I just realized that my mil tries to push people's buttons to see what she can get away with saying. It's really subtle until she feels like you won't react at all then she just just goes overboard, I thought I was crazy for a minute but last night over dinner she told me how she did the same to her sons friend..then I knew that she is just a drama filled person..or who knows why she does it...but I don't give her the satisfaction of a response..I make her explain what she is trying to communicate and none of it goes over my head anymore..ugh..do I have to be on my toes everytime I'm around this woman..sheeesh