katbeseau7
Mommakat
Hi everyone. I just joined hoping that by doing so, other moms could help me get my bearings. I have stayed extremely calm and non stressed my entire pregnancy to this point. However over the last few weeks I have had horrible contractions and pelvic pain. This is my first almost full term pregnancy and so Im extra careful to make sure baby is always ok. I've been to labor and delivery 3 times. Last night with such horrible contractions I was positive that I was going to be seeing my baby girl within hours. Doctors however found that even though I was having horrible pain i was not dilating further and sent me home. Along with all of this my husbands family is fighting us because they believe the whole family should be welcome immediately after my birth. I disagree with this and feel it should be time for just my husband, I and our first baby. Are there others out there that have had family not understand and be cruel. My husband doesn't understand what I'm going through and I just feel so blue and alone. Any advice other mommas?
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The decision is ultimately yours. We don't allow people to visit at the hospital other then friends who are helping with our other kids. Those few days after birth are needed to recover, bond with baby and as a family, and get my head straight so I can get home and resume mom duties. After that people may visit but they may not invite themselves to my house and stay forever, they're expected to be helpful and make themselves useful. You need to have a good heart to heart with hubby and explain as calmly and logically as possible what your reasons are.
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Thank you ladies
I would ask the hospital you're staying at if they could not give your room information out to anyone inquiring, and if there's any thing else that could be done to prevent visitors.
Just tell your family one final time that you want to have those first 2-3 days alone with your newborn, but that they are welcome to visit once you are all settled in at home.
Then just distance yourself from anyone being negative about it for the remainder of your pregnancy.
The decision is ultimately yours. We don't allow people to visit at the hospital other then friends who are helping with our other kids. Those few days after birth are needed to recover, bond with baby and as a family, and get my head straight so I can get home and resume mom duties. After that people may visit but they may not invite themselves to my house and stay forever, they're expected to be helpful and make themselves useful. You need to have a good heart to heart with hubby and explain as calmly and logically as possible what your reasons are.
The best advice is to sit down and really communicate what your going through, how you feel with your hubby.