Got home around 11... washed lil man up and made him a bottle... asked my husband to get off his phone and help me put him to sleep... as soon as I did, my husband sat on the couch and fell right to sleep with Zach in his arms... I walked over to him and picked Zach up and he has to nerve to jump awake talking about I scared him because he thought he dropped Zach... this is why I’ve stopped asking him to hold him... he is irresponsible... I ended up setting up Zach’s stand up floor lamp, rearranging his room, making him a late night/early morning bottle, rocking him to sleep in his car seat and then moving him to his room all while my husband was knocked out in the living room.... I swear I feel like a single mother
@boricountrygirl, I told my husband how I felt... he heard me... he just doesn’t care about how it effects me
@boricountrygirl, do you think he’ll change and see he’s wrong?
No, I don't have anyone. It's just me myself and GOD.
@ashrod23, mine too... he’ll laugh at his father but once I leave the room he starts crying and trying to get away from him
@boricountrygirl, mama imma pray for you because that doesn’t make any sense.... he’s treating you wrong and he wasn’t ready for children. He still needs to grow up and you need a break. Is there anyone you can stay with for a few day or someone that can watch your son while you rest and take care of yourself
@mitiacarolina3, smh and that’s why our sons are mamas boy . My son is with me all the time to the point if I leave him alone with his dad my son will cry bloody murder looking for me and once I appear he reaches out for me.
@mitiacarolina3, I know how you feel. My husband talks to our son like he would be an adult sometimes and it makes my blood boil because he's just a baby. You can't expect a little human being that was just born 5 almost 6 months ago to not cry or not to whine like really??? You cried and whined when you were like that too. What do you expect to your parents leave you there crying? I understand that is good letting them cry for a few minutes but not more than 5 minutes. You don't know if they're hurting or something but them. It's so frustrating. I love love my husband but sometimes I say in my head that I should've waited to have a child. I'm not saying that I would go back and change it. HELL NO!!! ILOVEMYSON and I wouldn't change him for anything in this world. Sometimes I can't even eat because my son is crying and my husband is on his phone and he finishes eating first. I used to ask him can you get him? He would say no. So I would just not even eat keep in mind that I am pregnant again and I am hungry and I can't eat because my son wants to be carried. I don't like to eat with him on me because the food is hot and it can burn him. At times I can't even shower for a day or two and yes it's really embarrassing because I love taking showers. But I can't because I tell him I'm going to go shower and you can stay here with him if he starts to cry or whine he wangs his pacifier just give not to him before he starts crying the response no take him if he starts crying I'm not picking him up. So I just put my things down and bite my tongue and stay in the room. He asks me why didn't you go shower? Like really why the hell do you think? You can't even stay with your child for five minutes while I go take a damn fast shower one take a poop because you're yelling or texting me that Jr is crying. It just makes me want to cry but I can't because I am pregnant and it's not good crying while being pregnant.
@ashrod23, but then wanna show off the kids like they helped with anything... my husband could be off all day, have our son for a hour then next thing I know Zach’s with me in his rocker in some part of the house and my husband is in the bed room either on his phone or on the Xbox .. but as soon as we go out he want to show off telling everyone he has a son and then wants to pick him up and walk around then after the attention wears off he’ll bring him back to me and go watch YouTube
@mitiacarolina3, oh that sock this grinds my gears I’m looking at a pair on the floor now 🙄
@boricountrygirl, @mitiacarolina3, oh it makes me so anxious when I’m doing something and I hear my son crying at the top of his lungs and I get the he needs to learn how not to be a mamas boy lecture , no pick my son up he wants to be walked around and talked to . Why do guys make raising so difficult for themselves like if you were actually hands on you would know half the stuff we do .
I get more done when my husband isn’t home than when he gets here... he adds on to the mess and doesn’t do anything... like last night, we got home I washed Zach up, cleaned the kitchen and washed the dishes. He was on his phone, took off his socks and left them on the living room floor in a ball
@boricountrygirl, my husband does the same thing. I could be cooking or washing up and hear Zach crying and my husband would just be sitting there and I have to yell at him to get him... I love my son but I don’t think my husband was ready for kids since he’s never had responsibilities before... his mother took care of him and his sister their whole lives and I think he expects it to continue
@mitiacarolina3, @ashrod23, you ladies aren't the only one with this problem my husband does the same thing it makes me just want to cry at times. I feel like I'm the only kind raising my son and of course, I am expecting again. You guys its so hard being pregnant and dealing with a 5-month-old. Don't get pregnant any time soon wait it out. I've seen my husbands sisters husband helping her with her two kids just fine he doesn't ever say no I'm tired he gladly picks up his baby so she can cook or eat. On the other hand with my husband he just lets him cry if I'm cooking, showering, cleaning etc. He’ll call me screaming from being on the bed while I'm cooking to pick Jr up because his crying and it's annoying. Why the hell did we have a baby for if you were going to act this way? Now I'm pregnant with another baby and I don't know how I'm going to do this. 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🙄 I wanted more kids but if this is the way it's going to be I'm only having this two kids and that's it.
@ashrod23, like my son just woke up... it’s 4 in the morning ... guess who’s up with him and who’s asleep
@mitiacarolina3, I know it gets tiring like babies are a lot of work I think they think they only sleep and eat so how hard could that be 🙄
@ashrod23, idk why they act like this once we have the babies... like it was a mutual decision to have one but once we give birth, they’re the ones who’s always tired and we don’t know how hard it is to deal with the people at work and everything else that’s going on... but then come home and expect us to have dinner waiting and the baby in bed so they can have sex
@mitiacarolina3, right ! And when I tell him something he’s so offended like “you make me feel like shit” well step up your shit then I wouldn’t have to say shit that offends
@ashrod23, I’m like I didn’t make this baby by myself but I’m damn sure raising him alone... so I told him what’s the point of you being here if you’re not here
Girl you’re not the only one . I feel like I have to force my boyfriend to help me and when he does I just hear him suck his teeth . Like alright just go away .
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Opinions please!!!
My son sleeps in his crib in my room. He wakes up once or twice a night. I want to move him out of our room but we only have a two bedroom and he would have to share a room with my daughter, but my husband doesn’t think it’s a good idea to put him in her room until he sleeps all night without waking up.
So I have a fruit fly problem and I decided to try to get rid of them by deep cleaning the apartment.... my husband was actually off from work tonight so I asked him to put Zach to sleep after I washed him up so I can clean up... I cleaned the whole house minus my bedroom because they were both in there... as I’m mopping the floors my husband wants to point out that the bleach smell is to strong and I should open the windows. Meanwhile his ass in on he bed watching movies while Zach is crying be...
My husband takes his cousin girlfriend to work. Should I be worried about the FEMALE coming on to my husband?
Okay so I am 4 months pregnant with my first child . My babys father & i live in a one bedroom apartment & he does have a 4 year old son with someone else , he comes over 3 days out of the week . Today is his first time sleeping over & my boyfriend wants him to sleep in the bed with us tonight .. Which I find a little weird, He Got upset cause i didnt feel comfortable about it & asked if maybe they could sleep in living room instead... Am i selfish for this ?
@mitiacarolina3, I do think it's worth staying I love him. I think he will change but that change is not going to come now. I just have to be patient with GOD anything is possible. GOD blessed me with this two children for a reason and he knows I can be able to handle this.