Okay so I am 4 months pregnant with my first child . My babys father & i live in a one bedroom apartment & he does have…

no your not and im pretty sure his mom wouldnt like that either

I don't think it's selfish. it's not your child, how would the mother feel about the child sleeping in bed with you? men don't think someone's I swear

yeah i know ! I tried explaining that but he thinks its cause I dont like the kid which is totally not true ! Hes all mad at me & i just feel bad now . i wouldnt want my child sleeping in bed with someone else

No whats weird is when your step son looks at you and says I'm gonna kill you and daddy in y'alls sleep

I would be uncomfortable too it's not selfish and you don't want him getting use to that either he is close to the age where he should be learning to sleep on his own. And you have a baby coming. Yea that wouldn't work for me either

Pretty sure when she allowed her child to stay the night she had an idea y'all would all be sleeping together . ( I don't think she would be mad ) but that's his child , I'm not saying your selfish but How would you feel if it was vice versa and your baby father made your kid sleep on the couch when there's a perfectly fine bed in his home

@desi720, YESSS ! Hes not a baby anymore & thats what everyone seems to treat him like ! people on dads side (his mom ) seems to disagree with me & everything i say ! i need my personal space & dont want the kid too comfortable with me ! but im the bad one

Not selfish at all if that isn't something you're comfortable with (which I wouldn't be on either side) your boyfriend should respect & understand that point blank

He gonna come from the couch like " I hate them , got me on the couch 😡😡 🔪🔪 " lol jk

@mommagi, Actually the courts allowed him She hates me lol ! she would not be okay with it trust me , & i would perfer my child to sleep on couch then on a bed i know he does private stuff with another women js. i mean its not like hes a 1 year old

he week understand later in sure but maybe let them have the bed next time

Maybe I look at it differently Bc my stepdaughter sleep w us but she's still 3 & I think I'm only okay with it because I know her mom hates me and I'm petty 😩

She comes here and tells me her mom said she can't be my friend so my heart smiles a little when we all sleep in bed together and be the family her mother will never have 😂😂😈😈 but at first he made her sleep in the couch alone because he thought I wouldn't be comfortable

Well another outlook would be that . He trust u enough to have his child around you . When you date someone with kids , & you guys become serious, that child should not feel like he or she is not wanted by the "step" parent .. I guess I view things differently I wouldn't be uncomfortable.. it's all about a lil compromise & going a little out ur comfort zone . & four year old is still a baby . Are u kidding me ?!

@mommagi, LMAOO HELLA PETTY ! idk I think its the whole boy part or something honestly the beds not that big & i am pregnant i need my space.. idk i told him he could just buy him a toddler bed& put it next to ours. Were going to be getting a two bedroom anyways .

I think that your going to have to learn to treat him the way you would treat your own child because of not he'll notice you treat him differently and resent you and that new baby. I grew up with my stepmom and my dad and they were married since I was 3 and she never treated me any differently. Would you send your child to sleep on the couch? My son is 9 and sleeps over with his dad and his gf and I went to jail over beating his girlfriends ass and was still mad as hell when I found out they put my son on an air mattress instead of the bed. I beleive my exact words were "Why don't y'all go sleep on the fucking air mattress!" I don't understand you saying you don't want the kid to be too comfortable around you. Your having a baby with his dad.

@rose51, we get along really good ! i like him just the whole part of sleeping in the same bed makes me feel a little weird ... hes not my kid & i dont feel thats my place. other than that everything else is kool... & I im not saying he aint but he goes to pre k & still has a bottle ... barley potty trained still in diapers i think hes too old for all that

Yeah that's what I'm saying @ceeasquared I can't wrap my head around that statement either .. I just saw how my mom was with my step siblings. She treated them like she gave birth to them .. she spoiled them more than me .. jk I was just a brat . Lol but my bf has two boys .. and if they wanna sleep with us shoot load up them bed .. & I know their mom hates me . I really don't give a shit .. I love & respect their father & because of that I love them . I just see it differently that's all ..

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Yeah boys are slower than girls sometimes . Some will mature and reach their milestone faster @aileenlove09

@rose51, @ceeasquared. When i say too comfortable i mean by him wanting to shower with me or stay in room when i change .. when it comes to my personal space . i love him & dont treat him im any bad way or form . theres just somethings we cant do together ? i mean I bring him to every ultrasound and always talk about him being a big brother & he gets happy . i take him to my family's house even when his dads not around & let him rub my belly almost like he is mine... just certain things i have boundaries on

I was in the same shoes ))) but he had baby girl. She slept 2 night in our house. I had a very serious conversation with my bf about it and he spoke with her ( she was 5) seriously and promised her a new bed and pink sheets as she ask. So we went in the same day and bought it for her. It was my experience . And in my opinion I would tell my bf the same go sleep with your child to another room and I wouldn't sleep with them.

nope.! not at all.

@aileenlove09 I think your totally justified.

@yulianna007, Yeah i told him we could go & buy one tomorrow but tonight they both have to go in living room . im just not comfortable with it thats all.

@reyesmomma, Thank you !

@aileenlove09 yea no problem.

I wasn't comfortable either. I feel you honey. ☺️

@aileenlove09, it's all good. You are doing the right thing .

@yulianna007, yeah i know ... just feel in the wrong a bit cause hes all mad now & isnt speaking to me .. i went shopping , cleaned , took his son to park & made dinner today & hes just treating me like shit

@alana_sunshine, He is 4 almost 5

He can kick you as well while he sleeping

no

Don't let him. It's not normal. I wouldn't even let my own child sleep in my bed unless they were sick and in that case one parent will be in a different bed. It's not healthy in my opinion for the relationship. My fiancée's son pulled this. I didn't budge on the matter but he was supportive. Stand your ground.

if you're not comfortable with it then he has to understand. in our house we have random nights where we let our son sleep in our bed. we actually like the coziness of it but everyone is different. is there a sofa bed in the living room or are they going to sleep on the couch?

btw, I have a stepson too, but he's not allowed to stay over because his mom is a bitch lol. but if he were to I'd understand why he would want him to sleep in the bed but again its YOUR boundaries and what you are comfortable with.