Suggestions Please?!
So, I got the opportunity to take a paid years internship in Philadelphia but I no longer live there. (Not far by car but it's a lengthy trip on public transport.) Since, my SO and I take public transportation, it will limit our time to weekends. It's something I really want to pursue and usually you cant get into this kind of internship unless you know somebody or you're currently working on a degree in that field. My SO doesn't agree with it though and he insists I find a regular job close by; but I can't get this off my mind and I don't want a job that will keep me unhappy... Besides that, I'm living the life of a house wife. Not that there's anything wrong with being one, but I've never wanted this kind of life for myself. (I refuse daycare because I've read/heard so many bad things about them) Back in Philly, I have an aunt that's a stay at home parent who wouldn't mind taking care of my DD. Everything could work out but the only thing that's preventing me is my SO... Am I being selfish here? All I can think about is how he already has a good job and how much I want to work my way into my own. I don't want to play as a maid and wait 5years until I can finally do something for myself. Every part of me is saying "try to convince him" or "just go".
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If you adjusted your timing, could it be shorter? Like, leave earlier to beat the rush or try to find express trains/buses? Or would something like Uber or those rent a day cars be cheaper? I'm guessing it'd make it really tough if you stayed with your aunt during the week? (Assuming she'd even have the room for a guest and a baby.)
I don't know, I'd do it if I didn't have to worry about childcare. This is a great opportunity that as you said doesn't come along often. The commute will suck, and after a few months if you find you just can't do it, at least you tried. For a while I commuted to NYC for school, but with work it was hard. I didn't do it again after that semester.
If you dont do it, you will always be thinking about it trust me... the what if.... naaa do WHATEVER MAKES U HAPPY! he is your SO he should support anything that makes you happy! How long is the commute by train btw?
Do it!!! Don’t ever let ANYONE stop you from doing what YOU love and want to do! Fuck that! I went to school on the weekends, my child’s father wasn’t happy oh well 🤷🏻♀️ I still went & I finished and I am soooo glad I did! You are not being selfish, he is!!!!
need suggestions....
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@nomli I'd move back into my mom's for the year. She has the space for the both of us. My aunt is a stay at home mother and loves babies so she'd be willing to take care of my DD while I'm away especially when payment will be offered. As for the commute, I'd have to take a bus, a trolley, a train, and another bus after that. The public transport schedule where I live now is really spaced out too. Nothing like the convenience of the city. Sigh.