So my boyfriend is 25 I am 30 and he is a bit controlling and i dont know how to express to him when he is doing it I…

@nvrendingstry86, love your response and I can be a shoulder or a ear anytime.🙌🏼💯❤️

@celesta.frazier seems like you're independent to me. You're not asking him to pay your bills. He's acting like a total brat. His parents didn't teach him to respect women. He is nobody to belittle you like that.

He has no right to talk to you like that. He's not your Father, he's your partner and he should act like it.

God I swear we share shoes! I'm in the same boat without the age diff. Any advice won't be good enough it's up to you to make changes in your life that make you happy, put you before him. If he hates you for that....create a back up plan and try to move on. I know easier said than done. Self appreciation overcomes insecurity. And I'm a hypocrit.

@msjt07, that would mean a lot

There is a lot wrong with this situation, but, the long and short of it is you need to leave.

@celesta.frazier you are doing a lot working going to school taking care of your kids and trying to be supportive gf to your bf he is trying to be controlling is what it sounds like you are not doing nothing wrong don't let him make you feel like you are if you ever need to talk email me I'm divorced as well but now in another relationship too

U seem like u need to reevaluate your relationship. Especially moving in with a bf that isn't in love with u

That's why too much control

@msjt07, sorry I wrote so much I just dont have many friends and he didn’t want me to keep my social media so I got rid of them so I don’t really associate with many people

Now he’s a very head strong person and he’s an only child, who was spoiled and takes to his mom probably 3 times a day sometimes (she lives outta state) he was raised with a very supportive family than I had and he says that’s the difference because I was raised different I don’t see things as he does. I’ve just had a bad past but I’ve over come, got my life right with God and I am truly trying to be a good woman but I guess I’m tryna be a wife to a boyfriend. But I thought that maybe he would be proud to have a woman who doesn’t try to run the show, and is a great housekeeper and mother and all the things but apparently I’m not a go getter or independent enough for him... only i dont know wtf that means

I work, I pay bills on time, my kids are taken care of, and I go to school. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me

I just do work study with my college and that’s making literally minimum wage. We have a rough background. And I wasn’t raised by my mother, my grandmother raised me and I raised one of my siblings as a teen and had my first and second daughter in my twenties with my ex husband. Now that I am with him...( left my husband for him because I just wasn’t happy) and I guess this is my karma for leaving a place where I had it made but I wasn’t thriving for me and wasn’t really happy anymore my marriage got boring.

Yes you should stand up for yourself or he will con to talk to u that way your a woman not a child and he's your mate so that's how he should talk to you as a adult .Do you work?