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*I'm just looking for others perspectives* I want to have my son circumcised, my husband who is uncircumcised does not…

*I'm just looking for others perspectives*

I want to have my son circumcised, my husband who is uncircumcised does not want our son to get the procedure. I don't know much about the difference because I'm a woman, we don't have a religious preference to do it, just I'm just curious about what others plan on doing for their son!

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camdensmama

AmandaВ ожидании первенца

I'll be getting my son circumcised. Only really for hygiene related reasons. I know I'll keep him nice and clean. But honestly. Some teenage boys aren't very hygienic. Even when they're taught to be. And that alone can cause health issues! And besides what 13 year old boy wants mommy and daddy reminding them to clean there big parts extra well because they extra skin will house bacteria!

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@shortiebs, I'll have to watch it when I'm off.

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shortiebs

brittanyВ ожидании первенца

This video pretty much sums it up lol ссылка

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@shortiebs, I never had the foreskin be a problem for us. Maybe size has something to do with it. Not sure. Yes, my sons were both numbed with a needle. My oldest son even slept through his! 😂

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shortiebs

brittanyВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, here is a good study. ссылка every study i found was neutral. But more tmi on the sex topic, for me the foreskin got in the way because it was softer( kinda like the study says) but it depends on the partner. I found an interesting article that said most doctors dont use pain relief so ill be sure to ask about that. But i think matching the fathers experience is a good decision maker since pros and cons are equal

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missing209user

missing209userМама сына-младенца

@lala_0412, haha okay whatever you say . it wasn't directly towards you sorry u took it that way hun;) bye

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@shortiebs, lmao!! 😂 my boyfriend is uncircumcised and trust me none of that was an issue his whole life! Probably TMI, but best sex I've ever had, every time! 😊

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jenkobe8348

jenkobe8348Мама сына (4 года), беременна (39 нед.)

@shortiebs, yes I agree..... I feel the same way about my boys

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@CJ smommy, and argument? You came for me. Like I said previously, she asked for opinions and I gave mine and also chatted with a few ladies on theirs. You came on here to tell me something we all know. I'm not going to go back in forth with you. Have a great night.

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shortiebs

brittanyВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, i think my biggest factor is his future sex life. (Eww i dont even wanna think of it now lol) he wont remember the procedure so the pain im not too worried. Like you said he can get infection either way. I just want him to have a good sexual experience when he is ready and a good body image and confidence

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missing209user

missing209userМама сына-младенца

@lala_0412, first if girl no one was arguing i stating the fact people could sit here and say this and that but at the end of the day no one will listen that's why I just don't state my opinion cause girls like u take it the wrong way and try to start an argument

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@jenkobe8348, I'm not judging. Just curious behind your reasoning. Like I said my boys are as well and my boyfriend is not and he's the one that made me think different. Just wondering what you meant.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@cjsmommy, of course. Our conversation is on our preferences. I knew there would be one ignorant person to come say something like that. But you also cannot give misleading facts. That is why I stated I did it before I KNEW. I'm not going to argue because you were simply not in the conversation before but simply came on here to say "what people do with their kids is their choice."... YES, we all already know that.

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jenkobe8348

jenkobe8348Мама сына (4 года), беременна (39 нед.)

@lala_0412, yes I no that's the reason. But personally I did look at my bd penis funny when I noticed he wasn't circumcised.... I understand it does not bother a lot of women but it does bother me. So I wouldn't want that for my boys..... I'm not judging anyone else who chooses not to circumcise there kids.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@shortiebs, lol. Yes we have! But infections come either way. Yes. Cleanliness is the main key.

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missing209user

missing209userМама сына-младенца

@lala_0412, oh well people will do what they please with their children people can sit here all they want talking about why they did it and why they didn't people have their own opinion. but at the end of the day they aren't going to listen to you cause its their choice and their kids

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missing209user

missing209userМама сына-младенца

@lala_0412, oh well people will do what they please with their children people can sit here all they want talking about why they did it and why they didn't people have their own opinion. but at the end of the day they aren't going to listen to you cause its their choice and their kids

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shortiebs

brittanyВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, infections yes. But sexual reasons it can go either way. Ive talked to some men who feel embarrassed. Also ive been with some men that even when penis is fully erect they still have to pull skin back . Every man is different, the sexual aspect wont matter until he is a teen or adult. I think most worry about cleanliness. Once he is in preschool he will have to keep his own genitals clean and im pretty sure we have all known or dated some stinky, dirty men lol

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@kmelton12, I don't blame him. There's no reason.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@jenkobe8348, do you know that is the reason? My hospital does it free. Most people don't because of preference it's not usually a money issue. Although I would NOT pay $325. That's ridiculous. Looked at funny? What do you mean? Men don't judge other men's penises and women that are educated know the difference between circumcised and uncircumcised.

