3RD UPDATE: What would you do?

3RD UPDATE:

There is now a UHAUL over there and him and his sister are moving out. I bet he can't afford it without her, so he is leaving too.

2ND UPDATE: She is moving her stuff out this morning. I haven't talked to her, but she's going back and forth and loading her car up.

Wow why would anyone ever want to go back to a guy like that. What a piece of shït.

Similar thing happened to me once. I babysat for my bosses son for 6 hours (they lived 30 minutes from my house so it wasn't a short drive there) when he came back, he gave me $8.00 and said "here's some grub money" ummmmmm seriously??? Never babysat for them again

Wow. That took a turn for the worse. So scary and sad for the baby. :(

I would catch an officer or the caseworker as they come/ go and notify them that they just drop their son off with anyone

:(

Following for updates!

I just feel bad for the little boy ?

Such a sad situation.

She has been coming and going, but she wouldn't say anything at the mailboxes yesterday, I said hi and she nodded and drove off. But there has been like 5 or 6 cops cars that have drove through here today. Yesterday when the cops and CPS were outside it was like 7 pm. They still weren't home, which is strange because they are always both home in the evenings. He gets home around 3 or so and she gets home at 530ish. But last night their cars weren't there and neither were his sisters and his sisters girlfriends car. One car is always there so I found that super weird. That's another thing, the sister (19) and her girlfriend moved in 2 weeks ago apparently and now all this stuff has continually been happening.

Have you heard from the mom?

So since this happened (saturday) they have been together with the little boy. I saw her outside and started talking to her (I didn't know what had happened yet) I said "his sister told me he went to jail, when I told her she shouldn't park her car in front of the other neighbors driveway." She immediately said Yeah and shut down and then he walked up. Now i see this, so now I know why she acted like that. Cps has been coming and going, you would think he wouldn't be allowed to be there with the little boy at all?

Yikes hopefully they get that little boy away from this madness I knew these people were bad news

Jesus Christ! That update is so terrible. Hopefully they can get some peace ?

Oh wow. ? That's a terrible update.

? OP this is so hard!!!! This poor little boy and woman.

Holy update! ??

Have you heard from the mom at all since all of this??

Omg that's a horrible update ?. Hopefully good comes from this and you neighbor and her child can live safely on their own now

UPDATE:

CPS and cops have been there like 3 times in the past 3 days. Then I was looking at the newspaper and happened to run across this.

A man who was upset about a relationship with a woman grabbed the woman and put a loaded gun on his hip as he followed her around a home on Saturday evening, police said.

Lee, 21, of Franklin, was arrested on charges of battery on a person less than 14 years old and domestic battery, both felonies, and an additional misdemeanor charge of battery.

Police were called to the home because a woman told police that Lee became upset when she wanted to leave, and he followed her around the home, grabbing her and telling her that he would not let her go. She saw him load a gun as he told her “I got you,” a Police Department report said.

During the dispute, he pushed a 2-year-old boy, causing the child to hit his head on the floor and develop a rug burn, the report said.

The woman called a friend to the home to help her leave. Lee also grabbed her, the report said.

Lee did not have the gun when police arrived, but officers found it in the home and took it to the police department, the report said. Lee told officers that he did not grab the women, but was only trying to hug one of them, and that he did not push the boy, the report said.

Omg ? definitely call for a wellness check. Let the people on the phone know all your concerns. It's always better to be safe than sorry. And I bet she lied about the car seat but I really hope not.

Yeah it's hard because the little boy is so sweet. He kept asking yesterday, "where's my mommy"? He doesn't know me, so I felt bad.

Could be a mall cop ?

Sorry I just had to ?

Yeah definitely shady and I would just ignore them.

Keep your distance. I'd even consider blocking their numbers. Only lend what you can afford to not get back. What if she got in an accident with your car seat? She obviously can't replace it, and you can't count on her to even be honest.

Sounds like they are either really irresponsible or just plain dumb! I'd call for a wellness check. After reading about the car seat and the million things that can happen that alone would've sent me straight to calling cps. Something isn't right with them but bless you for having such a big heart and caring so much. Because you are noticing these things you may be able to prevent something actually happening to him down the road. At this pace his parents don't seem like they plan on getting their shat together. Continue to observe but remember you can only help so much. Sometimes people need a wake up call.

