at 40+7 if I get that far (please god I will go before that) and they won't give me anything to make contractions stronger etc they will give me certain amount of time as long as baby and I are ok and have given me a 70% chance of having successful vbac. My birth plan goes something like try it naturally with gas and air (anesathist wants me to have epidural early on in case I need c section that way will avoid need for emergency 1 or worse again general anesthetic, can't spell for diamonds today!) and if it doesn't work then do what you have got to to keep my baby and I safe that way I hope I won't be as dissapointed this time if I do end up with another c section. Thx again ladies and best of luck with your own births I will be sure to keep you posted x

I'm going for vbac too. If your doctor thinks you are able I would definitely go for it. Rupture is very rare. Please let me know how you di because I too am awaiting vbac in December and I'm also nervous!

I tore a little bit with my daughter and it doesn't hurt hardly at all. It was very neglectable. If your midwife is allowing you to do a vbac I would just take that as she thinks your a good candidate and are able to do this. You should feel lucky. I know a lot of women that had emergency c sections and would love to have a vbac but their drs won't let them. :) good luck and you'll be fine!! 💜

I too am going to shoot for a vbac. I also felt like I missed out and figured I'd go for a "real" delivery! How long ago was your C? Mine was 10 years so I'm as healed as can be, I wish you luck on your birth!