I'm having stepmother issues… I'm not even considered a stepmom because the father of my child is still technically married to his ex… They started the divorce proceedings 2 1/2 years ago… But I've been in the boys life for almost 2 years… I met my guy after he had dated other people… I was not the reason for their split. And now I'm in a situation where I am raising these two boys 40% of the time… And I'm expected to treat them as my own kids sometimes… But not care about parent teacher conferences and other parent stuff. I'm in charge of homework and academics… But I'm not filled in on what's going on with their education routine at school… Complications or achievements. I'm not on the class dojo… And their biological parents are not filling me in on everything. I'm expected to support financially more than 50% of what is necessary to run the household… But I'm supposed to back off somewhere… I don't know how to. It's all or nothing. The boys are so far behind academically… Almost two grades!!… And I know I can help and I have the desire to help… But i'm invading territory. My significant other is telling me that he can't reason with me… And that that's all he has to say to me tonight. I'm pretty stressed out with work and other issues, along with this. I want to do what's in the best interest of the kids… But my personality is over the top. The biological mom's parenting style is very inconsistent… And I don't know what to do. I wish I could just watch them fail and not care… But I care about these kids… They are going to be the brothers to my little one that is coming very soon. How do I just sit back and watch them fail and not show interest in their future?
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@cubanese, But do you ever watch his son by yourself?... I've been taking care of them solo... Sometimes days at a time... For about a year and a half already. I feel like it's a little different... And these boys are 9 years & 10.5 years.
@cubanese, true... I just feel like I should find a happy medium... Someway... Somehow... It just really hurts to have to watch them suffer.
Do just that. I'd pullback from supporting them in every aspect and demand that they take care of their own responsibilities as parents 100%.
That's completely disrespectful and unfair to you. What's it doing to the kids is sad and also showing them you don't matter.
Good luck hun. Being apart of a step family is so hard. But it doesn't have to be. @lonna_dee,
@cubanese, I tried to say that... It's all or nothing... But I feel that's just immature.
Thank you @raquely, I'm sure I'm also just being super emotional too... But I just feel so defeated and alone and frustrated and sad.
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