That's such a tough situation. You don't want to be taken advantage of by these irresponsible parents but on the other hand it seems like the one who will be punished or suffering would be that innocent little boy.

I see two options- 1. Cut ties will these people and hope for the best for the little boy. It's not your responsibility to care for another child. However you can still keep an eye out for anything illegal, because as of now you don't have grounds for a CPS call imo.

2. Take on as much as you can with him knowing that you will not be paid or compensated. But the little boy will have a safe environment to go to despite his parents caring.

Neither of these are right or wrong and honestly, I don't know what I would do in this situation. But I do hope everything works out for everyone

I texted and she said that she found one. Not sure what that means but glad he's in a seat nonetheless.

I would text and ask her if she still needs to borrow your car seat. Then ask when you can expect the rest of your money since her husband only gave you $8. And that since there's been an issue that when you watch him (if you decide you want to) that you'll need the money up front. Poor little boy.

Should I text her and ask what she did?

I'd be calling CPS. God knows I'd never be able to live with myself if he got passed around to the wrong people....

I would definitely let her borrow the car seat as long as you don't need it. You're not letting her borrow it for her, you're letting her borrow it to (hopefully) keep her son safe.

She normally doesn't leave until 830. So I was going to give it to her the second I posted that, but she was gone already. I hope she went and bought one before going on with the whole day. We have a store right out of our exit that you don't have to even leave the edition for. Not giving any excuse, but I hope that's what she did. The babysitter also hasn't been there since friday, so why couldn't they have got it from her? It also worries me that they have been possibly driving around all weekend with no car seat.

Maybe they were embarrassed?

No I would let them borrow it

I would let them borrow it but I'd also contact CPS. This is getting ridiculous.

I'd say, "Yeah, as long as I get it back at the end of today you can come on over and borrow it." And then hand her the measly $8 and tell her how much of an insult that was to you

Yeah I thought it was strange too. Also, this morning 10 minutes ago she texts and asks if I have an extra carseat to borrow because her old babysitter has hers and hasn't given it back. I have an extra one but I don't know if I should let them borrow or not. I'm concerned they would just put him in the car then. Do I give them my extra seat to borrow?

A cop for 2 yrs??... More like rent-a-cop! I agree with the rest of the ladies here, jus keep ur distance n try to not get involved anymore than u already have. Maybe u can make a suggestion of them looking into putting him in a daycare and also looking into public assistance for the day care??

Being 21 is no excuse. I had my son at 20 and trust me, I'd never leave him with someone I didn't know/trust. That's so weird. Are they really tight on money? Maybe they can't afford a full time babysitter and are just getting people to do it for free? Either way, it's not okay. Id keep a close eye on that boy and if you feel it's necessary, call cps so they can check up on him.

$8 hours for 5.5 hours??? That's nuts. I pay 160 a day for my kids at day care. I wouldn't be helping them out again

Even if something happened where they could only give you eight dollars they should have had the decency to explain themselves when handing you the money in person. Rude asses ?

Maybe he went to the bank and got a $20 but spent it and was left with $8 and didn't tell the wife? But very rude they didn't even hand you the money and personally thank you for helping out last minute.

Def not a cop. You can't get into the academy until you are 20.5. And $8, really? I hope that little boy gets a lot of love and attention, that's gotta be hard to be tossed around so much.

Weirdos on so many different levels ?

That poor little boy. I wouldn't offer anymore favors but if I were in your shoes, it would be super hard for me to turn my back on the little boy. I dunno if a call to CPS is over the top... would you be comfortable with just confronting them and asking them why they are OK leaving their little boy w a stranger??

They both just turned 21 n he was a cop for 2 yrs??? LIES!!!

Apparently. All of it is super weird. Also like I said before they both just turned 21, but yet he told us that he was a cop for 2 years, which I thought was super weird. He now works for a cable company?

Why would the dad pick the baby up and say his wife is going to pay you and turn around and go to the "bank" himself? I believe he went and borrowed $8 and that's all he could come up with? Atms dispense singles now?