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jenkobe8348

jenkobe8348Мама сына (4 года), беременна (39 нед.)

I'm paying the $325 dollars to get my son circumcised... My bd is not circumcised and personally I no his mom just couldn't afford it and didn't care..... He's the only uncircumcised man I've been with and is wouldn't want my sons to be looked at funny for not having it done... Both my sons will be circumcised

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kmelton12

Kat

Oh my goodness, so many responses! I want to get it done for the cleanliness part but my husband is not budging.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@shortiebs, once again those problems come from uncleanliness.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@morgans_mommie, yes, it is numbed before the process so I agree. If they want it done they should be able to make that decision. I made mine when I wasn't educated about the process. Just doing it because everyone else was. Sad on my part.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, that is true.

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shortiebs

brittanyВ ожидании первенца

Well, he will need his penis for intercourse and urination. Circumsizing him will not negatively affect either activity but leaving him uncircumsized can cause uti and also issues with future sex partners. These are the reasons im for circumsizing. I dont know any man who is negatively affected by his circumsized penis but i know uncircumsized who have various issues

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@ra ter4414, @mariahkillen yea, that is something that has to be taught. Just like little girls should be properly cleaning the vagina. It actually desensitizes the penis when you do it. Men that are not circumcised have better feeling in their penis.

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missing58user

missing58userВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, also done research and it is NOT less painful for an infant than an adult.. Just cause they forget the pain doesn't mean it can't be traumatizing. That's just an argument I don't like. If it's gonna hurt just as badly I would rather him tell me, even if he's only 12, that that's what he WANTS and we will get it done.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@morgans_mommie, I agree completely and feel horrible for doing it to my sons.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

Plus most men it hurts to pull back the skin most of the time.

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tater4414

EternityВ ожидании первенца

I would say it's more of a cleanliness thing. when they are young they won't keep it clean at end I even know of grown men who wont. I know anyone can get infections but it's not as high in cut men as it is in uncut men

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missing58user

missing58userВ ожидании первенца

I, personally, think it should be their choice since it's their body. My husband disagrees and we haven't talked much about it. But I don't think it's fair to make that kind of life-changing decision for another human being.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

Yeah that's why! Because it had more cleaning to it. Not all men know how to clean it. If you make sure you clean and pull back the skin then it's not really an issue at all

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@xoxo512070, he has infections because she's not pulling back his foreskin and cleaning it. My son is circumcised and he got an infection from me not taking care of it so cleanliness is the key.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

Anyone can get infected. Not just uncut.hahah

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, I'm not saying it's gonna cause problems. The men in my family are uncut um just saying that's one of the reason people do it

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missing55user

missing55user

I can vouch for the whole possibility of the skin ripping if you aren't circumcised. I know THREE guys who it's happened to!!! @mariahkillen lol I agree with you 100% it has been proven that it is cleaner and there's less chance of infection and std's when you ARE circumcised. My son is circumcised and I'm very glad I did it. I can't imagine having to pull his skin down and clean it there constantly, I mean he's one- sometimes poop gets on his Peter and that would just be horrible to have to clean in there! And some moms don't clean it right which is why it gets infected. Also you have to teach your son to clean it, and have you met boys??? They forget everything! It's just so much easier having them circumcised and I honestly see it as a benefit.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

@lala_0412, I know any unprotected sex is a risk. But it is proven to have a higher chance when uncut. It's the first thing they teach us in school. When there is skin it can trap in more bacteria and hold it there for longer periods of time cause issues.

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xoxo512070

xoxo512070Мама сына (9 лет), беременна (37 нед.)

My fiance is, my first son is and so will my second son when he comes in October, I have a friend who has a son who is not and she has nothing but problems with his, he has constant infections and it's painful

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@mariahkillen, it does not. Any unprotected sex is a risk. Circumcision has nothing to do with it.

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

I'm not saying that it's gonna cause a problem I'm saying it does infact raise the chances of it happening. @lala_0412

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

Okay I'm a medical student and it is proven to help reduce the chance of std with unprotected sex down the road because they skin can trap bacteria.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

@mariahkillen, that's not true. They have proven that to not be true. My doctors for each boy have told me that.

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missing209user

missing209userМама сына-младенца

its usually what the dad is . my son is because is daddy is and my sons older brother is. but it is really good to get it done way easier to clean

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mariahkillen

mariah killenВ ожидании первенца

When a male is uncircumcised they have a wayyyyy higher chance of infection and stds and ripping and discomfort. It's healthier to get them cut.

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missing469user

missing469userМама троих детей

I did it with both of my sons. I wish I didn't. I only did it with the second because the first had it done but now thinking on it, your born with what your born with. There's no reason to remove it. None. Wish I was smarter about it.

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babyaraceli

Araceli

I plan on doing it . It costs money but totally worth it .

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