Wow.... How do some people think this is OK? Savages!

$8? I wouldn't have even taken it unless I really needed it..that's an insult...no more favors from here on out..block her number and don't answer the door..

I would have honestly been a witch. I would have said forget it. I said 10 to 15 expecting more then ten keep your money don't ask me to watch him agsin, and if I ever see him on the street without an adult again I calling cops do you better get a decent babysitter. And yes I would have said it in one breath and slam the door.

That's very rude in my opinion, you were nice enough to say 10-15 for watching their son for a long period of time and they give you 8 dollars ?! The thing that gets me is they didn't even have the decency to hand you the money, they just left it on your porch... I wouldn't be doing them anymore favors.

Yeah I don't plan on watching him anymore. I just feel bad, because if I'm not watching him then who is? Some crazy person? I wish they would just snap into being amazing parents.

WTH ?. I agree with the others, everything about this just seems strange. I wouldn't watch him anymore.

From what I've seen they are good with him when they are there. But that's about it.

That's not okay. Forgot about the money. I'm more concerned with that boys safety. I'd lay it out on the table and tell them how irresponsible they are being. He's a child. Not a damn pawn. And god forbid should someone take advantage of their carelessness and harm the boy. I'd probably go as far as calling CPS. That's got to be some form of child endangerment.

8 dollars total, for 5.5 hours.

Was that $8 total? Or $8/hr?

Either way that's kind of insulting to ask your price then give you less. No doubt they were just hoping not to pay you. I wouldn't be doing any more favours for them.

Yeah he has nice clothes and he eats good from what I've seen. They both just turned 21 and got married like 8 months ago. I think they are both just young and nieve, so they do what they want, and he gets passed around.

At the same time you have to wonder what kind of parents they are that they are fine with leaving their kid with a perfect stranger. I would keep your distance but your eyes peeled. Did he seem well cared for?

Yeha. Glad I'm not the only one that finds this weird. I feel bad for the little boy because there is literally someone new everyday. Also the babysitter last week that came to their house stayed inside on her phone and left the back door and garage door open and he kept going into the road. Luckily I was out there and watched what he was doing. Then the girl put him in her car in a BOOSTER SEAT with seat belt and left. I texted the mom and let her know and after that, it's been one after another at their house. They aren't sitting down and figuring out a plan, they are randomly picking people to watch him. Worries me so much for that little boy.

That is very weird! Do you really have to go to the bank for $8 though. Yeahhh I wouldn't be doing anymore favors for them.

This whole situation just screams shady to me. From now on I would decline watching him..

No the are definitely sketchy, from asking a stranger to baby sit to skimping on the payment. I would steer clear of them in the future I just don't trust people like that.

Ok, so we have these new neighbors they have been there renting the house 2 doors down for about 3 months or so. They have a 2 year old boy, he just turned two. They have asked me to babysit him on multiple occasions, just so happens I've been busy each time. In my mind, they don't know me or anything about me. Barely know my name and they want me to watch their kid because they see I have kids and stay home. Apparently they haven't had any luck with the babysitters they have had. Well his sister just moved in and she had the little boy all morning. I get a text at 11 from the mom asking if I can come get the boy because the sister needs to leave to work on her car?.... I told her I would but was on my way to the store and would be back at 12 and would get him then. So I get back and the sister brings him over. He doesn't know me at all, but he is a very good little boy. I had no problems with him the whole time. So here is my question, I watched him from 12 to 530, the mom texted at 2 and asked how much I told her 10-15 just because I'm nice. If it was me in that situation on such short notice and someone saving my ass to watch my kid I would give them 15-20 if they said 10-15. So the dad picked him up and said the mom would pay when she got home. I just texted and asked her because she's been home since 6 (now it's 930) if she was bring over the money, I was super nice about it. She said her husband had to go to the bank, so he went and came back and then she texted me that it was on the front porch. They gave me $8. Like really? I just find this super weird. Would you be kinda thrown back by this also? I definitely learned my lesson and won't be "helping out" anymore. I just thought this was nuts.